Watching over education: between regulation and non-regulation

Wang Jinzhan teacher summed up the 33 articles of Education, may every parent read carefully.

1. The main factor affecting children’s performance is not the school, but the Family.

If there is a problem with Home education, the child will probably have a harder Time at school, and the child will probably become a “problem child” at school.

3. The mother of a high-achieving child is usually the one who plans and moves well. The more conscientious, organized and polite the father is, the better the child will do.
4. Poverty is an important educational resource, but not the poorer it is, the better it is for the child’s development. Parents need to provide their children with basic cultural materials to prevent them from falling into the abyss of inferiority complex of being poor.
5. Affluence is another higher educational resource. The Western experience is: “It takes three generations to raise an aristocrat. ” “Class is inherited. “However, higher educational resources require higher educational skills. Without higher educational skills, affluent families will instead bring disaster to their children’s growth.
6. Don’t be a parent with knowledge but no education. Some people have high education, but they don’t necessarily have Culture. If a parent does not know how to live and treat others well, or even treat his own children well, no matter how high his academic level is, he is still an uneducated person.
7. Parents can make their children the center of the world, but don’t forget that parents also have to lead independent lives. If parents revolve around their children without having a theme for their own lives, such parents often interfere with their children’s growth in the name of love. Sometimes, it is not that children cannot live without their parents, but that parents cannot live without their children.
8. Parents need to take the responsibility of educating their children, but they should not completely cancel their leisure Life because of educating their children. “No sense of responsibility hurts others, too much responsibility hurts oneself. ” (Wu Jiaxiang’s words)
9. If parents rush to pick up their children as soon as they cry, then the children will take advantage of this characteristic of their parents to often pester them with more demands. So, when a child cries, don’t rush to pick the child up, parents better let themselves have something to do and let the child watch themselves move nimbly to do something.
10. The relationship between husband and wife affects the character of the child. A man who does not respect his wife, then his son learns to disrespect his female classmates at school. If a woman does not respect her husband, then her daughter will learn to despise her male classmates at school.
11. Education is the cultivation of a person’s spiritual longevity. The mission of parents and teachers is to make children gradually take responsibility for their own spiritual appearance, to remove all kinds of dirt that may be contaminated, and to cultivate the spiritual “seeds” in people, so that they can The mission of parents and teachers is to make their children responsible for their own spiritual appearance, to remove all possible defilements, to nurture the spiritual “seeds” in them, and to allow them to breathe the mountain air and to raise their eyebrows.

The cultivated parent is a “Voltairean”. “I don’t agree with you, but I defend to the death your right to speak”. They start reasoning with their children from the day they are born and patiently seek their opinions. Don’t expect that scolding your child will teach him or her to obey. The result of killing the chicken for the monkey: the monkey learns to kill the chicken too.

13. Let your child become both a passionate and sensible person. “Without passion, no great work can begin well, and without reason, no feat can end well. “
14. let your children become educated people, educated from punctuality, line up, do not speak loudly in public, do not easily get angry.
15. Be generous. If your child is more generous, please do not laugh at his weakness. People who like to take small advantages often suffer big losses, because he is disliked by others. The person who is willing to take small losses will take big losses in the future because he is liked by others.
16. Physical vitality can bring spiritual vitality. A person with good health has a sunny personality. People with bad health are hesitant, evasive and stammering.
17. Do not think that children from 1 to 6 years old is only the age of growing body. If parents let their children spend ages 1 to 6 with their grandparents, and then wait until the child is 6 when the parents take the child back to elementary school, the child will either become a silent, silent person or a lawless, disruptive person in elementary school.

Do three things with your child regularly: eat meals with him or her, invite him or her to fix toys, furniture or clothes, and occasionally invite him or her to help with a problem at work. Third, tell your child a story and invite him or her to tell it on his or her own.

19. If there are no special difficulties, it is best for parents to rush home and eat meals with their children every day. Shared family values are built up as the whole family eats around a table.
20. Telling stories to children and inviting them to tell stories themselves allows children to build reading and writing habits from listening to stories, so that they can learn to read independently and develop lifelong reading habits as early as possible. “As long as one is still reading, one is not totally depraved; a totally depraved person is one who does not read. “Parents who never tell stories to their children are irresponsible parents.
21. There are three critical periods for a child’s growth: the first around the age of 3, the second around the age of 9, and the third around the age of 13. If you miss the critical period of growth, the consequences will be endless.
22. Not “thirty years old”, but ” The child must be established around the age of three. Around the age of three, children must build the courage and habit of self-reliance. All that you can do, you must do it yourself, and all that you should do, when you try to do.
23. If your child at the age of 13 likes Frost’s verse: “Two roads diverged in the woods, and I chose to take the one with fewer people,” this is normal. Don’t worry, he may choose the one with more people later.
24. It is necessary for parents to reason with their children, but when reasoning with children around the age of 13, they should pay attention to their posture, which is more important than reasoning. Otherwise, the child will be disgusted and resist. The child will say: What you say is all right, but the way you speak is annoying.
25. Secrets of the heart are a sign of human growth, maturity. If your child has something on his mind that he doesn’t want to tell you, then don’t force him to tell his secret.
26. Around the age of 3, it is better for your child to have an inactive, permissive parent by his side. Around the age of 9, it is best to surround your child with an active authoritative parent. Around the age of 13, it is better to have a negative democratic parent around the child. Effective parenting is strict and then lax; ineffective parenting is lax and then strict.
27. It is important to keep an eye on your child’s academic performance, but not too concerned about his ranking. You need to be wary of children who always come first in school. Some children do well in school and have a good personality, while others do well in school but have a selfish personality, lack compassion and have no interest in life.
28. Your child must be taught to interact with others and accept small partners happily. “If parents are dissatisfied with their neighbors and are very critical of their children’s little ones, or don’t let their children make friends with them, making them feel as if they are very different from others, it will be difficult for these children to get along naturally with anyone when they grow up.
29. Children need peers to grow up. Let your child have his or her own friends, but don’t have too many messy ones. Be wary of your child picking up bad habits of peers before he or she develops mature reason and judgment.
30. Let your child establish a healthy aesthetic as early as possible. Men who are successful will like healthy women. Don’t let your child’s aesthetic fall into a low, morbid state. Don’t assume that small, diseased, is good. Do not think that the powerful, are bad. Don’t think that little sparrows, sheep, and puppies are all cute, and don’t think that lions, tigers, and wolves are all bad. Don’t think that jackals and wolves are all cannibals; jackals and wolves only eat those who are weaker than him.
31. “The Catcher in the Rye” contributes a word to the world: watchfulness. Education is not about managing or not managing. There is a word called “watchfulness” between control and indifference.
32. Tell your children: Children who listen carefully get good grades once in a while; children who learn by themselves always get good grades.