Maria Robinson said, “No one can go back and start over, but everyone can start now and create a new future.” That’s true, but before you can make such a life change, you have to let go of the things that are holding you back and aren’t worth your time.
To achieve a happy life, 30 things not worth doing
1, do not waste time on the wrong people.
Life is short, so you should not share your precious years with people who squeeze your happiness. If others really need you, they will make a space for you. Sometimes we don’t have to struggle, giving up is also a choice. Never hope for the one who always underestimates you. And, remember: real friends will always appear beside you when you need help the most, while those who make friends with you when you are brilliant may not be your real friends.
2, do not run away from problems. Face up to setbacks and get through them.
But I also know that this is not easy at all. No one in the world can do easy and comfortable to deal with every difficult situation. No one has not experienced time after time of frustration, sadness, hurt and frustration before finally solving the problem. So, let’s not rush into solving problems, but take them one step at a time. Because that’s what life is all about – facing difficulties, then patiently learning, adapting and solving them. All these experiences ultimately shape the person you are now.
- Don’t lie to yourself.
You can cheat the world, but the only one you can not cheat is yourself. Only when we seize the opportunity, our lives will improve. And to do this, the first step is to be honest with yourself.
4, stop putting your needs on the unimportant position.
There is nothing more painful than when you love someone too much and forget that you also need to be met. It’s important to help others, yes, but you also have to help yourself. If you have never followed your passion to do what you really care about, then now is the time for you to start dreaming.
- Stop fantasizing about being the “not-yourself” you.
One of the great challenges of life is to bury your true self and long to be someone else. There are always people prettier than you, there are always people smarter than you, there are more people younger than you, but they are not you. Don’t be someone else, but be yourself so that people will like you. And the right person will only love the real you.
- Don’t live in the past.
If you are always sinking in the past, you will not be able to start a new life.
7, do not be afraid to make mistakes.
Brave to try, even if you make some mistakes, it is better than doing nothing! Every success has to go through the baptism of failure, and every failure will send you to the hall of success. In the end, what makes you feel remorseful is not what you have done, but those things you have never done.
8, stop blaming yourself for the mistakes you made.
We may love the wrong person, or we may cry over things that are not worth it, but one thing is certain, that is, mistakes can help us find the right one, and can make us do better next time. Who doesn’t make mistakes? We have all had painful experiences and have regretted over a little bit of the past. But you can’t equate yourself with the mistakes you’ve made, you can’t equate yourself with the painful experiences you’ve had, you’re only living in the here and now, and you have the power to make a difference today, and you have the power to create a better future. You have the ability to make a difference today, and you have the ability to create a better future. Everything you experience in life is laid out for some future moment.
9, do not try to buy happiness.
There are many things we long for, and they are very expensive. But what can really make us satisfied are free, such as love, laughter and follow the footsteps of passion.
10, do not get happiness exclusively from others.
If you do not feel satisfied with yourself, then in the long run, no matter who you get along with you will not feel happy. So before you start sharing your life with others, all you have to do is to make your inner self good.
Achieve a happy life, 30 things that are not worth doing
- Stop being indecisive.
Don’t always think ahead, or you’ll bring problems that don’t even exist. Analyze the situation first, and then act decisively. You can not change the reality you do not want to face. Making progress means taking risks. You can’t take the second step without taking the first, and that’s how life works.
- Stop thinking you’re not ready.
When opportunities arise, no one is fully prepared 100% of the time. Most opportunities in life require us to step out of our comfort zone in order not to miss them, which means that at the beginning we will always feel a little less comfortable.
13, do not blindly start a new relationship.
Relationships need to be chosen carefully. We would rather be alone than with someone who is not suitable. There is little need to rush. If something is destined to happen, then it will happen – at the right time, in the pull of fate and the right person to meet.
14, do not refuse to start a new relationship because of the death of an old one.
