Common Psychological Phenomena in Life

The better the friend, the more he will scold you when you make a mistake; the better the friend, the more you will be the first person he will think of when he is unhappy!

1、The better the relationship, the more likely to damage you.

When you talk to them, you can always automatically block out the ones that don’t like to listen. They will always know more about your problems than you do. When you run into someone you used to like, they are always excited and call out to you to look at them. When you have a little secret, you are always the first to want to share it with them. In fact, the one who cares about you the most is always the one who loves to hit you the most.

2、The more fearful things are, the more likely they are to happen.

With a newly bought cell phone in his pocket, he was afraid of being stolen on the bus, and every once in a while he went to check if the phone was still there. This action attracted the attention of the thief, and eventually the phone was stolen. Just because you’re afraid of it happening, you pay attention to it, and the more you concentrate, the more likely you are to make a mistake. This is the famous Murphy’s theorem.

3、If you are unhappy, write it down.

It’s a beautiful way to unwind. Because the action of “writing” itself has the function of perceiving and unifying thoughts. “Writing” can move the emotional energy from the nothingness of ” sub-consciousness”, elevated to the level of “consciousness”. In other words, the original feeling of “my heart is in turmoil” has changed to “I know what’s going on”, anxiety drops, and emotional healing is initiated.

4: Showing off stems from an inner lack of confidence

Psychologically, it is believed that “showing off” is an expression of an inner need for attention and affirmation, most likely because something is not always available to one’s self, and when it is, one wants it. Build self-confidence through envy from the outside world. Would it kill you not to show your happiness to others? If so, ask why. Remember: Life isn’t an act, just be yourself!

  1. Women love to nag.

Psychological studies show that on average, men say 2,000 words a day (a habit formed by men hunting in ancient times) and women say 7,000 words a day (a habit formed by women picking fruits and vegetables in ancient times). Come home from a day of work, the husband’s 2,000 words in the company will run out, come home and think about resting; and the wife there are 5,000 words did not say it, come home to always finish the day’s words to sleep! And then a lot of cups were created!

  1. Tears of sorrow contain harmful substances, and enduring them is equivalent to suicide.

The tears that fall out of human eyes during grief have a high protein content. This protein is a harmful substance produced due to mental depression, and the accumulation of depressant substances in the body is detrimental to health. Expert studies have found that tears can relieve people’s depression. It’s not a sin to cry, cry, cry!

  1. Speed of reply to SMS

The degree to which a person likes you is generally directly proportional to how quickly he or she responds to your text messages. If your other half is getting slower and slower to reply to your messages, congratulations you’ve basically been replaced, with super high accuracy!

  1. Are you afraid of bothering others?

It’s actually not good! Those who have helped you before will be more willing to help you again than those who have been helped by you. In other words – the best way to get people to like you is not to help them, but to get them to help you. If you want to be liked, it doesn’t hurt to ask for it.

  1. change your mindset

Summarize all your misfortunes in one sentence and ask yourself, “Will this still matter to you in 3 years? “

  1. Gender psychology

When a man kisses a woman, it’s an emergency; when a woman kisses a man, it’s a premeditated event. A recent study in the French magazine Femme found that, subconsciously, every woman wants to be dragged, pressed against the wall and kissed by the man she loves, which can bring them more pleasure. Expert analysis shows that most women see kissing as an integral part of intimacy, a desire to experience being valued and needed.

11、Management Psychology

A man worth $8,000, don’t haggle over the $7,500 he is willing to pay. Even if you save $500, it actually cools him off, and he’ll leave as soon as a better opportunity comes along. Instead, pay him $10,000 and he’ll work twice as hard for you. Remember, it is better to spend two people’s money to hire one good person than to spend one person’s money to hire two bad people.

  1. The index finger is better in arts, the ring finger is better in mathematics.

The University of Bath, UK, measured the length of the right hand fingers of 75 seven-year-olds and found that children with longer “finger proportions,” the ring finger, did better in math. The children with the longer index finger did better in English. The same calculation can be made for adult males and females, with the “finger ratio” for adult females usually being one, i.e., equal lengths of index and ring fingers, and for adult males being more likely to have a ring finger. Longer.

