The news about sexual assault never seems to stop, and the importance of sexual assault never seems to get any real attention.
Many people choose to remain silent, even though many don’t understand that what they are doing is committing a crime.
Taking pictures of women in toilets, taking pictures of women’s skirts on the hand-held stairs of large shopping malls in the summer, making unbridled pornographic comments and thinking it’s humorous, pushing and shoving in the middle of the crowd to take advantage of the situation, and so on.
These are all behavioral and verbal sexual assaults, but most of the time we choose to ignore them.
There have been many films about sexual abuse, such as “The Melting Pot,” “Carnival,” “Hope,” “The Letterbox Story,” and in France, “The Unspeakable Game.
The Unspeakable Game is based on the true story of the director, writer and star of the film, Andrée Bescon, who was sexually abused as a child.
She is a “Fuscian” who had a tragic childhood, but chose to film her own experiences to encourage more girls to face themselves.
Because every face is full of the desire and beauty of life, and every life has the rights and dignity of a human being. When faced with an assault, one must choose to be strong and brave, and defend the glory and sanctity of life in the name of the law.
The Odette in the film is only eight years old, she is simple, cute, loves to dance, and also likes to be alone in her room drawing so as not to disturb her busy parents.
With little experience in the human world, she thinks the world is always beautiful, and if things go normally, Odette will indeed grow up to be an elegant angel.
Gilbert was a good friend of Odette’s parents. He liked Odette very much and often gave her gifts, and Odette did not resent the uncle.
As usual, Gilbert came to Odette’s room and told her to play a game of “tickle” with herself, which involved taking Odette to the bathroom dressed as a doll and sexually assaulting her.
Gilbert also tells her that this is a game of “you’re happy, I’m happy” and that it’s a secret between us that you can’t tell anyone, hence the title of the film.
This incident left a huge shadow on little Odette’s mind, but the aggression did not end with her pain.
Since her parents were busy at work and could not pick up Odette from school, which she was studying at the dance studio, the burden fell on Gilbert, and although Odette refused, her mother persisted.
On the drive home, Gilbert violently knocks Odette’s books out of her hands, and the sexual assault occurs again.
Odette thought that “once she went to the National Conservatory of Music in a faraway land, everything would vanish like smoke, and life would get better.
But she probably forgot that her uncle had money, a car, and time, and even though she went to school in Paris, she still couldn’t escape the clutches of his clutches.
Some may wonder if Gilbert committed the crime right under the noses of Odette’s parents, and if her parents didn’t realize that Odette wouldn’t tell them?
Odette had done this more than once, only to receive feedback that made her decide to keep the “game” to herself and not tell anyone about it.
Ten-year-old Odette hinted to her mother that she was washing her red-dyed panties in the bathroom, but her mother thought that Odette was just having her period too early and didn’t care about the reason behind it.
Gilbert’s behavior with Odette in the pool was too intimate, and the friend told her father that Gilbert had gone too far.
Instead of taking it seriously, the father condemns his friend for talking nonsense when he is drunk, thinking that Gilbert only loves Odette because he has no daughter.
As an adult, with the help of a psychiatrist, Odette confessed to her parents what happened to her as a child, expecting a positive response.
The mother didn’t believe that it was real and that it must have been a figment of her undisciplined daughter’s imagination all those years ago.
How could Odette grow up healthy in such a family and environment of origin?
Odette is the name of the white swan in Swan Lake, and her dream is to become a top ballet dancer, performing at the Paris Opera.
However, due to the violation of her childhood, the grown-up Odette never forgot the nightmare of her childhood, and she also sank in pain and suffering, trampling on her own life.
Even when she stepped on the stage of the Paris Opera, although her blood was pumping, she behaved like a complete lunatic, having long lost the enthusiasm of her childhood.
And that was just the beginning.
Growing up, Odette was able to take over her own life, she became sensitive, suspicious, kept everything at a distance, and was reluctant to open up about her experiences.
The result is a person under tremendous mental stress, so she took drugs, fooled around, drank, and lost her temper, diluting her inner fears with external forces.
The more she indulged herself with paralysis, the more she could not free herself, and with the psychological stress eroding and her life severely affected, Odette eventually went to a psychiatrist to heal herself.
In a gentle way, the psychologist slowly uncovered Odette’s scars and healed each wound, and gradually Odette got better.
She got a boyfriend and had a brief but happy relationship, but it was short-lived, and she was haunted by an internal obstacle that she could not overcome.
The relationship split after a meeting with her parents for dinner, and Odette closed off from it, resenting all so-called love and tolerance.
After a breakup, Odette met Uncle Gilbert at a family reunion, and all the memories of that moment came flooding back, and he was still the same man with the same clothes and the same beast.
This time Odette didn’t run away, she was brave enough to come forward and tell her parents everything about her childhood sexual abuse by Gilbert.
In her eyes, Gilbert was her best friend, handsome and successful, and had nothing to do with perverts.
