In the past few days, an indecent video has been circulating on the Internet.
The video features five men and one woman, all of whom are still young-looking students doing indescribable things.
According to the informant, Mr. Luo, they are all first-year students in a middle school. “It may have been just filming for fun at first, but it was accidentally sent out.”
The school responded that the indecent (video) situation, which occurred at the student’s home, has been reported to the police and the police are investigating.
Seeing this kind of news, it can really only be described as shocking.
My knowledge of children of this age is still at the level of ignorant desire for the opposite sex.
I didn’t expect that they would be so bold as to eat the forbidden fruit, and on such a large scale….
As I gathered information, I realized that this kind of thing is not uncommon.
How common is underage sex?
The researchers interviewed 6623 adolescents and found that 0.9% of middle school students, 2.4% of high school students, and 7.3% of post-secondary students had had sex.
The average age at which these students had their first sexual experience was between 14 and 15 years old.
Just two months ago, two post-00s students were photographed on the subway doing “indecent” acts in an open manner.
Some time ago, in a high school classroom in Nantong City, Jiangsu Province, two high school students were filmed naked in the classroom doing indescribable acts.
These behaviors are not just about early love, they are also about the social phenomenon of early maturity.
There have been studies about our adolescents’ puberty, and the results show that our adolescents’ puberty development is significantly earlier, roughly two years earlier than before.
At the same time, children’s sexual development is also much earlier, with 19% of girls having their breasts develop before the age of 8 and their first menstrual period before the age of 10.
Early maturation itself is not scary. As people’s standard of living improves, early child development is almost inevitable.
What is really scary is that children are physically mature, but not psychologically, and lack proper education and guidance.
Think about it: a group of innocent children stumbling into the world of sex.
What happens?
Sexual ignorance brings about, inevitably, confusion and danger.
I read a gender book called “The Rose Hid in the Bag,” which documented the sexual experiences of 20 minors.
Surprisingly.
More than half of the children interviewed by the author were recognized by their teachers and students as good students, and one-third came from major schools.
All of them, however, knew nothing about sex.
They don’t know how to use protective measures, have never received sex education, and try the forbidden fruit without telling their parents.
Sun Sun, a sophomore in high school, is one of them.
His girlfriend, a freshman in college, was a little older than him, but also had no sexual experience.
At that time, he had already seen some pornographic movies and wanted to know what it was like to have intercourse and if it was as exaggerated as the movies made it out to be.
So they had sex for the first time over the weekend in the dormitory.
Sun Sun was very impulsive and didn’t think too much about it, and didn’t buy any condoms.
The girl didn’t really want to do it, was always passive and scared, and kept asking him, “What if I do? What to do? What to do?!”
He coaxed her not to worry, but he was actually more afraid than she was. It wasn’t until his girlfriend said she had her period the next month that he felt relieved.
At the age of 17, Diem’s experience was a bit more complicated.
Diem, who was studying in a major high school, could not bear the pressure from her parents and chose to run away from home to live with a male Internet friend.
There, Diem confusedly had sex with the online friend.
Afterwards, she realized that she did not like the boy and did not find pleasure in the experience.
The first time was so shocking to Diem that she stopped believing in relationships for a period of time.
Until she became an adult, she never talked to her parents about it, nor did she discuss any of her relationships.
But Sun Sun and Diem were also fortunate – at least they didn’t encounter any real accidents or dangers.
Many children their age or even much younger than them are not so lucky.
In 2018, a parent in Suzhou accidentally opened her friend’s circle and saw an indecent video of her teenage daughter.
Her daughter, Fang Fang, was in the fifth grade this year. She was playing an online game when she befriended an adult man, who promised to recharge her game in exchange for her following his instructions and filming some indecent videos.
Fangfang, who knew nothing about sex, did so.
However, after the video was sent, the man intensified his demands and asked Fangfang to make more nude videos. When Fangfang refused, the man threatened to spread the indecent videos to her friends.
When Fangfang ignored him, the man actually spread the videos around until one day Fangfang’s father found out about them. ——
In 2019, there was a case of underage pornography that shocked the internet.
Sun and his wife from Xi’an opened a studio. Sun used his identity as a photographer to lure girls to a hotel to take indecent photos.
After that, he was coerced into taking a series of indecent videos and distributing them for profit.
The most shocking thing is that there have been as many as 200 known victims.
In the most widely circulated video, a 16-year-old girl takes off her clothes one by one and dances naked in an uncovered park on the outskirts of the city. ——
For some criminals, minors, who know nothing about sex, are the best targets.
Coercion to make indecent videos, inducement to participate in sexual services, and even offline sexual assault.
According to the 2017-2019 statistics on prosecutions related to crimes against minors, the total number of sexual crimes against minors during this three-year period adds up to more than 40,000.
You and I should be aware that.
Our next generation is being exposed to unprecedented sexual danger.
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The lack of sex education is the root cause of this tragedy.
There is no doubt that sex education is the strongest wall of protection against children and sexual crimes.
I’ve already talked a lot about the importance of sex education, so I won’t repeat it here.
Here, I would like to emphasize three major misconceptions about sex education.
I. It doesn’t exist as long as I don’t say it.
There is a recent sex education film in Japan called “17.3 About Sex”.
Sakira, who is just over 17, lives in a very traditional family where her mother is the kind of person who watches TV and has to change the channel when she encounters animal mating scenes.
Her parents’ taboos about sex did not stop Sakira from having sex. Eventually she had her first sexual encounter with her boyfriend, who half-compelled, half-encouraged her to have sex with him.
Only this experience did not make her feel happy, but rather she was in deep confusion. ——
I’m sure many of you have had the experience of parents who treat all sexual topics as sensitive and never talk about them.
This is akin to covering your ears.
It is important to know that sex is an inevitable part of teenage development.
If you don’t have proper guidance, your child will have to figure it out on his or her own.
The consequences of this, I’m sure you and I can imagine.
II. As long as sex is seen as a dirty thing, children will stay away from it.
Some parents don’t keep their mouths shut about sex education, but instead view it as a dirty existence and devalue it.
One thing to know is that the opposite is true.
The more repressive and derogatory it is, the more curious and rebellious children will become.
The more they will experiment and even develop unusual sexual preferences.
Children who associate the words “sex” and “dirty” with each other are unable to confront their physical needs and resort to more drastic ways to cope with them.
For example, sexual asphyxiation, bondage, and tying ——
In Wuhan, Hubei province, a 12-year-old boy died in his home because he was pursuing the thrill of sexual asphyxiation.
It is much more useful to spread sex to children openly and generously than to cover it up and belittle it.
III. Sex education only prevents sexual assault
Does sex education only prevent sexual assault?
Of course not.
Sex education is also about how to have safe sex and how to deter all sexual offenses from the adult world.
More importantly, it’s about getting children to face sex with a healthy mindset and understand it.
When they are actually confronted with sex, they will not be at a loss and be overwhelmed.
This is the only way for them to grow up.
In conclusion, we really can’t afford to be sloppy with our sex education.
There are too many dangers in front of our children, and our neglect and avoidance may well be pushing them into the abyss.
As Rousseau said in the opening chapter of Emile, “Please build a wall around the soul of your child before it is too late.”
It is the responsibility of every adult to ensure that our children grow up healthy and in a happy and loving environment.
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