The world is a vast sea of people who love each other a lot, but not all of them can eventually walk hand in hand into the hall of Marriage. Some people are just suitable for love and not suitable for marriage, because suitable for couples have to meet some basic requirements, otherwise even reluctantly married will be difficult to have a happy Life.
First, the first two people have to be friends to talk about.
As a couple, the most basic should be friends, and should be good friends or know, unless you are only purely physical sense of the heirloom type of couple, otherwise even the relationship between friends can not reach how to do a couple, even if barely do a couple will not last.
Second, at least have roughly the same life values.
Things to get together, friends should be in the world of life and the value of the basic consistent understanding, at least each other’s default life values, otherwise how to do friends? Friends even so, couples to live together for a long Time, of course, more must have common life values. Couples do not pursue the same life and life goals, there are serious differences in views on things, how to carry on the marriage?
Third, each other to be able to fully understand the trust.
Understanding each other is the basic premise of human interaction, and to be a couple, understanding is, of course, the most basic to do. Do not understand each other, each other’s Family background, Education, personality, temperament, personality traits, habits and so on, these should be fully understood, at least have a basic understanding. Understanding of course is far from enough, after understanding, if you can accept what you know about these things, you also have to fully trust each other, no trust there is no interaction, couples especially so.
Fourth, there are conflicts and conflicts when two people can easily communicate.
Between people of course there will inevitably be some problems and conflicts, couples of course, but also, and because every day together, the possibility of friction and conflict is also greater. Conflict is not terrible, terrible is unable to communicate with each other and let the development of conflict to the point of unmanageable, so an important and basic element of being a couple is to be able to communicate easily with each other in case of trouble.
Five, each other have the basic sacrifice “to suffer” spirit.
Husband and wife is a combination of rights and obligations, but what you get and what you pay for will not be in total proportion, not to mention the possibility of full reciprocity. One of the spouses will always pay more, and the other will be less, as a couple of course, can not be calculating, to have the spirit of dedication and sacrifice. There is no one who owes anyone in marriage, and there is no difference between high and low, willing to sacrifice to pay is also one of the basic elements of being a couple.
Sixth, can do to each other’s tolerance and generosity.
People will make mistakes, people have shortcomings, between husband and wife because of the close contact, more find mistakes and shortcomings, so as a couple should be a generous heart, can correctly and rationally look at each other’s shortcomings and mistakes made, neither fault-finding, nor unprincipled indulgence. Tolerance of small and irrelevant shortcomings and mistakes, to help each other correct the big mistakes and shortcomings, the couple should progress together.
Seven, the interests and interests to be able to basic similarity.
People have their own aspirations, but as a couple of the two sides, should be in the interests of the basic consistent, in the interests, aspirations, interests can be roughly the same viewpoint, the only way to move in unison and will not go further and further away or even centrifugal. Basic similarity of interests in order to live together for a long time, seemingly divergent couples can not be happy.
Eight, can withstand the test, support each other.
Marriage is different from the important point of love is that marriage has to face more real life pressures and problems, marriage is also more tedious and even tedious, and therefore encounter difficulties and problems are much more. Both wives and husbands, whether in life or work, will encounter some unpredictable problems, which is not terrible, the key is to be able to get each other’s firm support. If you encounter a problem to retreat, which is even better than friends, the future of married life will not be able to carry on.
Nine, can accept each other’s family relatives.
Many young lovers often tend to ignore this point, that marriage is a private matter of two people, can not consider the other, which is of course a naive romanticism. Marriage is a matter of two young people, but also both Parents and two family matters, couples in addition to love each other, but also must be able to accept each other’s families, if you simply can not tolerate each other’s parents family some as, and they can not do not ask you about, then your future married life will be endless problems.
Ten, have the basic material economy to do the foundation.
Suitable for love is not the same as suitable for married couples, because in addition to the romance of marriage is more of the reality of life, without a certain amount of material economy as the basis, married life is impossible to carry on, so two people too artist temperament may not be suitable for couples, because they are most likely to sink in the romantic art life and do not know how to live and make money to support the family.
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