Lying at the bottom of the cliff, Wang was more inspired than ever.
She first thought of the man who pushed her down — her husband Yu Dong. Now, Ms. Wang prefers to call him her “would-be ex-husband.” “Go to hell.” Wang ling clearly remembers that he bit his teeth and pushed her, who was three and a half months pregnant, off a 34-meter-high cliff. At that moment she was convinced that he wanted to kill himself.
Wang Ling felt no pain, but his left leg was broken, the blood was flowing, and he tried to get up, but he had no strength. At 8 a.m. in Thailand’s Paden National Park, sunrise is past and few visitors are available. For ten minutes she called, “Help me!” There was no answer.The blood ran down his throat and he couldn’t shout out.
As time went by, she knew that she would probably not survive detection and would bleed to death. The smell of blood would even attract wild dogs in the forest. The experience of the past 30 years, those who have no time to do, suddenly, like a movie flashed through my mind.
It was June 9, 2019.
The king of the cliff. Sitting in a nanjing coffee shop a year and two months later, Ms. Wang said that as she lay at the bottom of a cliff, she thought she would die of loneliness and despair.
She was thin and petite in front of her, wearing a white flowered shirt, black slacks and leaning on a cane in her right hand. Once seated, she reached into her phone and fiddled with her sweat-soaked brown wig, which had been cut too short in the hospital and which she now wears everywhere she goes.
In the accident, she looked like a porcelain doll who had been broken, “broken all over”. The body parts were glued together by steel plates, and there are still six of them. Left clavicle, left arm, left knee… Deep shallow scars, climbing on white skin. Her broken toe wasn’t comfortable, so she bent down to get a tissue to “reinforce” it and “make it feel better.”
During the interview, she remained upright with her legs extended forward — a year after her recovery. Her knees still don’t fully bend, and she needs to be held from her back when she goes to the bathroom. This day sister went first, she insisted on a person to go, holding the toilet paper box, half bent to solve. When she came out, she said, she had improved again — the same stubbornness that had accompanied her to start her own business, to go through the turmoil of her marriage, to sow the seeds of tragedy early on, and to breed the hope of a desperate rebirth.
She was calm and gentle, except for tears when she spoke of her children. Speaking of the would-be ex-husband, he also smiled.
Late at night, she left with the flower and insisted on walking down the stairs by herself. When crossing the street, she talked about the recent murder of his wife in Hangzhou. She said, “Did you notice that so many cases of killing his wife succeeded in the past? Only I survived and I should live a good life and cherish everything.
The following is wang Ling’s statement:
The last time I felt particularly sad was on August 5th. This day, may not forget to the death.
On this day last year, my baby had an induced labor. He was in my belly for five and a half months. Five and a half months old children are humanoid and can survive up to six months. But I can’t wait. There was only one of us alive then. I was falling all over the place, not keeping up with my nutrition, and the result was a blood collapse.
I was in labor for 12 hours that day. I was in the delivery room for 20 minutes. It was smooth. So I thought he was really good and didn’t torture me, you know?
Today, I can sit here, with the air conditioner, and drink orange juice, all thanks to my child. Without his help, there would be no me now.
When I first found out that I was pregnant, my husband gave me a cold response and said that it was ok to have a baby, but I had great hope that he would make us more mature and better. Indeed, my husband stopped arguing with me, asking me for money or going out to gamble. He cooked for me every day, accompanied me to have a birth, met clients and took good care of me. We also discussed, in the future wedding, let the baby to carry the wedding dress.
Looking back now, he might have killed at that time, and he didn’t think there was any need to quarrel.
Soon after, he bought an insurance policy for each of us, covering $310,000 in accidental death to the spouse. I was happy. I thought he was responsible, not just thinking about himself.
On May 30, 2019, we flew to Thailand, intending to decorate the house in Bangkok to welcome the arrival of new life.
The next day, my husband proposed a trip to Ubon Province, where he said there were cliffs to watch the sunrise. I agreed. He said it was better to go to Chiang Mai, and so on after two days, and said not to go to Chiang Mai, to another house for two days. On his way back to Bangkok, he again offered to go to Ubon.
