During the holidays, if you see five or six grandparents in the attractions, following a young man walking behind the situation.
Don’t get me wrong, that young man with three or four water bottles hanging from his body and his face ashen, is not some elite guide of a high-end private group.
He may just be a “strong man” who was caught leading a tour for elders.
Tickets, hotels, tips, attractions, navigation, dining, shopping …… nothing they can not do, only the elders did not think of.
This can almost be categorized as a special type of work in the travel industry.
In what is known as “flower science” travel variety show “flower less” in the second season, Jing Bo Ran as a guide, has experienced a number of problems such as quarrels among the group members, no one to help with work, accommodation allocation disputes.
The young people who took their elders on the trip were all folk in the well.
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Lead the elders to travel, the focus is not on tourism, but in the “lead the elders”.
It may be a holiday before the parents a 60-second voice sent over, told “the sky will come down on the people also”: “holiday together to go out to play?
“holiday together to go out to play, your aunt / uncle also go, you have time to do a strategy it.”
The same line of elders, from relatives, to mom’s square dance friends, dad’s poker fishing friends ranging from.
Or it could be some overtime night when you’re working or going to school out of town and are told.
“So-and-so wants to come to your place to play a little ah, you receive reception well.”
In short, to mom and dad and their friends and family, as a tour guide.
The person’s thoughts are often very complicated at this point.
On the one hand, the deepest sense of responsibility surges fiercely.
Think about the fact that booking, grabbing tickets, and strategizing for various attractions is indeed not easy for elders nowadays.
They may really need young people to lead and look around, not to be cheated by poor quality tours and shady attractions.
On the other hand, travel is a notoriously humane contest, silent training.
Not to mention, this kind of elders “delegated” tour guide task, often from the beginning of the dark tide.
Hangzhou work Dajiang, a professional “family navigator”.
Walked 5 times the broken bridge, travel App has 3 times the Xixi Wetland ticket order records.
Standing on the Su Causeway to introduce the history of the Leifeng Pagoda to relatives, there are always a few tourists quietly approaching behind, thinking they are rubbing the tour guide’s introduction to the attractions.
No other, only mouth familiar er.
In his eyes, the family group with a series of red dots in the voice, like years ago, elementary school report card with a red pen outlines the score.
No parent can resist the temptation of opening a high-scoring report card “carelessly” at a parent-teacher conference and accepting a few polite words of flattery from the parents around them.
“Recite a pi for grandpa, we’re about to break the 2,000 mark.”
Travel, on the other hand, is a report card in disguise.
The teenage period show results, adult period show maturity, a trip to the proper arrangements, is undoubtedly a sign to show their own daughter son, grown-ups.
“My child, study are not much need to manage.”
“My child, big and small things are handled can be good.”
You see, the same lineage.
Active passive, voluntary involuntary, in this is not distinguishable.
It is true that you think you will not be able to play if you take your elders on a trip, and you are worried about being too tired; it is also true that you think you need to take on the responsibility out of a sense of human decency or responsibility.
Regardless of the psychological struggle, the thin-faced young people eventually took up the task.
According to my observation, most of the friends in this kind of dilemma are not very old, about twenty years old.
They are in the energetic, not yet formed a family, can make the “golden period”, between the stage of good students and indifferent adults.
In addition, the post-90s and post-95s are generally socially fearful, even refusal, are embarrassed to say.
The gears of fate, thus began to turn.
Travel in the most afraid of “casual” people.
But sorry, the elders or to save face, or indeed no idea, most of them will kindly tell you.
“Whatever, we can all.”
Casual, casual, with which class of convenience?
This often makes the “strong travelers” who are not strong enough at heart, the hand of booking tickets tremble slightly.
For a moment, it can feel like the chief housekeeper in “The Legend of Donnie Darko”.
I vaguely perceived that what hotel to book, the budget control at what price, what attractions have a preference is a learning curve, no less than the House of Representatives to the various palace maiden monthly case.
The social animal Yan a on the fifth time to hear the same tour aunt spit out the meal ordinary, and educate themselves “young people can not tie their hands” when the fingers and toes are curled up hard.
Due to the identity of the younger generation can not retort, so I can only cry out in my heart: “If you have the ability to call your son next time.
“The next time you have the ability to ask your son to be a tour guide ah.”
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Travel at first glance is to play in the mountains, but in the multi-person travel, the biggest hurdle is still interpersonal relationships, is the human conflict.
The complexity of the job of “taking elders on a tour” lies in the fact that it is said to be a companion, but it has to take on various responsibilities such as tour guide, photography and translation.
It is said to be a tour guide, but we are not simply employment relationship, conflicts and opinions can not be openly said.
On a family trip with more than ten people, the eldest asked for a children’s meal for the children, the aunt said she didn’t want to eat the special dishes we had reserved, and the aunt wanted to change the room because the hotel bathroom was too small.
At this point, whose needs take precedence?
Sometimes people expect the one with the highest seniority or the oldest to come out and make a decision.
But more often than not, the eldest brother or sister is just a painless roundabout, the scene continues to stalemate.
Coupled with the identity of the junior and senior, young friends in the “service” than the guide may also be dedicated, but also more tired.
After all, when there are many people on a trip, even the command becomes a problem.
