Emotions are our inner language. It can be said: understand the emotions in order to master your life. So about emotions, you must understand these ten things.
01
Did you know that the biggest killer of our intimate relationships is not the affair, but the unpredictable emotions.
Even if the deepest feelings, but also in the other side of the ups and downs of emotions, collapse and change.
When you are putting all your energy into crusading against the other person and thinking there is something wrong with your partner – ask yourself first: am I venting my emotions freely in the relationship.
In my opinion, a person venting their emotions freely is the equivalent of urinating and defecating anywhere.
If you are not responsible for your emotions, then no one has the responsibility and obligation to be responsible for your emotions.
02
Dearly beloved, whatever bad emotions you have today or at this moment, you can be sure of one thing: any emotion will change.
Even if you think the sky is the limit, it usually changes in 24 hours at most. Unless you are unwilling to let the emotion pass, strong emotional feelings will pass.
So, whatever emotional state you are in, don’t be overly afraid, worried, or even desperate.
You can try to calm yourself down, look at flowers, read a book, watch in silence for a while – the emotions will transform themselves, and all the bad emotions will eventually dissipate.
03
Loving yourself is the best antidote to your emotions.
When we can accept all of our imperfections, no matter what others have done, we don’t have to kidnap ourselves because of others’ actions, and we don’t take others’ rejection and denial as evidence that we are not good enough to attack ourselves.
Act like a best friend
Caring for yourself with all your emotions.
Continue to grow and
To get closer to the self you want to be
That’s loving yourself.
04
Emotions are the gateway to your inner secrets and wisdom.
When emotion comes, you can fight it, but it will only get worse, and you can run away from it.
But it will follow you closely until you stop and face it with curiosity, and it will truly open up to you, taking you to discover the secrets of your heart and giving you inner peace and wisdom.
05
In the pursuit of happiness, most of the time we neither understand ourselves nor others; we don’t know how to solve problems when we encounter them.
So we are always regretting the past, worrying about the future, and dissatisfied with today, as if the happy days are always fleeting.
Emotions are the barometer of how we feel in life.
If you are in a good mood, life will be good; if you are in a bad mood, you will not be able to feel anything good even if it happens.
So, care about your emotions, let yourself always in a state of joy, without effort, you will reap the benefits of a happy life.
06
Emotions are not good or bad.
It is our own attitude of treating anger, anxiety, fear, fear, sadness, and grief as negative emotions, or even as enemies, and fighting against them or suppressing them, that makes us suffer from them.
In fact, all “negative” emotions are our messengers and bodyguards, reminding us that you are off the track of happiness and need to adjust.
And people often spend their energy on confrontation and avoidance rather than adjustment. So it gets worse.
07
When one feels pain, one’s first reaction is to try to get away, to escape, to reject, to confront, and the pain does not go away, but gets stronger.
As a result, in addition to the pain itself, the pain of confrontation and avoidance is added. Pain is a sentry, a guard, to tell us that our body, emotions, and environment need to be adjusted.
Enter it, accept it, feel it, listen to the message it brings, and ask it how to relieve it.
Pain is the teacher, the incarnation of the wise.
And acceptance, is the medicine for everything.
08
The most basic need of man, the most intense need, the most selfish need is the safety of his own life.
When people feel that their safety is threatened, in extreme emotions, they can become very crazy, cruel, incomprehensible, unimaginable, and do things that, in the eyes of others, are genocidal and unforgivable.
Sometimes we see the madness of others in the news and find it unbelievable. The truth is that everyone in the extremes of out-of-control emotions is a volcano and has the potential to harm others and themselves.
Giving yourself a sense of security, and giving those around you, especially your children, a sense of security is the greatest blessing we can have in this life.
09
Many people have asked me how to control my emotions.
I say there are three steps in total.
1 Stop before each time you speak.
2 Ask yourself if what you want to say is to vent or to express.
3 Only say things that are good for people and good for you.
Then some people will say: easier said than done.
Yes, all abilities are not easy to learn at the beginning, but they are not difficult to become habits.
Habits are the result of repeated practice.
Habits become quality and literacy over time.
10
Many people always think that drastic emotions and crisis events happen in other people’s homes, far away from them.
If you quiet down and explore carefully, you will know that these turmoil may happen in your own home and around you.
The source of emotions is within ourselves and in our relationships.
No matter how much you think you know, how much you have learned, how great you are today – look at the relationships around you, are you able to be at peace with the close people around you? Are you able to live amicably with all the relationships out there?
All of your practice will be reflected in your relationships with people. It doesn’t matter what you learn or how much you learn, it’s how you do it.
It is easy to have emotions, but difficult to manage them, so change and cherish.
May you harvest an increasingly peaceful and comfortable self in the process of gaining insight into your emotions.
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