At that time, I did not notice anything unusual, only in hindsight, that trip to Thailand, he turned down all the party invitations, return tickets have not been booked, said “no hurry”; He was absent-minded all the time. People who usually slept until ten o ‘clock got up at five or six every day, saying that he could not sleep; I was also taken to the cliff heights, which I think is not appropriate after surveying the terrain.
After arriving in Ubon on June 7, we went to Paden Park. I thought my husband was looking back and forth. He said, “I’ve never seen this kind of natural scenery before, so I must take a look around and see the sunrise next time.”
Shortly before 6 a.m. on the 9th, we reached the edge of the cliff to watch the sunrise. The clouds were so thick that the sun did not appear until about eight o ‘clock, when more than a dozen tourists began to leave. My husband said he would take me to see the frescoes of ancient humans 3,000 years ago. We walked along the cliff without seeing anything.
Suddenly he asked me, “Do you have any regrets in your life?” I said no.
On the way back, he hugged me from behind, kissed me on the cheek, and then gave me a big push. At that moment I was shocked and knew why he had brought me here.
Photo of Yu Dong and Wang Ling
Death and life
Perhaps it was the will of the mountain god, in the process of falling, a tree protruding from the cliff was interrupted and saved me.
Every half hour I woke up from my coma was a torment, because I was sure that no one would find me and that I would end up there for no apparent reason. By the time it was found, it would have been a mummified corpse with children in its belly.
Besides, there was a big forest at the bottom of the cliff, and I smelled so bloody that if wild dogs came and ate me at night, I might look at myself alive… This is the ultimate punishment. You might as well fall to your death.
The perimeter of the cliff. I also have a lot of regrets: I have not been a good mother, not good filial piety parents, career has a lot of territory has not opened up, because work is too busy I and my friends repeatedly missed appointments… All of this is over, and I’m waiting to die in silence.
Then I heard footsteps, the rhythmic trotting. I feel the whole world is bright.
At 8:40, a lost tourist found me in a coma. Do you think this is a little angel sent by god?
Five or six paramedics surrounded me and bandaged me up, and all of a sudden the pain came on. It was like dying every second. I was sent to a nearby aid station and then to the biggest hospital in Ubon, where I was tossed around, aching my bones and feeling like I was in heaven after being anestheted. Four or five hours, and if the baby isn’t strong enough to bleed, I’m going to die in the middle.
Landing on my left side, I fractured my left thigh, left arm, hip and knee, got skin bruises, rubbed a layer of skin off my right eyelid, and nearly lost my eye. I spent eight days in the ICU, doing bone surgery after bone surgery. One knife cut directly from the left calf to the waist, and the whole person was peeled off.
Wang ling was taken to hospital with multiple fractures.
Wang Ling’s stitched leg wound. After waking up, his body was filled with tubes, unable to speak, only his right hand moved, several times unable to support and fainted. The doctor was worried that if the baby became unstable, my life would be in danger, but he kept his chin up.
At that time, many people on the Internet advised me not to have the child, saying that his father was such a wicked man, who killed his wife and son, and worried about the social pressure the child would face in the future. I never debated whether or not to have him. It is unfair for him to be deprived of the right to be born because of the interests between his parents.
My only concern was the impact on the child’s health from the massive injection of morphine, drugs and radiation.
But the child could not be saved. It’s like you’re reaching for a star, and then at that moment, it’s daylight, and you’re gone.
Get to know each other
Up to now, I can’t figure out whether our acquaintance was carefully designed, whether I was just the chosen one, or whether he just moved his mind while walking and looking.
We met at a gathering of friends in Thailand on May 19, 2017.
More than ten people came that day. Far away, he took the initiative to talk to me, and then moved to my side, to add me WeChat. When I asked him what he did for a living, he joked that he was here to retire. Ask him to do goods, he said not to do. I thought to myself, if we don’t do business, add anything. But he kept begging for more, saying, “Add more.” And then I add it.
