In January this year, 832 couples in Hangzhou gave up their divorce due to the divorce cooling-off period. The latest divorce data from Hangzhou Civil Affairs Bureau shows that in January this year, 2,186 pairs of divorce applications were accepted in Hangzhou. Sixteen pairs withdrew their divorce applications voluntarily during the 30-day cooling-off period. Within 30 days after the expiration of the divorce cooling-off period, that is, until April 2, 816 pairs of couples did not go to the marriage registration office to apply for divorce, which is regarded as “automatic withdrawal”, and 1354 pairs of couples actually registered for divorce. Thirty-eight percent of the couples who applied for divorce gave up registering for divorce. It is clear that the divorce cooling-off period is effective.
I laughed out loud when I saw the above news from the “City Express”. The final conclusion, especially the word “visible”, can be said to be logical and well-connected, and the road is confident.
If the cooling-off period becomes 3 years, or simply become 30 years, without looking at the data, the annual divorce data can go to zero. It can be seen that the 30-day “dose” is still not enough, but also need to add drugs.
There are optimistic places, but the quality of public opinion is deteriorating today, and few people are in favor of supporting this “divorce cooling off period” rule. It seems that by the same token, some things seem to be well understood.
I believe (I really do) that this rule is based on good intentions, just as in the past when the ladies in the divorce hall repeatedly questioned, “Is your relationship really broken?” I believe that the divorce certificate will be stamped on the divorce certificate. And, there are bound to be many impulsive divorces, or the kind of divorce in anger, which corresponds to the three words “cooling off period”.
However, such a rule is a great disrespect to adults.
As I said years ago in an article that briefly introduced Opie, if you zoom in on all human behavior to analyze whether it is “rational” or not, you will end up in a semantic dispute. For example, for love is willing to leave everything, know that smoking, drinking is harmful to health but still do not quit, for a variety of idols to buy support even if they do not need the goods …… and so on, right, these common human behavior is “rational” or “emotional” or “impulse under the passion”?
The answer is that it is not clear. The same behavior is evaluated completely differently by different people.
In other words, there is no way for an outsider (or even the person himself) to tell whether any marriage or divorce is a calm choice or not.
The “cooling off period” is not excessive, but a delay, according to the same logic of disgusting in the end, should be set up a “test of calmness”, preferably including a written test and an interview, adding all kinds of unscientific personality test or something, the final pass can The person who passes can get a “certificate of calmness”, that is, a certificate of eligibility for divorce.
A “paternalistic” approach to management is one that can easily erode the rights of the individual. Note that I said erode, not deny. At least for now, people have the right to divorce. This type of control creates a culture that can easily erode a person’s sense of responsibility. To take the simplest example, we all know that “we’ll take our chances”, and as long as there is no guarantee of any agreement, we have to admit that the price of something we just bought a minute ago has gone down. But guess what would happen if China’s houses fell sharply on a large scale and people would get together to find out who was in charge of it? You get the idea.
The wiser older children will be wise enough to realize that they have parents to cover their backs when they do bad things.
As odd as it sounds, our power is often sometimes “coddled” as a result of the interaction of two energies. For example, the A-shares are set up to understand the “trading cooling off” period, there is nothing wrong with it. So is a divorce cooling off period strange? Not strange. It’s all a product of the same regulatory mindset.
A person who can correctly understand the rights of the individual will usually be more responsible, and in turn, a person who fully accepts that “one is responsible for one’s own actions” can almost instantly accept “individual rights” as the cornerstone of civilization. But there have been many topics where there has always been a constant voice that certain groups may not exercise their rights out of poverty or temptation or whatever, and that they need to be regulated. It is also for their own good. I won’t go into details, the examples are endless.
In fact, in the past, there have been some social news about the tragedy caused by the “divorce cooling-off period”. The life within the marriage is worse than death? Don’t be impulsive, calm down, I don’t think the relationship is broken! One day couples, contribute to the reduction of divorce data. A part of the invisible pain and aggravation, another part of the invisible is scared back in the marriage door, 30 days “dose” of the effectiveness of absolutely obvious.
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