It would be nice if we could do only what we want to do in our hearts, every moment of every day.
But then, unfortunately, laundry, tax returns, and difficult conversations would never get done. And good books would never be written. All the human accomplishments you can think of will never be accomplished.
So what happens if we are faced with a task we don’t want to do. Well, we can run away, we can do something else to distract ourselves until the problem arises. It seems we’d better find a way to accomplish the task.
Here are 10 suggestions.
- Meditate on why you need to do this.
Instead of doing something distracting, sit down and be quiet for a while. Why are you doing this thing that you don’t want to do? Well, because it’s on your Todo List, or because someone else needs you to do it, or because you do it for a living. But why? How does it help to do this? Who it will help.
If you’re a dishwasher in a restaurant, you probably can’t imagine what the big deal is about getting your plates clean. But plates are for food, and food nourishes diners, who enjoy it and then smile and do something good for the world. By associating the plate with these good things, washing the plate is not a simple matter.
- Meditate on why you are afraid.
What stops you from completing a task or wanting to complete a task is fear. You are afraid of failing or making a fool of yourself, you are afraid of discomfort or misunderstanding the task. Feel this fear. Accept the “fear” as part of your life, rather than trying to slip away.
Give up your overly idealistic ideas
If the fear disappeared, you could easily do this. So what causes the fear? It’s your inner over-idealist, some fantasy that life is free of discomfort, distress, embarrassment, and flaws. It’s not.
Reality, which is only fantasy, is entrenched in your heart by bringing fear. So, give up fantasy, excessive ideals, and unrealistic expectations. Embrace the reality: the task before you is the only one, not anything else that scares you.
- Focus on the end, not the result
You may be stuck on the outcome of things – what are the consequences of what you’ve done? What kind of failure will you experience? Forget the outcome – you can’t know what’s going to happen. That’s for the future. For now, focus on your “purpose”: Why are you doing this? If the goal is to make your loved one happier, then that is the “purpose. Regardless of the outcome, that purpose will not change. Focus on that, not on what will happen and what won’t happen.
- Embrace the “bad”
Doing the hard things feels “bad”. You may be confused about how to do the hard things well because you haven’t experienced them before, and that’s not easy. So what’s good? Difficult things do feel “bad,” but life isn’t always peaches and roses. Some days it sucks, some days it’s great. Accept life for what it is, including the thorns and pitfalls. If there were no bad moments, life would be boring. So smile, accept the “bad” and move on.
- Set limits for yourself
We are not naturally fond of bondage: “I don’t want to do this! I want freedom! “Well, but the truth is that having unlimited freedom means unlimited choices, constant distractions and getting nothing done. Just give yourself some limits: do one thing at a time. Do one thing right now. do that one thing for 10 minutes. Force yourself not to surf the web, or use your phone, or do any other form of distraction that you enjoy until the 10 minutes are up. Let your friends monitor you – it always helps to have another method of restraint.
- Do a little bit first and gradually improve
If you have to go write something, start by writing a sentence. Then get up, drink some water, and stretch. Pat yourself on the back and encourage yourself to finally get started! Now for more: write a few more sentences. Get up, rest your brain (but don’t wander around on the internet), and do a few push-ups. Then come back and write more. Soon, you’ll be in the zone.
8: Don’t get distracted.
It’s understandable that we are easily distracted by our nature. Because your insides are afraid, they escape by distractions and flee to those easy places. When a distraction occurs, keep a good eye on it, but don’t try to stop it directly, just don’t give it the slip elsewhere. When you are about to give it a slip, focus on it, but don’t do anything rash. Slowly, it will calm down.
- Be grateful.
This task may seem hard or shitty, but there are still some good things about this thing. For example, if this is a task at your job, it means you have at least one more job! You have the money to buy food and rent a house. You have eyes, ears, and a sound mind for the task. Assuming you don’t have all of these things, you should be miserable if you have to do them. No, you have it all, so be thankful that you can do something good for the world, learn from it, and be remembered for it.
- Learn and Grow
Through contemplation, consider your purposes, fears, give up fantasies, embrace the “bad”, set limits and be grateful…. …you will understand yourself. This thing, which may be mundane or frightening, will always teach you to understand your own heart. It’s an amazing thing. So, this thing is an amazing opportunity to learn. What a great way to spend your time!
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