Tang Dynasty poet Jia Dao Zeng Said: ten years grind a sword. For me, these ten years, I have not ground myself into a sword, but ground myself into a shield. This shield was made for the children, for the family, and for his own heart.
All I share in WeChat circle of friends are beautiful pictures, many people will ask me, you are very happy every day ah! I said I only share good things. I have eaten the bitterness, had been tired, had been wronged, shed tears is not out to let others see.
In this decade of housewife life, I have been very lost.
Once, I take two treasure in the area, there is an old man ask me next to: “are you the babysitter of the child?” I said, “I’m mom.” The old man turned to his neighbor and said, “I wouldn’t let my daughter look after the baby at home. It’s no use looking after the baby at a young age!”
The old man’s words made my heart surge. I was going to put up with it. After all, I should respect the old man. But I thought he had reached the end of my patience, so I said to him, “Grandpa, I don’t see any shame in staying home with the kids. It’s your daughter’s choice to go to work. It’s my choice to stay home and watch the baby. What’s there to compare it to?”
Any woman who has ever been a mother will understand how difficult it is to raise a child. What’s more, stay-at-home moms like us not only have to look after the kids, but also do the housework. I’m often too busy to wash my face, let alone make up or match my clothes. In order to see the child convenient, perennial sports clothes, sports shoes, all day long dirty face.
In the community with children, most are elderly, stay-at-home mothers are rare. So there are a lot of jokes that make me laugh and cry. I am often asked, “Are you your child’s grandmother or grandmother?” “Or” Are you a babysitter?
I just want to know, “Can’t mom stay at home with the kids?”
Looking at the woman next to her throwing the children to her mother-in-law, dressed up to go to work in a luxury car, then look at their own looks of a yellow face, the heart is really very unbalanced. In addition, my husband was very busy, and the work at home did not help at all, so I complained more and more, and the whole person was anxious, self-contemptuous and confused.
Fortunately, my son is smart and sensible to give me hope, accompany them grow up a little, I think no matter how hard it is also worth it. But I knew there was something wrong with my mind and I had to find a breakthrough.
Two people for four seasons
My mother, who is taking the kids with me, introduced me to yoga. Sister Ling is my yoga teacher, teaching Kundalini yoga. After two years of practicing yoga, I stopped complaining and did everything seriously in my life. Then I picked up calligraphy and English, and gradually regained my confidence.
In these seven years, Ling Jie has been my teacher and confidant. Life is not easy, every time I encounter trouble, or the mood is gloomy, I will run to ling sister there to find some sunshine. Imperceptibly, I need to find the sun less and less time, because his heart is planted a small sun.
These years, we progress together, encourage together, has been beautiful to live. We don’t make up or wear fancy clothes. Our beauty comes from the heart. As the yoga guru Saguru put it:
To a housewife, if she sings or plays music or cooks — or if she just loves her children — she lives in great beauty, like a flower. That’s good enough.
Always believe in a good day
Now, Every day I open a happy heart to do the housework, keep the home window bright and clean, every meal has delicious food, serious code word in spare time.
Some people say that being a housewife is the most vulnerable group in this society and the most dangerous profession. Because I have enough confidence and confidence in my heart, I will also make fun of myself in this way.
But I knew in my heart that we were happy housewives, that we had no occupation, no income, but that we were doing the same important work, and that we were living out our lives.
Today, the sky fluttered light snow, we four women gathered in ling sister “Park Yunshan room”, around the stove in the afternoon, we talked about the growth of these years together experience. Ling elder sister said: “Someone asked me, so many years, you have no work and no money, how can you be so confident?” Ling Said, “My confidence comes from the fact that I am a perfect housewife.”
Around the stove, cooking wine in the afternoon
In fact, all married women are the same, as long as we do the following, we will achieve a stable happiness.
- We should be ourselves and be a woman.
Keep your home clean and always have a good meal on the table. Don’t complain, it’s a woman’s job.
- Have a sense of self and an independent spiritual world.
Read, or play sports, have your own hobbies, even if a person will not be alone. Grow up in my spiritual world.
- Love your family with all your heart.
Never complain about the other half is not good, since you choose him to accept. Only husband and wife love, in order to give children a warm family environment.
- Love me, love my dog, love your in-laws. Never put your partner in a bind over your in-laws.
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