I read “The Siege” again during my trip, and if I was just a kid in junior high 13 years ago, I suddenly realized the helplessness, absurdity, sadness and warmth of the book. I don’t know if reading this book is a good thing or a bad thing, but a friend responded by quoting “The Scream”: “Are you willing to stay asleep or wake up?” Looking back two or three times, I feel the following.
Going abroad is like getting the chicken pox
“Going abroad is like getting the pox, getting the cholera, having to get out. The child had the pox, you can safely grow up, and later encounter this disease, not afraid of infection. We have gone abroad, but also to forget a wish, the soul is sound, see the masters and doctors of these microscopic insects, have resistance to self-defense.” This is what Fang Hongzhi coaxed Tang Xiaofu to say, but it also speaks the true meaning of going abroad.
In Canada, I met many middle-aged people who wanted to go abroad when they were young, but later gave up because of their feelings or careers, and after many years, their old dreams restarted, and they either gave up their flourishing careers to immigrate out to do something big and small, or they tried every possible way to send their children out. It can be seen that this pox one day not out, sooner or later to think about.
After I read my doctorate, the biggest change is not to take education as a matter of course. Whenever I see the publicity of some returnees overstating the case, I laugh in my heart. The choice of spouse is even lower standards. This is not a coincidence. If you pay attention to the “Do Not Disturb”, you will find that often the doctor’s spouse’s education only for the basic requirements (undergraduate), but the entrepreneurs without much culture like to choose a girl with a high degree.
That’s why Fang Hongjian didn’t marry Su Wenduan, a female blogger who was after him. I marveled at the fact that female bloggers were “left” with the same phenomenon in the 1930s. Female bloggers like to find the one with the right education, while male bloggers like Tang Xiaofu, “a real girl”. In this regard, Fang Hongjian had a wonderful discussion in his flirtation with Tang Xiaofu.
“The woman has a woman’s special cleverness, light and lively with her actions. Than this cleverness, talent is just precipitation dregs. Saying that a woman has talent is like praising a flower, saying that it weighs on the scales with the weight of cabbage and potatoes. A really smart woman never works hard to become a talented woman, she only cleverly lazy -“
This is the “soul sound” of the great enlightenment, or after the chicken pox moaning sick?
“The original like has not changed, just in compromise.”
Fang Hongjian loved Tang Xiaofu, but married Sun Ruojia, who was just a common “mutual dislike”. This reminds me of a paragraph.
The student asked the philosopher what is love and marriage, the philosopher let him go all the way to pick up the biggest apple, can not turn back. As a result, the student felt that the one in front of him was not big enough and returned empty-handed. The philosopher again let him go to pick up, the results of the student halfway to see a similar pick up back. The philosopher said, “The first time you pick up apples is like love, the second time is like marriage.”
How many people have compromised to Sun Zoja? Those who picked up a big apple for the first time are to be envied.
Weakness is the sharpest weapon for women
It is said that women are “bones made of water”. The power of water lies in the seeming weakness, but can actually penetrate the stone. This time, I marveled at Sun Ruojia’s strategy of relying on “softness” and “jia” to get Fang Hongjian. Just the right show of weakness, but the opportunity to create close, and seize the time to form a sympathetic alliance with Hong Jian was whole, and then in the gossip people appear, pretend to panic to hold Hong Jian’s arm to hide behind, the reality of the formation of raw rice.
Great! Really powerful! No wonder Tang Xiaofu will say: “Women are not stupid never because the man wasted posing and have a good impression of him – but, rest assured, women are all stupid, exactly as stupid as men want, no more, no less.”
Of course, equally powerful is Sun Ruojia’s softness before marriage and dominance after marriage. I believe that anyone who has read “The Siege” can appreciate this change.
Thinking of you or thinking of you
Travel is a time for reverie, remembering old people, past events, and wondering foolishly if he or she will also be thinking of himself or herself. Whenever this time comes, I always think of the passage “Thinking of you or thinking of you” in “The Siege”. The context is that when Fang Hongjian and Zhao Xinfiao are on their journey to work, Zhao Xinfiao asks if her old lover will think of herself, and Hongjian says.
“Thinking of you or thinking of you? We have to think of many people a day, relatives, friends, enemies, and people we have met who are not related to each other. It is very rare to really think about someone, to think about them, to wish to be close to them. Personnel is too busy to allow us to concentrate on a person without interruption. I am afraid that in our whole life we miss our dearest ones for less than a single hour, and that the rest is just a glance at them and a thought.”
It is often the case that lovers miss each other.
Living elsewhere and turning elsewhere into here
Traveling from a place where you are tired of staying to a place where others are tired of staying is itself a siege. People go to Lijiang to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city, but when they get to Lijiang, they turn this paradise of an ancient city into a place they are familiar with: cafes, bars, wifi.
People in the city want to come out, and those outside the city want to go in. People outside the city have forgotten that the original city is indeed made by themselves.
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