One child couldn’t figure out one question: Why did his classmates at the same table get to the top of the class when they wanted to, but he got to the 21st place in the class when he wanted to?
When he got home, he asked, “Mom, am I dumber than the others? I think I listen to the teacher as well as he does, and I do my homework as carefully as he does, but why am I always behind him?”
Hearing her son’s words, the mother sensed that her son was beginning to have self-esteem, and that this self-esteem was being hurt by the school rankings. She looked at her son and didn’t answer, because she didn’t know how to answer.
After another test, the child came seventeenth in the test, while his classmate was still first. When she got home, her son asked the same question again. She really wanted to say that there are indeed three, six, nine levels of intelligence in people, and that the person who came first in the test just has a more flexible brain than the average person. But was that the answer the child really wanted to know? She was glad she didn’t say it. How should she answer her son’s question? There were times when she wanted to repeat the words that had been repeated tens of thousands of times by tens of thousands of parents: you are too playful, you are not diligent enough in your studies, and you are not working hard enough compared to others …… to put her son off.
However, children like her son who are not smart enough in the head and not very outstanding in the class, do not live hard enough in general? So she didn’t do that, she wanted to find a perfect answer for her son’s problem.
My son graduated from elementary school, and although he worked harder than in the past, he still didn’t catch up with his classmates, although his grades kept improving compared to the past. To show her appreciation for her son’s progress, she took him on a trip to see the ocean. It was during this trip that this mother answered her son’s questions.
Now this son no longer worries about his ranking, and no one ever asks him what grade he got in elementary school. When he returned from winter break, his alma mater asked him to give a speech to his classmates and parents. I was sitting on the beach with my mother and she pointed to me and said, “Look at those birds fighting for food on the beach, when the waves hit, the little sparrows can always take off quickly, they beat their wings two or three times and rise into the sky; while the gulls always look very clumsy, they always take a long time to fly from the beach into the sky, but, really can fly across the sea It is the gull that can really fly across the ocean.” This speech brought tears to the eyes of many mothers, including his own.
The mother never said anything that would discourage her child, but rather kept silent until she could find an appropriate answer, and supported her child’s growth step by step with her own sufferings, and the child finally delivered excellent results in such a tolerant environment.
Education is the respect and awakening of the individual life, the development and expansion of the inner potential of human beings, allowing children to grow healthily requires a calm state of mind, an intelligent mind, a unique charm, all of which must be based on tolerance.