Even though Odette’s words were convincing, she still wanted to leave the matter alone and settle it in private, as the family’s shame must not be spread abroad, and if word got out, not only would Gilbert’s family be ruined, but she would also be criticized.
Desperate, Odette didn’t listen to her mother as a child, she chose to use the law to protect herself and punish her evil Uncle Gilbert.
As her father said, “You have a long road ahead of you, and you must walk it with your head held high.
Sometimes a pervert won’t tell you what he looks like, but he will tell you by his actions and words that he never considers the feelings of his victims.
When confronted with the accusation, Gilbert said, “They’re the ones who wanted to, they’re the ones who took off their panties and spread their legs, and I’m supposed to say no?”
Every negligence and silence on our part, in fact, encourages the devil to sin, and only the more painful the blow, the more he will restrain himself; otherwise, greater evil will be bred.
The end of the movie is a surreal scene.
Odette opens the bathroom door, walks in, and makes peace with her old self, learning to reject loneliness and accept the normal love and care of others.
This is the moment when Odette is truly free.
In reality, according to the European Parliament, one out of every five children is subjected to sexual violence, and about 700 children die in France each year as a result of abuse.
In China, the numbers are not encouraging either.
In the past three years, more than 1,790 children have been sexually abused nationwide, and 70-90% of these cases have been committed by someone they know, including family members.
Many victims are ashamed to talk about sex, allowing many demons to go unpunished, and what Odette’s mother did is not what most people think.
Once you go to the police, it is a sign that you will have to reopen your scars repeatedly in front of many people, as well as deal with public opinion, as in the case of the murder of the flight attendant last year.
What were the bystanders doing at the time?
They spread pictures of uncoded female passengers in the driver’s group, making random comments about their looks and clothes, and using extremely vulgar language.
The girl who hails a hitchhiker in the middle of the night must have been harassed for something that we all know by heart, that she deserves to be harassed for wearing revealing and beautiful clothes.
They may not be the perpetrators of the crime, but they are just keyboard warriors who are eager to watch the fun, but they are the most loathsome, despicable people in the world.
“They look at the fire from across the river, but they treat it like a firework, as if it were a festival; they see the drowning man, but they treat the water as a fountain and clap their hands.” — “Ho Ho Bystander Essay
Those who do not care about anything but the truth are more willing to believe hearsay, the uglier, the more outrageous, than the truth.
Sexual abuse between husband and wife also occurs, and can even turn into domestic violence, and in China, a woman is subjected to domestic violence every 7.4 seconds.
Domestic violence includes not only physical abuse, but also sexual abuse, cold violence, verbal abuse, beating, and mental oppression.
In the documentary China Against Domestic Violence, there are many women whose husbands use them as a reproductive tool, and then force their wives to watch the film and imitate it, and if they don’t comply, the violence increases.
What’s more, some do not treat their wives as human beings at all, that is, they vent their animal lust, to satisfy the sexual hunger of slaves, come and go as soon as they are called, once they resist, all they get is a storm of beatings.
Most of these effects, which cast a shadow over a woman’s future life, turn out to be a criminal act of violence against violence.
In women’s prisons, a disproportionately high number of women kill their husbands.
In Yunnan No. 1 Women’s Prison in 2009, 173 women out of 223 felons were imprisoned for domestic violence at the hands of their husbands.
In 2007, 171 women in Shaanxi province were convicted of domestic violence, 163 of whom were violent killers of their husbands, all of whom were driven to desperate measures to end the nightmare.
When asked if they regretted their actions, they said, “Time goes back, I will still kill him, it’s the only way I can think of.”
Can women alone be sexually assaulted? So will men.
The BBC documentary “The Untold Story of Sexual Assault Victims” reveals that British celebrity and former BBC presenter Jimmy Savile sexually assaulted 450 people.
Among his targets were males, including nine-year-old Kevin, who was taken backstage and sexually assaulted by Jimmy when he appeared on “Let Jimmy Fix Him” on the pretext of being given a medal alone, and then threatened and intimidated afterwards.
These men grew up depressed, anorexic, or chose to end their lives because they were exhausted by the torment and the looks of surprise and gossip.
They are called evil spirits, but it is really childish to be afraid of spirits, so let’s take a look at the human heart.
The dark side of the human heart can be infinitely magnified in the dark, and indulgence will only increase rather than decrease evil thoughts.
As Nietzsche said in The Other Side of Good and Evil: “The longer one struggles with an evil dragon, the longer one becomes an evil dragon himself; the longer one stares into the abyss, the longer the abyss will stare back.”
Of course, not all physical contact is sexual harassment, and there is a distinction between sexual harassment and love.
There is a distinction between love and sexual harassment. Love does not make you feel uncomfortable, but rather warm and fuzzy, and when you are both in love, small gestures can be the catalyst for love.
Using clear body language to make women less fearful is the least men can do to make women feel comfortable in the public arena.
Women also need to understand that women’s rights are not the same as female superiority.
Many people are opposed to women’s rights because they misunderstand that women’s rights are about the domination of men by women. However, the real meaning of women’s rights is the social, political and economic equality of men.
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