After going through the letters all night, I couldn’t find one or two subjects that I could write back to publicly.
The letters should be colorful and varied to be beautiful and lively, but the letters at hand are so identical – a thousand complaints and pains, as if few people feel appreciation and admiration for the current situation of their own lives, and few people see other people and things besides themselves.
I put the letter on the table, went to the window and stood there for a while, thinking of a self-seeking painful Life in the letter, and seeing the late night lights under the high building, I couldn’t help but ask – are the people under these lights really that unhappy?
It seems that everyone in the epistle is envious of others, everyone thinks that their own encounter is the most unfortunate on earth, everyone only strongly complains about their own fate and even blames society and Family, but rarely in the word processing to review and reflect on the reason why they have formed today’s situation.
In short, society and life are sorry for people.
People who live with such a mentality have no way to communicate, it’s hard, really hard, and it’s hard to change.
In fact, any life has its own trauma and growth process during the growth period, and these processes are like seeds that will manifest in later life, so our life will see more and more maturity in this many experiences.
The maturation process of life is actually inevitable struggle and sadness, and the beauty of life, but also the world to give shape and round the whole, which is very subjective, see the wisdom of each, each have their own.
However, if you just complain, this in my opinion very valuable survival, it will not show.
Someone once asked me, what is the most important thing in life? The answer that came out of my mouth was – wisdom, but after thinking about it, I felt that it was not quite complete. Sincerity is not important? Money is not important? Love is not important? Freedom is not important? What about courage? What about health? What about family? What about friendship and understanding? Isn’t any of this important?
I told myself that all of these are actually covered by wisdom, and that under the premise of wisdom, other things should naturally follow.
“Thirty-six stratagems are the best strategy” is one of the stratagems that every Chinese knows. If we are not satisfied with the current situation of life, and we have tried our best, but still cannot make it, then why not step out of this situation and develop another one?
Many people say, “I can’t,” and that doesn’t make sense. You can, if you are determined to do it, you can, but the problem is that without determination you really can’t.
Of course, when starting a new situation with a plan, knowing yourself and your enemy is an element that cannot be ignored. When we don’t have the ability to pick the moon, let’s go pick the fruit. If you don’t like oranges, you can pick grapes, and if you don’t like grapes, you can grow vegetables.
This letter is also addressed to myself, and to the many people who have written in complaining about their bosses, their husbands, their rebellion against society, their arguments with their Parents, their failure to get along with their classmates ……
It is also a letter to many friends who are complaining about the ordinary phenomena of life. Let’s encourage each other to hope that our lives will be close to perfection, to minimize the feeling of defects, to be free from the layers of bondage in our minds, and to achieve some degree of freedom in our lives.
And this freedom is not obtained for nothing, if we do not upgrade – or return to the basics, without painful determination to investigate the situation, everything is in vain.
Dear friends, be tolerant! Respect it! This includes that regard for yourself. Once in a while complain about the possibility of life is some kind of emotional catharsis, there is nothing wrong, but habitual complaints without seeking change, but not smart people.
There is a Spanish proverb: “If you often shed tears, you can not see the starlight. “
I like this saying, so even if I have to cry, I only cry a little in the afternoon, and I don’t have Time to cry at night when I have to see the stars. Besides, I have to go pick fruit. I will not reply to many letters of the same nature here.
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