  1. High IQ men are more loyal to their partners.

The higher the IQ, the more he valued the exclusivity of the relationship, according to evolutionary expert Kim Saw-ji. It’s a good idea to have the ability to make the most of your time with your partner.

  1. About Crying

88.8% of people feel better after crying and only 8.4% feel worse; 70% of people don’t hide from others when they cry; 77% of crying happens at home; what time is it easier to cry? 39% of crying happens at night, 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m., which is the easiest time to shed tears.

  1. Differences between men and women

Two men chase one woman, the one with shallow feelings gives up first; two women chase one man, the one with deep feelings gives up first.

16, boys and girls respectively have six basic love needs

The forms of love that boys need: trust, acceptance, gratitude, praise, recognition, and encouragement.

Girls need forms of love: care, understanding, respect, loyalty, consideration, comfort.

17、If you don’t sleep well, you’ll get fat.

Sleep deprivation makes it easy to gain weight. People who sleep 5-6 hours a day weigh an average of 6-8 pounds more than those who sleep 7-8 hours a day. When normal sleep hours are denied, the body produces large amounts of anti-stress hormones to slow down the metabolism, as well as an increased appetite for the next day. If you must wake up at 7:00 in the morning, it is best to sleep around 11:00 the night before. Before going to bed, you can take a hot bath or read a novel.

18, the husband’s personality can change the wife’s appearance

Psychological studies have found that the face of a wife is closely related to the character of her husband and his attitude toward her. A husband who is broad-minded and does not lose his temper easily is able to accommodate his wife and allow her to enjoy full freedom. With such a husband, the wife will be smooth and delicate skin, not prone to pimples and blemishes, also not easy to aging, often glowing.

19, take the initiative to hug each other from behind

According to psychology, hugging someone from behind represents a form of protection, and indicates that the hugger is willing to take the initiative to give the embraced person love and care. So if you adopt this sleeping position, it means that the person is willing to give you the promise of love, and the person will feel happy from this active care and affection.

20, ghost vibration syndrome

I feel my phone vibrating (ringing) all the time, wasted half a day to pull it out, but found that nothing happened.

  1. Use the power of the subconscious mind

Spend at least 10 minutes a day visualizing before you get up in the morning and 10 minutes before you go to bed, because these are the best times to input your subconscious mind. So if you desire success, love, marriage, etc., imagine it during these two times! Your subconscious mind gradually allows you to achieve confidence through imagination, which leads you to what you want.

  1. Reverse psychology

Psychologist Ferne Baker conducted an experiment in which he put up signs in the men’s restroom that forbade graffiti. One sign warned, “No graffiti allowed. The other, in a softer tone, declared: “No graffiti, please. The amount of graffiti in the restrooms where the signs were displayed was then surveyed. It turns out that the graffiti was worse in the restrooms with the “No Scribbling” sign.

  1. How Do You Know Yourself?

One must think through three questions: first, what do you have, second, what do you want, and third, what can you give up. For most people, it’s easy to evaluate their current situation in terms of what they have; what they want, they have a clear idea of what they want; and the hardest part is not knowing or daring to give up anything – that’s what determines whether what you want can really be achieved or not, and no one can get everything without giving up.

24、Male and female psychology

If a man offers to carry your bags, walk you on the inside of the road, or pull out a chair for you, don’t be thankful for it. It just means he’s had countless girlfriends who have taught him that before. And the woman he will always remember is the one who changed him, not you. So the more detail-perfect a man is, the more challenging it is for a woman.

25: Delivering Happiness

According to a study published in the British Medical Journal, happy emotions can affect relationships up to three levels away. Knowing happy people increases your chances of being happy by 15.3%, and knowing friends who are happy increases your chances of being happy by 9.8%.

26, late at night, is the time when a person’s soul is most vulnerable, but also miss the craziest time!

When you care about someone, you wonder if they care about you too. It’s only because you like it that you are concerned, and because you are concerned and sad. In fact, a person is not alone, miss a person when it is really lonely.

