The American social psychologist Festinger is famous for his theory of behavior, known as “Festinger’s Law”.
10% of your life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.
In other words, if you do 1 thing wrong, you may need to do 9 things to make up for it, chasing after mistakes you will get further and further wrong.
If you want to change yourself, please never do the following 20 things to yourself.
01.
Do not entangle with rotten people and rotten things
Zhou Guoping said.
Life should have the wisdom of not competing. Often compete with the good and the good, not with the fool to discuss the short and long.
And the wrong people entangled, will only drag you into the muddy quagmire. Do not tangle with bad people and bad things, because your good time is worth wasting on all the good things.
02.
Lifelong learning, do not stop
The times abandon you, are not going to say goodbye to you.
No progress, in fact, is the biggest step backward.
You run forward with all your might, not to change the world but to not be abandoned by it.
03.
Be yourself, do not blindly imitate others
You can be a whole day into a Fan Bingbing, but not a day read into a Lin Huiyin. Other people’s beauty can not be imitated, and do not have to imitate, you have your own unique.
Everyone is born original, do not let yourself live as a pirated version.
04.
Do not lose the sense of youth
Youth has nothing to do with age, some people are old at 30, while some people are still young at 80.
Keep the sense of youth, do not compromise to life, dare to fight, dare to break through, dare to be the first, if the heart is not old, life will always be evergreen.
05.
Do not over-consume yourself
You can feed your dreams with a tired body, you can take a strong body to win success, but you can not take success back to health.
The body is the capital of the revolution, overspending yourself, will not be worth the loss.
06.
Do not be too idle
Busy when tired is tired, but busy for meaningful things will be fulfilled and satisfied; idle time, although comfortable, but idle for a long time people will rust.
Do not choose to be comfortable at the age of struggle, do not do nothing but comfort themselves ordinary and valuable.
07.
Don’t just take the good road
People are often lost for only one reason, is that your strength does not match your ambition.
Do not go straight to the flat road, the road of little resistance even if you walk for a long time is difficult to jump out of the inherent thinking.
Infinite beauty in the peak, the rugged road has not been taken to be more attractive.
08.
Do not be afraid to make mistakes
Make a mistake is not terrible, terrible is never to make a mistake.
Mistakes are actually an opportunity to learn, everyone is in the trial and error of growth, know the shame and courage, know that mistakes can be corrected is the best. (Progress = trial and error + modification + re-implementation)
09.
Don’t attach happiness to others
Do not attach happiness to others, because people will change, love will fall apart. The road of life is always to go on your own, no one can replace your happiness, and no one can pay for your happiness.
The self-sufficient happiness will not suffer from loss.
10.
Don’t always wait for everything to be ready before you start
The time, the place, the people, everything can be ready to win, but such a time is often few and far between.
Do not always wait for the ready to start, because the vast majority of miracles are man-made before meeting the time and place.
11.
Do not ignore the subtle touches
Ordinary life, the glitter is the subtle touches.
Do not ignore every beautiful moment in life, you never know which second will become the happiest moment of your life.
12.
Do not jump to conclusions too early
“The sluggishness of the horse is not a blessing”, do not jump to conclusions too early about anything, the gloom of this moment may be the darkness of the next.
“Painting skin and bones is difficult to paint a tiger, know the face of a person does not know the heart”, do not jump to conclusions about anyone too early, human feelings, the world is warm and cold, you have to be careful to taste to distinguish good from evil.
13.
Don’t be afraid of getting hurt and refuse to start
Romain Rolland said: There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of life, still love life.
The real strength is not to be afraid of being hurt, but to be able to heal yourself after being hurt, and to embrace a new beginning after healing.
14.
Don’t leave the bad side to the people you love the most
The biggest mistake we make is to give the worst temper and the worst side to the people closest to us, but give patience and tolerance to strangers.
15.
Don’t be humble and love someone who doesn’t love you
No matter how much you love someone, you can’t be so humble that you lose yourself. The purpose of love is to make you better, not to get you all over the place.
Some love is destined to be met but not sought, do not wait for those who can not wait, do not squeeze into the world do not hold on.
16.
Do not deceive yourself
It is much easier to deceive yourself than to deceive others, but it is much harder to wake up yourself than to wake up others.
People should know themselves, see themselves, face themselves sincerely and accept themselves openly in order to have a broader world.
17.
Do not waste time explaining yourself to others again and again
The important people, no need to explain he also naturally understand you; unimportant people, a thousand words he may not put in mind.
The long road, you just go your own way, regardless of his gossip, no shame in the heart enough.
18.
Do not forget the original intention
Do not forget the original intention, the only way to get always. Have been moving forward, do not forget to stop from time to time, looking back at the reason for starting at that time.
19.
Do not always compare with others
Don’t compare your shortcomings with the strengths of others; don’t envy what others have and despise what you have; don’t get lost in the comparison and don’t follow others’ maps to find your own way.
There are people outside the sky, you don’t have to be better than others, you just have to be better than what you once were.
20.
Don’t get hung up on the past
The past is like smoke, the past can neither be changed nor erased. The human heart is like the sea, put the past in the past, in order to make the beginning of the beginning.
Rousseau said: the most meaningful life, not the longest life of the one, but the most feeling of life.
May you, perceive life, free and easy.
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