Life will make you understand that an encounter you have with anyone has its own meaning. Sometimes it’s a test for you, sometimes it’s a use for you, sometimes it’s a lesson for you. But the most important thing is that some people will let your light out.
15, stop comparing yourself to others.
Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. All you have to do is get better every day and keep surpassing yourself. Success is just a battle between you and yourself.
- Don’t be jealous of others.
Jealousy is actually counting the happiness of others but ignoring your own happiness. You should think like this: “What do I have that makes others envious?”
17、Stop complaining about yourself and don’t feel guilty.
The setbacks in life have their place, and they put you back on the right track. Maybe you can’t understand why these things happen yet, and maybe they are painfully hard for you. But when you look back at these negative events, you’ll see that they ultimately make you a better person. So, you have to laugh at the difficulties in your life. You want everyone else to see that you are stronger today than you were yesterday, and that you will be even stronger tomorrow.
- Don’t hold a grudge.
Don’t let hatred reside in your heart. If so, you end up bringing far more harm to yourself than others bring you. Forgiveness is not to say, “I don’t mind the harm you’ve done to me today,” but to say, “I won’t let what you did ruin my future happy life.” Forgiveness is the answer to the problem – letting go of the past, finding inner peace, and finally freeing yourself! And, you need to remember that forgiveness is not for others, but for yourself. If necessary, you need to forgive yourself, and then move on with your life and do better the next time.
- Don’t lower your expectations because of others.
Do not lower your expectations of your goals in order to cater to those who do not want to motivate others.
20, don’t waste your time explaining yourself to others.
Your friends do not need you to make any explanation can understand you, while your enemies will never believe what you say. All, your heart tells you what is the right thing to do, then go ahead and do it.
Achieve a happy life, 30 things that are not worth doing
21, don’t be so busy that even the rest time is overlooked by you.
When you feel busy, stop and take a deep breath. If you continue to do what you have been doing again, you will only keep getting what you have long got. Sometimes, you need to stop, so that you can see more clearly.
22, do not underestimate the beauty of small details.
Appreciate the insignificant things, because maybe one day when you look back on your life, you will find that they are incredibly important things. The most wonderful part of your life is made up of those fragmentary pieces of the string, as you cast a smile on someone.
23, do not seek perfection in everything.
The real world does not favor perfectionists, it only returns those who can ultimately complete the task.
24, do not take the path of least resistance in life.
Life is not easy, especially when you have a great dream, you will encounter greater and more difficulties in the future. Don’t go to do something that is not challenging, go to do something that is a hit.
25、Don’t pretend that everything is going well.
Feeling frustrated or discouraged is a very normal thing. You do not have to pretend that you are strong, and you simply do not have to prove to others that everything is as I want it to be. You also don’t have to care too much about how others see you – cry if you want to (in fact, tears are good for your health). The faster you release repressed emotions, the faster happiness will come.
26, do not blame others.
Whether you can achieve your dreams depends largely on whether you are responsible for yourself. When you face their own difficulties are blamed on others, you are also avoiding responsibility – not others but your own to change their lives.
- Don’t imagine that you can do everything or be anyone.
Such thoughts will only make you more exhausted. But bringing a little joy to those around you can really change the world, even if it doesn’t make the whole world a better place, but you do make that person’s world a better place. So, focus all your attention where you can.
- Don’t worry too much.
Worry does not take away the burden of tomorrow, but it does take away the joy of today. And there are some things that are worthy of your deepest thought. The way to judge is to ask yourself, “Is this thing still important in 1 year, 3 years, 5 years?” If not, you have nothing to worry about.
29, do not focus on what you do not want.
You should have to focus on what you want it to happen. Positive thinking always appears in the prologue of every success story. If you wake up every day in your head thinking about the good things that will happen today, you will find that this is the case.
30, do not forget to appreciate what you have.
No matter what happens to you in life, you have to wake up every day with gratitude in your heart. Somewhere in the world some people are still fighting hopelessly for their fate. So don’t think about what you’re missing out on, but think about what you have now.