After marriage he admitted to me that he had actually seen me in a friend’s shop before the party, had asked about me, and had taken a fancy to me.
At that time, I was already a small celebrity in the Chinese community in Bangkok.
I was born and raised in Nanjing, and my parents were ordinary office workers. I went to college in Yangzhou and majored in business administration. After graduation, I joined an insurance company and made a list every day. It was so boring that I only worked for three or four months. After that, I started my career as an assistant in a tourism company. Two years later, I was sent to Thailand to develop business. I had many jobs and worked with many people every day.
When I was 27 years old, my contacts, experience and experience had accumulated to a certain extent, So I decided to go it alone and take a chance. Wait until the age of 30 has not made a career, then obediently back to Nanjing, no longer toss.
I mainly do foreign trade, start from the self-employed daigou, step by step to build their own network, registered companies. Meet customers, run the factory, run the channel every day, only sleep three or four hours, no time to socialize. Although you are under high pressure every day, you will feel happy, and you will find that you are getting better and better, more and more recognized by the industry, and you will feel a great sense of achievement.
With busyness comes loneliness. Before I went to Thailand, I fell in love twice and both of them broke up amicably. Now they are on good terms with me and I came to see me after the accident. The latter part is because I want to go to Thailand to fight, but the other side doesn’t want to and feels at ease in China.
Most Of the Chinese who went to Bangkok lived in families, but few of them went out to start their own businesses. Most of the people I meet are married men. Every time I ask my friends to set me up with someone, they always say, “What kind of person would be good enough for you? You must be so demanding.” What a mistake!
Oddly enough, no one was chasing me either. In the country there are also from time to time to chase. In one of the most dramatic cases, a restaurant owner’s son was on duty and insisted on adding a WeChat to my check.
How to go abroad, flirtation all have no. I often joke, maybe I that peach blossom tree did not water, died, a flower is not, how no one see me?
My parents couldn’t understand my choice. They don’t think you can live for three or five thousand dollars a month when a girl goes off to do business in a foreign country and comes back and finds a job? I said no, each man had his own taste, and three or five thousand dollars would not show me what I could do.
So you can’t tell them what’s going on.
I feel more and more lonely. When I succeed, I have no one to share my happiness. When I fail, I have no one to talk to. When in doubt, there is no one to discuss, can only think night and night.
At this moment, he appeared.
Yu Dong is by the sea.
A scam
At first, I was not impressed by him. After the party, he kept texting me and asking me out, but I said no.
A few days later, My Thai book fell over to my friend, who brought it for me and took me to school on the way. At 9:30 p.m., after class, he showed up downstairs. At that time, I didn’t think he was a bad guy, but it was a pleasant surprise.
He walked me to the gate of the community and left. The person that has crooked idea, can say so late go up your home to have a look, visit next. He didn’t. That makes me think he’s pretty good.
Less than a week after we met, he wrote a small essay to express his love to me, which was exactly what I wanted: he said that in his 30 years of life, he had never seen such a person who touched his heart. He had a strong presentiment that I would be his wife, and he must marry me and love and care me all his life. It ends with “Life as I saw you first”.
This one has really soared in popularity. You think, now the boy, there are a few will say responsible words to you, most hold the idea of step by step. I would have thought he was a responsible guy who was going to get married, not just play with you.
At that time, he introduced himself that his business failed in China and his friend invited him to Thailand to investigate the project and start a business together, which made me feel that he was an active entrepreneur and the same kind of person as me. He also said that his mother was a salesman in a grinding mill in Huaiyin, Jiangsu province, earning more than one million yuan a year and that the family was very rich. He was also very rich, wearing all kinds of famous brands and grabbing the bill for dinner. After the accident, I learned that he actually owed too much money in China, and the underworld came to collect debts. In December 2016, he went to Thailand, where his expenses were all depended on credit card overdraft and online loan.
