In just three or four days, Ma Jin Yu’s case has been reversed and reversed again: from the image of domestic violence victim in her article “Another “Ram”” on Feb. 6, to the later Rashomon The story of the victim of domestic violence is a very interesting one.
For many people, these are all just drama-like episodes, and they are the “crowd” watching the drama, but in fact, they are also part of the drama –Society’s reaction was at least as intriguing as Ma Jin Yu’s tragedy.
When the incident first broke, there were many people who suggested looking at the evidence, on the grounds that “no evidence can be established alone”, which seemed objective and prudent, because they did not take a stand, neither did they believe nor disbelieve. The same people, however, after seeing Ma Jin Yu’s husband Xie Decheng deny domestic violence, especially The same people, after seeing the local investigation notice of GuiDe County, immediately adopted the letter, and even a “really not what I expected” look. This is not a real “listen to both, then understand”, but just a delaying tactic: instinctively doubt the statements of one side, “wait for the favorable situation I envisioned. “Waiting for favorable evidence to emerge that fits my vision”.
After Ma Jingyu’s accident, all parties skimmed the surface: the husband said there was no domestic violence; the local authorities said they had not received any requests for help (indeed, they had not reported it), indicating that they had not failed in their duties; the locals said they had no knowledge of her; all parties made statements in their favor, as if she was the only one who was at fault from beginning to end. In this way, her situation is like that of Gou Jing in the case of the substitute exam in Shandong more than half a year ago, who was caught in the whirlwind of public opinion and chased by various pigtails.
The lack of a corresponding social mechanism to support, in the end, the responsibility is their own, which is a great risk for the individual. In the end, the only people she can rely on are her friends who have not yet given up on her. This kind of private relief is a true reflection of our society – sometimes even private relief is not even allowed.
Of course, it is not impossible that, in terms of probability, all the other parties are right and she is the only one who has made a death wish. This scenario is very tempting because it coincides with a self-affirming conservative concept of our society: all mechanisms are good, only a few people have problems, just like “the system is sound, corruption is only the moral corruption of individual officials “.
Obviously, this underestimates the complexity of society and human nature, and if that’s the case, then logically, the only way to make sense of it is to make her look both stupid and bad – but that would make it hard to explain why a group of friends would stay with her if she was so badly behaved.
If this story is made into a movie, these “black materials” may make the character more realistic, heavy and layered, and she is no longer just a perfect moral role model, but just She is no longer a perfect moral example, but just an ordinary person who makes mistakes. Why does it have to be that a person has to sacrifice her whole being in order to get sympathy and relief? Even if her starting point is self-giving, the original innocent love, beautiful ideals, in reality is likely to be a chicken scratch.
Strangely enough, Chinese people today have long been tired of the “high and mighty” role models in popular literature and art, but still expect an impeccable public figure in reality. moral persona. Many people are not without compassion, but their compassion is only aroused when they are confronted with a perfect victim. Once they feel the other person is flawed, it’s as if their precious compassion has been misplaced.
To be fair, this isn’t only true in Chinese society; in the 1988 movie “The Accused” starring Jodie Foster, the lead actress is raped in a bar and the onlookers gloat, and when she takes them to court, public opinion turns on her and accuses her of misconduct. -If you dress in a skimpy way and hang out with men, you “deserve to be humiliated for being slutty”; you are the only one who has done nothing wrong. Only when you are a “good girl” who has done nothing wrong does your situation deserve sympathy. This case is particularly alarming in China, where moralism is prevalent: the rights of the victim have nothing to do with her character.
Usually only the “dead good guys” are the perfect victims of moral innocence; they can no longer speak up and say the wrong thing, and the very fact that they are dead The very fact that they are dead inspires sympathy and allows people of all stripes to project their own ideas onto them without worrying that the victim’s position on various social issues is inconsistent with their own. The most paradoxical point here is that no one wants to be such a “good person”, but they want others to be.
There is no doubt that Ma Jin Yu is not a perfect victim, and her performance in business and debt is bad. She has feelings for the local area and the bottom, but there is no way to do all these things well with feelings alone; on the other hand, if she did not have feelings, I am afraid that a person would not fall headlong into it like she did.
I’m afraid that some people will also ask: “first figure out, is she a victim? “On this issue, it is best to split up and look at: she and her children were domestic violence in the Marriage has been recorded, human evidence can be confirmed; but her lack of rational calculation in business, not paying debts, pulling black debtors, these are also irrefutable; as for her husband Xie Decheng as a Han Chinese and has been packaged as As for her husband Xie Decheng, who is Chinese and has been packaged as a “Tibetan Zhaxi”, this is also a point that many people will not let go of, thinking that she lied – perhaps She previously sold goods mainly sentiment, this ethnic identity works for her, but now it has also become a moral issue.
In a sense, she helped those with similar ideals, but did not have the courage to practice the mine, so that people clearly see how many personal unbearable risks may ultimately exist if they have to jump with their eyes closed. After all, even without Ma Jin Yu, the situation of the local people (especially the women at the bottom) is not unworthy of attention.
For Ma Jin Yu, she ended up relying on her original personal network and the character she had saved to get another chance to live. After the divorce, if there is someone to help her pay off her debts, she can still start her Life over.
The political scientist Zhou Lian said in a conversation some years ago that for social politics and life, “It is not that there is no choice after the first choice, the most important thing is precisely that I made a choice and then after a very painful reflection and struggle, I realized that the first choice was wrong and I I still have the ability, opportunity and right to make a second choice, and that’s what’s important. He said that in the past, “I made the first choice, and then I basically had to live with my life But “a big difference between modern life and ancient life is that society, the state and the law guarantee you the right to make a second choice, and to develop your ability to make a second choice. “.
In today’s noisy public opinion, Ma Jin Yu’s tragedy may soon be forgotten, and even two days ago, people already said that she talked about her domestic violence like a “Xianglin sister-in-law” who kept on talking about her misfortune. “The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re doing. It just so happens that today is New Year’s Eve, and it’s hard not to think of the classic ending of Lu Xun’s “Blessings”: “I am in the midst of this bustling embrace.
I was lazy and comfortable in the embrace of this prosperous sound, from daytime to early night doubts, all to the air of blessing swept away, only to feel that heaven and earth, the holy congregation xin enjoy the livestock and cigarettes, are drunkenly stumbling in the air, ready to give the people of Luzhen to infinite happiness.
This is not just a personal tragedy, to keep Chinese women from becoming Mrs. Xianglin again, it depends on whether we can do something to change the “Luzhen”.
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