A lot of times about ex-girlfriends is just your added filtered imagination.
Sometimes the more a girl cares, the more she repeatedly mentions her ex-girlfriend to a guy, but it’s all an unconscious attempt to help the other person reinforce this memory. Like if I tell you right now, don’t think of a watermelon in your head right now, will you immediately float to the surface?
2
Never fall in love against humanity.
We have to try to accept the fact that the other person loves us more than ourselves and our family more than us, and get love on that basis. If we fall in love in this way, it will be easier for the other person, and we will be more likely to be happy and less likely to be disappointed.
3
Being married to a man doesn’t solve any emotional problems between you.
The conflict that existed when you were in love, it still exists after marriage. You weren’t happy with him when you were in love, and you won’t become happier when you’re married. But you can’t reconcile the problem of love period, can with you to change boyfriend and solve, and after marriage, can only with you on the account book married to divorce to solve the problem.
So, marriage is not the purpose, will not exchange for happiness.
4
Be sure to be independent, both mentally and materially.
Don’t be overly dependent on the other person and don’t take dependence for trust. First of all, you are a person and secondly, his girlfriend, you must have a wonderful life on your own and do not put too much energy on him.
5
You must know how to cherish it.
Even if the other person likes you to the extreme and is willing to be a dog licker for you, remember that no one takes you for granted.
The reason for this is that it’s not just a matter of time before you’ll be able to get the best out of your life, but it’s also a matter of time before you’ll be able to get the best out of it. An extremely unbalanced emotional relationship is not long-lasting.
6
You must learn to communicate.
A man can not communicate with you can not solve the problem with you, then he may not really intend to go with you all the way, imagine, he knows you are a stinky, how dare to marry you?
Good communication is definitely not a unilateral effort by one person, but rather a calm listening and speaking by both people, with one missing. Who is right and who is wrong is not the point, the point is how to solve the problem.
7
Maintain a baseline of independent thought and rational perception.
Don’t put yourself down too low, must have a mature adult should have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong. It’s really normal for couples to quarrel with each other, as long as they do point 6, they will communicate and solve the problem, which is a grounded and smoldering relationship.
The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re looking for and what you’re looking for.
8
Relationships need rituals, but not everywhere.
Focus on a little “second back”, many girls think he only second back is to pay attention to themselves.
But if you can not guarantee that every time “second back”, and why use “second back” to restrain each other?
If the person seconds you back, it can only mean that they are looking at their phone at the moment.
9
The frequency of the hair circle show of affection need not be too high.
I personally think, “show love, die fast” is not unreasonable.
The actual reason for this is because of the fact that it’s a good idea for you to be able to get a good deal more than just a little bit of the time.
The actual reason for this is because of the fact that it is a very good idea to have a good number of people who are not in a position to have a great deal of time and money.
And the low-frequency show of affection won’t cause any harm to your single friends on the list, so why not? 🙂
10
Most of the pain in a relationship stems from three expectations.
He has to be perfect and no one else’s boyfriend can be better than him or I’m miserable.
He must think of me often and tell me everything, or he doesn’t have me in mind at all.
He must love me 100 percent, and he must be considerate of me, or he just doesn’t love me.
Mature love must go through a process of “seeing through”.
All people are imperfect, love is what can be tolerated by each other except for the advantages, each other’s flaws.
People are independent individuals, some things if you do not want to tell you, take it as his protection of you.
People are “selfish”, love to have reservations, you are the same, he is the same.
Accept the differences between people and accept the selfishness of love.
11
How do you know if a relationship should break up or not? Two criteria.
Are you still happy to be yourself in this relationship? If you find that you’re starting to be careful with what you say and do for fear of upsetting the other person, or that when there is a conflict, it’s always you who needs to compromise and sacrifice, and you’re never able to meet his demands, it means that you’re in a relationship, and the countdown is on!
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