27, couples with blood type

1) Equality: A man-A woman, O man-O woman, AB man-AB woman, B man-B woman.

(ii) Graceful love type: O man-A woman, B man-O woman, A man-AB woman, AB man-B woman.

(iii) Managerial: male A – female O, male O – female B, male AB – female A, male B – female AB.

(4) Complementary: O male – AB female, AB male – O female, B male – A female, A male – B female.

28: Do you suspect that you have given a wrong answer and change your answer?

Should I change my answer when I check two answers and don’t know which one to choose? According to the survey, 55% thought that changing the answer would harm the grade, and only 15.5% thought it would improve it; but in reality, 58% got it right, only 20% got it right, and 22% got it wrong. So, here’s the situation: change!

  1. Why men don’t like to open their hearts.

Psychologists have found that talking about problems between partners can make men very uncomfortable. This is because when a woman lists the problems between them, the first thing a man experiences is a strong sense of shame, a sense of frustration that he is not capable of being in a relationship. He will unconsciously fight against the resulting pain, using “avoidance” and other ways to protect his self-esteem.

  1. 8.2 seconds to fall in love

Scientists believe that the length of time a man and woman pay attention to each other for the first time determines whether or not they will fall in love. If a man pays attention to a woman for more than 8.2 seconds when he first meets her, then he has not only been attracted, but has probably fallen in love.

31, love is not 1 + 1 = 2, but 0.5 + 0.5 = 1

Two people are not complete until they have each half of their own personality and flaws, and then they fit together. Without mutual forbearance and tolerance, it is difficult for two people to become one.

  1. Can you do this kind of psychological adjustment?

(1) to see the unpleasant people to see the smooth; (2) to look down on people to look up; (3) to do what you do not want to do; (4) to figure out what you can not figure out; (5) to scold out the words to take back; (6) to swallow the gulp; (7) to want to indulge the heart to stop. In fact, you do not need to do this every moment, but do this more than a few times, you will: ① high EQ; ② job promotion; ③ wages up; ④ more friends.

  1. Seven kinds of dreams may indicate illness.

(1) dreaming of someone hitting you on the head: related to the nervous system of the brain; (2) dreaming of hearing strange noises: related to the auditory center; (3) dreaming of the trachea being stuck and choked: related to the respiratory system; (4) dreaming of being chased: related to the blood supply to the heart; (5) dreaming of walking unsteadily: related to angina; (6) dreaming of falling from a height: related to heart disease; (7) dreaming of water scenes: related to the liver, gallbladder, and kidneys.

  1. Pebble’s Law

You would not be able to accept the fact that a $1 newspaper has gone up to $10 a copy; you would not react so strongly to the fact that a $5,000 computer has gone up by $50. Beiber’s law shows that when a person experiences a strong stimulus, the stimulus given afterwards becomes insignificant to him.

  1. There are actually only 900 months in life!

In fact, you can draw a 30×30 table and one sheet of A4 paper will suffice. Every month, you check off a grid. Your whole life is on this piece of paper. You will thus have a clear idea: How will you spend your life?

  1. Sometimes fooling around is a form of dependence.

Psychologically, people mostly only get angry at people who are safe because they are within that safety zone. You subconsciously know that the other person will not leave you. Nonsense is sometimes a kind of dependency.

37, the lover conflict coping strategies

Don’t distinguish between right and wrong, think differently, understand each other’s potential motives, and understand each other.

Maintain an appropriate psychological distance from each other.

Don’t get into the habit of complaining about each other and forming negative stereotypes, try to solve problems by laughing.

(4) Tolerance is the best. We are not saints and there is no need to be overly critical of each other’s behavior.

Respect each other, give each other a reason to love you.

38, first-class woman’s eight characteristics

(1) big woman quality, small woman feelings; (2) big things are clear, small things are confused; (3) self-reliance; (4) can be gentle as water, but also strong as steel; (5) like children; (6) can go to the hall, into the kitchen; (7) love beauty, will be beautiful; (8) has romantic feelings.