But at the time, all I could see was the brilliance of him: disciplined, in great shape; Gentleman, will take care of people, your cup just drip, his napkin has been handed over; He was emotionally intelligent, a good talker, we chatted well, shared many similar interests, agreed with me on everything I said, listened to my confusion patiently, and offered advice — exactly what I wanted.
Yu Dong is keen on bodybuilding. After knowing each other for two weeks, I relented and said let’s give it a try. I didn’t expect him to take the house back right away and move it to my place. I don’t think so. He said he couldn’t live a minute without me, and I thought he really loved me.
Fall in love a month or so, once he let slip that for a long time in the dark place without the sun. I asked where it was. He interrupted him. Was he ever in prison? “Do I look like a criminal?” he asked. The tone was so firm that I thought I was overthinking it.
The next day he wooed me in a flurry of proposals. Every day from morning till night only one thing, let’s get married, you are the right one, why should we wait? If you had not caught me, you would probably never have met the one you loved… Every day sweet words, repeated brainwashing.
I think it’s too soon. At my pace, we should get together for a year or two before getting married. He said, a man must be impulsive for love once in his life. You refused yours, he begged his.
During this time, he confessed his “history” : when he was 19 years old, he helped his friends to pull things, but it was not the stolen goods, he was involved in the robbery, and served eight years in prison — only after the accident did I know that he wanted to rob money, committed crimes voluntarily, and had been fined and detained for theft and disturbance. After be released from prison, his mother premised to get terminally ill, want to embrace grandson, force him and girl of a country close date, he agreed in order to make filial piety. After marriage they were not compatible and separated two years later.
I was shocked at that time, he coaxed me, that is what happened before I knew you, my former wife did not have half a share of love, just a piece of filial piety, from now on, only love you one person, we hand in hand after the age of 30 years old life, the previous wipe the SLATE clean… He transferred custody of his children to his ex-wife to prove a break with his previous marriage.
After proposing for a week, he bought two plane tickets straight home. After returning home, I called every day to ask if I had thought about it. I said no, it was too hard to say. My parents would never accept it. He said that don’t tell parents, first steal out the household register. I said no, it was too risky.
So he came to me and said, “I haven’t seen you for three days. I miss you so much. You must be my wife. I lost my head and went to get it.
On July 15, after knowing each other for less than two months, we got the license. On the way to the Civil Affairs Bureau that day, I said to myself, don’t open the door, don’t open the door. My head was buzzing after I got it.
I’m very stable. Getting married is the only adventure of my life.
At that time, his business failure, money lost, a poor boy. He said we could work together to supply you with the wedding ring.
I don’t care much about the car or the house. He is willing to give me a home, saying that he will build his home wherever I develop. That is what moves me the most.
To tell you the truth, I never suspected him before we got married. He’s too well disguised. Sometimes he said he was going to inspect the project, but I was too busy to follow him. We only have two mutual friends, and we both broke up with him during the relationship, and there is no way to verify his past.
From childhood to adulthood, I contact with people are very good, did not experience cheating, so did not move to that aspect of mind.
rupture
Marriage is more sweet at first. He said that the project he had inspected was lost. If he hadn’t married you, he would definitely have gone back to China. I think he has sacrificed a lot for me. I love him so much to see him every day, like a god.
Two people at the beginning of the sweet time. However, in the second month of our marriage, we began to quarrel over money.
I give him 20,000 yuan every month, but he thinks it’s not enough to spend, so he asks me to lend him some money. In the beginning, three or five thousand, borrow will pay back. More borrow more after beginning not to return, say his bank card owes money too much, be swallowed. I was a little angry. He can not borrow from me here, in my name to find a neighbor to borrow, but also steal my WeChat, alipay on the money, steal the company’s money, every time thousands of tens of thousands of have. At that time also noisy, after noisy, discover a leak to plug a place.
He loves my food, So I have no time to cook, so I opened a Chinese restaurant and left it to him. He felt that there were too many trifles and he was not willing to do it. If I give him another job, he doesn’t do it either. Every day, he plays games, gambles and spends money recklessly. Sometimes, he buys clothes worth tens of thousands of yuan a month.