At one time you go east, at another time he went west, we are all adults, and it is not good to impose strict rules on the spot not to move.
A group of people talking up, no one can hear who.
Everyone is often under a lot of pressure, but also as a relentless payment machine, but also as an all-round navigator.
If you are not careful, you will be carrying a lot of psychological pressure, fearing that the elders are not satisfied.
Jing, who studied in London, never imagined that her chance to improve her speaking skills by leaps and bounds would be to take a bunch of relatives who were visiting to go shopping and negotiate frantically with the shopping guides.
The bag to what material, what color, clothes to what kind of collar, which cut, perfume to which fragrance, which series.
A large number of professional vocabulary have to look up now, until nine o’clock at night, living in the suburbs of London, Jing was embarrassed to propose that they have to go back.
Worried about “poor care” and “lost face”.
In contrast, when being picked on for “poor arrangements”, the person concerned often has the aggravation of not being understood.
The office of the competent Qi sister, their own college almost by the aunt to travel to cry.
She calculated a day of sights, many of them have never been, thought to be a comfortable family outing.
As a result, on the first night, the aunt began to pick and choose the next day’s schedule, which also did not want to go, that also did not want to go, “How did not arrange to go to xxx attractions ah?”
At that time Qi’s tears to the eyes, but fortunately Qi’s mother and daughter stood on a united front, dislike back.
This kind of family outing, if parents also began to echo the accusations, the party’s mentality to collapse completely.
When Dong started working, he found an elegantly decorated, self-proclaimed somewhat classy restaurant to treat his parents and their friends to a trip.
A few months later, Mom and Dad suddenly brought up this issue, saying “Dongdong’s meal was a bit shabby”.
Dong’s reaction is shown in the picture –
It’s not a trip, it’s a social lesson for young people.
Dong can’t help but think, this kind of entanglement to travel in the end for what it is.
To throw a few bunches of cannonballs into the dull, uneventful, and uneventful interpersonal life?
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Even if there is no complicated human relations, in the travel, the pace between the elders and juniors is difficult to agree.
The travel preferences of different generations are often different.
Those young people do not see the tourists to punch the special, written in large red brush characters of the stone monument.
The elders prefer to queue for ten minutes to leave their intimate photos with “Zen”, “Tianyahaijiao” and “Zhongling Yuxiu”.
You want to find a niche, leisurely stroll around; elders are happy to squeeze in the Forbidden City under the Hall of Taihe, counting how many small tour guide flags, how many tourist groups in the square.
Reader Xiaogong took some aunts on a ferry to a natural scenic spot with good mountains and water and small animals.
The car drove to the top of the mountain, Xiaogong full of expectation slowly down the mountain, close to nature.
It turned out that the aunts were more interested in the bungee jumping at the top of the mountain, or to be precise, in the people who were doing it.
The aunts were kind enough to nag and cheer those who wanted to jump.
In the end, all those people got up the courage to jump, and the satisfied aunts, with a dumbfounded Xiaogong happy to take the ferry down the mountain.
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The young people want to visit the art museums, art exhibitions, net stores, in the eyes of the elders “no meaning at all”.
And the elders are keen on scenic performances, a few mirrors into the “sky realm”, antique shopping streets, young people may not be interested.
Not to mention the difference in physical strength and energy.
Either the elders are easily tired, absolutely unable to visit the attractions at night, and have to walk during the day to rest.
Either young people are more vain, from the top of Mount Tai to the halfway point of the mountain has long been two trembling, elders talk and laugh.
? Travel, and close, do not have to polite people to play together to be happy, this statement is indeed true.
But as mentioned before, taking your elders out to play can be a difficult request to refuse in real life.
Or because of the natural relationship between the elders of the younger generation is not equal, it is difficult to refuse.
Or out of human considerations, fear of refusal, will make parents embarrassed.
Sometimes you can only compromise to accept, give yourself good mental expectations, this trip, is not destined to be as comfortable as traveling with peers.
But from a different perspective, the pestering mentality is rather unique to young people in their 20s.
Before the age of 18, most people are used to relying on their parents.
After the age of 30, it goes without saying that people will be used to taking responsibility for taking care of their elders.
Young people in their 20s are in the transition period from being protected to being the protector.
They are aware of the responsibility of responding to the expectations of their elders and showing them more of the world at an age when they are in good health.
However, they are frustrated when their expectations are not met because they are too young and do not know how to deal with the complexities of human relationships.
If you meet some annoying, prickly elders, really do not want to be a guide this time, trying to find a decent, non-offensive way to refuse.
This has a Vista Inoue treasured secret to break the bank and avoid disaster.
First need to render, their own work is really too busy, can not get away, once you leave the company’s interests, personal interests will lose the tragic situation.
Then offer to help pay for booking attractions, booking restaurants.
It’s a good idea to give the parents a step down, “Oh boy, I’m busy at work, I’m on the rise in my career,” said a bit of Versailles.
And is considered to take the initiative to appease the elders, not too indifferent, but also to avoid the possibility of the elders to come back next time.
Most Chinese elders will not be kind enough to let their 20-odd year olds go through the trouble.
Struggle on, stalwarts.
May you have a calm and quiet May Day holiday this time.
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