before watching “Just thirty”, the drama xu Unreal mountain off the rails Lin, he knew it was wrong, will let Gu Jia sad sad, but can not stop the car.
He thought that he could deal with between two women, the red flag in the home not fall, fluttering flags outside, but finally found that this is only his foolish delusion.
As a result, the “affair” was discovered and Gu jia filed for divorce!
Once a man has an “extramarital affair”, the most sad thing is his wife. Even if there is a deep feeling, it will be erased, and the “extramarital affair” will become a thorn in their marriage.
When it comes to “having an affair”, many people will have more after one. So, this kind of thing had better not have a first time, otherwise there will be countless times waiting for you!
As for why some people are obsessed with affairs and even become addicted to them, here’s a man with an answer.
Zhang Feng: Marriage is like a pool of stagnant water, after she met the taste of life
I am a middle management in a company. My wife met me on a blind date. After getting pregnant at the beginning of this year, I went back to my hometown to give birth. This is the second child, the last time his wife was pregnant was five years ago, as this time is back to the hometown.
At that time, I was working alone and my job was stable but boring. Then the company came to an intern, a little girl into the society not long ago, called Xiaoting.
At first, I thought this girl was pretty good looking, quick at work and full of youthful spirit.
Every time the colleague party, let me and her distance close, my relationship with her so step by step toward ambiguous. Then, naturally, it became a relationship.
My wife and I got together on blind dates. We don’t have much emotional basis, and we often live apart from each other, so we can’t talk about romantic life.
When she went home five years ago to give birth, she felt something was missing from her life. Met Xiaoting, I think this is fate, I like to be with her, let my boring life added a lot of luster and fun.
At the beginning, I was very perturbed, always afraid of being found out, also feel sorry for his wife, but as time went by, I let go. Five years later, undetected, I was addicted to the relationship, and had fun juggling two women.
Now I have been in love with Xiaoting for more than five years. I don’t want to break up with her. If there is no accident, maybe I will keep going. Although know oneself so is wrong, very sorry wife, but really loathe to let go.
As for Zhang Feng’s emotional experience above, he has a lot in common with Xu Unreal mountain in Just thirty. The only difference is the length of his “extramarital affair”.
Extramarital affairs happen not only to men, but also to women, though men are more likely to have them than women. Studies have shown that once people have an affair, they find it difficult to stop, regardless of gender.
In fact, many people know that extramarital affairs violate social morality and will be criticized as immoral, but it is also such an unashamed behavior that makes people want to stop.
The reason for such a psychological, one is because the heart greedy desire is stimulated, eating the bowl looked at the pot, never satisfied. It is like a child eating candy, eat the first piece, taste the sweet, want a second piece, want a third piece.
There is another reason, is the pursuit of fresh and exciting feeling, let a person can not stop. You know you’re doing something wrong, but you still want to keep trying. At the beginning, you may feel lucky and think you can balance the triangle.
Once a person’s desire is aroused, if there is no self-control, it will inevitably develop into an affair. At this time, many people will think that they are not wrong, and even put the blame on their partner, or after being found out, admit that they are wrong, vowed to change, but later will make the same mistake again.
Whatever the psychology, there is no reason to have an extramarital affair. Marriage is not just a contract, but also a responsibility. Need common management, also need love!
Therefore, if there is a problem in a marriage, we should first find out the crux of the problem and solve it calmly, rather than looking for comfort outside, so that the marriage will get into trouble, alienate each other, and eventually come to an end and become strangers!
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