Every time he was asked to work, he used his parents as an excuse — his father had never worked and was dependent on his mother for support. He felt that true love was like his parents, one giving the other unlimited supplies.
When he said that, I was really shocked. But I wanted to change him, influence him, talk to him every day, and give him some practical financial support.
After six months of marriage, my parents met him for the first time when they went to Thailand. At that time, They thought he was a good person and liked him very much. My sister also praised him as a gentleman and considerate person. But my dad says he has a bad face and looks like a bad guy. I said good guys and bad guys have faces.
At that time, I said he was a boyfriend, dare not say married. Because his “history” is not good, I want to give him some time, use my contacts and resources, make his image a little positive, and then talk to my parents.
I have the contacts and resources to provide him, but he can not help, so this matter has been unable to talk.
In 2018, the company’s business was transformed and I returned to Nanjing to open a company. Parents often go to see, see him every day in the company playing games, do not work, very dissatisfied. My sister also thought that he behaved differently and was not good to me. When I was ill, he would play games beside me without asking.
They all advised me to break up, but I was already married and I couldn’t talk about it. When my parents found out about my marriage, they blew up and cut me off.
He later also not how to please me, back to the prison with his former friends together. I introduced him to an excellent friend and he said he couldn’t come.
He himself owed a lot of money, often received debt call, at first said hundreds of thousands, then said more than 1 million, then more than 3 million…… How much I owe is still a mystery to me. He wanted me to pay him back, but I only paid a few hundred thousand. The rest refused to pay him back, because he was unrepentant and owed again. I thought, if he stops gambling, I’ll get him out of it.
After marriage, little by little, lies are punctured. I realized that we were not in the same boat at all, and I regretted telling the truth so early.
Several times, he filed for divorce. I won’t take it. All the time, all the energy, all the money That I’ve put into it, when I get divorced, it all goes up in smoke. I’m like the guy at the gambling table.
Wang Ling photographed her and Yu Dong. My view of marriage didn’t allow me to go this far. I always think that getting married is a lifetime thing. If two people have any problems, they can solve them through communication. If not, they should not divorce. And with so many divorces all around me, I wanted to prove that I could work hard to resolve the crisis in my marriage — that I also relied on that tenacity in my business. I would beg for business that no one else could negotiate, and I would fight for business that no one else could.
There was a time when we quarreled so much that I even hoped he would cheat on me or beat me. Then I would be relieved.
A fool will wake up in the end. After too much cheating and too much arguing, I don’t take everything he says (maybe) he finds he can’t manipulate me, and the only way to do it is to kill the fool.
He told me about the murder of his wife in Thailand. He said that the man was too stupid. How could he beat his wife and not get caught?
Later, I heard that after I was pushed off the cliff, he sat in the place where I was pushed and heard nothing below. He thought I was dead and went away. He saw an ambulance coming halfway and turned back, hiding in the crowd.
When I was lying in ICU, he was outside. The Thai police came to understand the situation, he lied not to be present, and I went to the bathroom before falling off the cliff separately, after coming out, did not find me, saw the ambulance knew I had an accident.
He was arrested by Thai police on June 16. That night, his mother came to me, hoping I’d say I’d slipped up, give him another chance, and I turned him down.
rebirth
Being pushed off a cliff is just the beginning of a long ordeal.
When I first started in the ICU, I had so many wounds that I couldn’t fit into a hospital gown, just a blanket. Every day a group of people would come in, throw their blankets, clean their wounds, and people would come in and out, and it was devastating. Change urine not wet, defecate also.
On the 19th day of hospitalization, the hospital bed was so tight that I had to be discharged and stayed in the hotel outside the hospital temporarily. The Thai tourism department helped contact the flight back to Nanjing. During the 12-hour flight, My knees and hipbones were broken, and I was stuck in a 45-degree position, held up by my mind. In the end, I couldn’t hold on. I was in tears all the time. But do you have another way to go?
