Why are husband and wife husband and wife by day and neighbors by night?

There was a couple in their thirties. A son and a daughter. On the face of it, a happy family. The man and I have a business relationship. Once when we were having a drink together, he suddenly began to SOB. It was obvious that he had drunk too much.

I didn’t know he was a strong drinker before, and because we were on good terms, I always tried to persuade him to drink more. They say wine speaks truth. He really said what he never said.

This is how he described it to me:

We were married for more than ten years, and when we had a child, I went out to work. Come back every Spring Festival. The couple’s life is naturally less. I went away for three years, earned money and built a house. In this village is also a generalization.

Since I came back, she has never let me sleep with her at night, except for working and eating with my wife during the day. I had to sleep in another room.

I once asked her with a smile, we are both young, can not separate the bed now? She shouted to me: I just don’t want to see you that virtue, like a little greedy cat! Of course, my physical needs, or three times to discuss with her, asked to live together, she was turned down.

I wanted a divorce, but what about the two kids? After a lot of thinking, let it go. It’s been three years since I came back from work. I haven’t touched him once in three years, and she won’t let me touch her. But we never had an argument.

Therefore, the villagers all envy me, all said that our husband and wife love each other, never quarrel, women sing along. How did they know that I was the most unjust victim in the village?

I’ve asked some doctors, some of them psychological. Still have say is a kind of disease, also have a doctor to say, it is to did not have husband and wife life for a long time, cause sexual coldness. What the doctor said made me confused.

I once advised wife to go to a hospital to see psychological doctor, she says I am ill instead, see what psychological doctor thoroughly? I’m out of options, so I’ll have to do it.

After listening to my friend’s narration, I feel sorry for him, but I can do nothing about it. In reality, I don’t know if other people have similar situations. If so, please tell me how to solve it. I really want to help my friend.