After returning home, it was a long rehabilitation training.
One day I suddenly realized that my hands were out of control, that I could not hold things, that I could not even wave. It was horrible. In my mind, I was able to walk for a few months after my injury. Unexpectedly, many of the body’s functions are lost, unable to move or walk. Like a baby, you have to relearn each movement, and find it through boring, repetitive, persistent practice, and may not find it.
At the beginning, the tendon atrophy is serious, mainly passive stretching. During my first week of rehab, I screamed so loudly that the whole hospital building could hear me. Downstairs, patients, medical staff all rushed to see, said too scary. One day the director also ran over, said that there are leaders to check today, you do not call ah, it will affect the image of the hospital, and so on the leadership left to practice.
This gut-wrenching scream went on for a month or two. I was so autistic that I refused to go into rehab at one point.
In the beginning, I went to work every day, working eight to five, soaking in it. After I get better, I will practice for four hours every afternoon. After that, buy rehabilitation equipment and practice at home.
Start sitting, standing, walking, stiff, unbent fingers, unraised arms… You have to practice every day, slowly and hard. It’s like walking in a dark tunnel. You don’t know when you’re going to learn. I often shed tears while practicing.
Sometimes I can’t go on doing it anymore. When I think of a man with a bad husband, I will exercise with self-discipline. Why can’t I recover to be a normal person? My mind must be stronger than his.
The attending physician, who had worked for most of his life, said, “I’ve never seen anything as bad as this. It’s a miracle I survived.” I won’t survive. You all think I fell by myself. I lived to tell the truth.
On January 20 this year, my family and I returned to Bangkok and hired a lawyer to Sue Yu Dong.
The trial lasted five days. In court, he pleaded not guilty and lied. His mother swore to the judge that she was a Student of Buddhism and never lied, then pointed to me and said I told her myself that I fell by myself.
I cried. I was particularly moved when two hospital staff rushed to the court on their own initiative and applied for a spot on the stand to testify that my husband had lied. You will see the evil in this world and the good in this world. Many people helped me after the accident. A retired headmaster in Ubon, who helped translate, offered her money, but she refused, saying she wanted to help me. When my parents were there to take care of me, they couldn’t get used to Thai food, so the staff of the local tourism bureau took them to buy rice cookers, induction cookers and vegetables. Some Overseas Chinese also came to visit and asked if there was anything they could do for me.
Yu was sentenced to life in prison on March 24 for attempted assault and paid 5.89 million baht in civil compensation. He and his lawyer filed an appeal in court, and the second trial will be referred to a higher court.
But for me, the pain is far from over. Now I am about equal to a normal person, go to the toilet, take a bath are still dependent on my sister, every day to practice walking, squatting. After will lie on the operating table, “hua Hua Hua”, a knife a knife to remove the steel plate, and then into a new round of rehabilitation. It still scares me to think about it, but I have to face it. Do I have a choice?
For a long time, I couldn’t understand why he would do this to me. Lying in the hospital, I wanted to see him and ask him if it was all about money. Was it random or was it a long gestation? … I have a hundred thousand questions for him. I would have climbed to prison if I hadn’t slumped in my bed, like mud, with the slightest bit of strength.
But now, it doesn’t matter.
Instead of being dark and withdrawn, I became stronger inside. Isn’t it said that people who come back from hell have a black life force? When you go through pain and know what pain is, you will appreciate your life and everything you have more, including your relatives, friends and colleagues around you, and you will communicate with them in a better way. You will become a better person.
I’d really like you to come and interview me later. If there is an opportunity for me to promote something meaningful and actually help some groups, then the interview will be the most meaningful. Now that I’m well, it’s all for myself.
I hope that the report is able to give people positive power, people who do not use it, after watching it, smile; For those who can use it, like those who are frustrated, frustrated, or going through a marital setback, my experience can be a small ray of light to illuminate him and sustain him through this dark time.
(Wang Ling and Yu Dong are pseudonyms at the request of the interviewees)
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