Yang Xiaoyan, 29, fell heavily from the 24th floor, taking her four-year-old daughter and two-year-old son with her.
It was March 12, five or six in the morning, and the first rays of the morning sun had just arrived in the Aquileia neighborhood of Changfeng County, Hefei, Anhui Province, where most residents were still asleep.
A second-floor resident opened a window and accidentally found a mother and son on the lawn: Yang Xiaoyan in her pajamas, reclining next to a tree, the girl lying on her back on the manhole cover, and the boy still pockets a diaper, near the first floor wall edge.
After receiving the police at 6:52, the police and “120” rushed to the scene and found that Yang Xiaoyan and her daughter had lost vital signs, her son was then taken to the hospital to rescue, the same day Her son was then taken to hospital and passed away at 13:30 that day.
Before the fall, Yang Xiaoyan wrote 1920 words of her last words on her cell phone and set it to send to her brother-in-law at 6 o’clock, after which she turned off the phone and hid it under her bed.
The last words, she narrated the conflict between her husband and in-laws, said she wanted to leave home, and can not leave the children, choose this path, “is the best place to go.
On the same day, Changfeng County police reported that Yang Xiaoyan jumped to her death with her children due to family conflicts and marital discord.
For the Yang family, they could not accept Xiaoyan’s death and would love to know what happened that night.
It has been nearly a month since the incident, Yang Xiaoyan and her children are still lying in the funeral home, waiting to be buried.
The fall
At 6:01 p.m. on March 12, Yang Qing’s husband received a last message from his sister Yang Xiaoyan.
Yang Qing saw it only after she woke up at 7:25. In her last words, her sister said she was sorry for her parents and had no face to see them; she hoped her brother-in-law would treat her sister well; she also told her brother to pull himself together, “Mom and Dad are in your hands”.
Yang Qing panicked, called his sister, turned off the phone. She called her brother-in-law, Du Hai, and was hung up for the first time, and the phone was also turned off for the second time. She hurriedly called her brother who works in Hefei’s Shushan District.
The brother also called his brother-in-law, and finally got through after half an hour. She asked her sister where she was, and her brother-in-law just said, “In the second hospital”.
Yang Qing’s heart settled down a bit, thinking that in the hospital should not be too serious, and brother to the Second People’s Hospital of Anhui Province and the Second People’s Hospital of Hefei City, respectively.
The second hospital emergency room, the nurse said the adults are not here, there is a child in resuscitation, Yang Qing immediately fell to the ground. Call Du Hai, Du Hai only said in the statement, hung up.
Yang’s father in his hometown, at this time received a phone call from the police station, knowing that his daughter had an accident. Accompanied by Yang Qing’s siblings, he went to the police station to make a statement.
That night, the police told the Yang family, after the fall, the three remains “no one place is sound”, the autopsy results The autopsy results were “consistent with a high fall”, not a criminal case, but a suicide by jumping from a building.
The Yang family could not accept. They said that a few days before the incident, daily contact with Xiaoyan, did not see any signs of lightness of her life. The night before the fall, at 8:17, Yang’s mother also videoed with her daughter for four minutes, and she looked fine, and the two children were fighting to shout “grandma”.
They want to know what happened that night.
A police officer told Surfing News that Du Hai was questioned by the police and said that at seven o’clock that night, Yang Xiaoyan returned home and Du Hai and his mother were at home. They “mixed two words” and went to bed at eight o’clock.
The alarm woke up at 5:30 on the morning of the 12th, Du Hai and lay down for ten minutes, then went to the bathroom, while going to the toilet and playing with the phone. When Xiaoyan and the child were still sleeping in bed, came out and did not see anyone, asked his mother, who said they were not talking about going to eat wontons the night before, went downstairs to eat wontons, right?
He then did not care and did not hear any unusual sounds. Until the brush phone to see the community owners group, someone sent a video of a child falling, clothes look like their own children, he ran downstairs to see, only to find that his wife and children. He told his mother, his mother knew something had happened.
And Du Hai father Du Weicai said slightly different. March 20, he told the surging news, the night of the incident he did not go home on the construction site, after listening to his son said, Xiaoyan went back, his son, his wife called her dinner, she said not to eat, take the child to bed, his son also went to sleep. There was no quarrel that night, the wife, the son did not say anything to stimulate Yang Xiaoyan, “are fine, everything is normal”. The next morning, the son in the toilet, only to hear the sound of commotion outside, thought something happened upstairs, see the group video to know that something happened.
“Good nothing happened, she would do this (do)? “The Yang family has a lot of questions: two children get up, no sound at all? People are falling from the master bedroom balcony, the security window was opened, Du Hai back to the room after a little did not notice? ……
When going to the community worship, Yang Qing listened to neighbors, that night at 2:00 am also heard the sound of an argument from Du Hai home.
However, the aforementioned police, they visited the residents of the whole building, no one reflected that night Du Hai family quarrels and fights; Du Hai’s mother statement also said that night did not quarrel.
Divorce
The last time Yang’s mother saw her daughter was early in the morning of March 8.
Yang Xiaoyan got up at 5:30 that day to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau with her husband to get a divorce, and at around 7:00, she returned to her mother’s house to get her family register – her family register is with her parents.
Yang’s mother, who was still sleeping, asked her daughter what she was looking for, and she said she was getting a divorce. She pulled her daughter down to talk about it.
Xiaoyan cried and said, “If his mother doesn’t pull me, why are you pulling me? She said, “What are you doing?
Yang’s mother asked her daughter to call her son-in-law, who was waiting at the curb, to come in and ask what was going on. The son-in-law did not come. She then gave her daughter the account book, and Xiaoyan took it and ran away.
When she got to the Civil Affairs Bureau, her mother-in-law called Xiaoyan and she hung up. The mother-in-law then called her son, Du Hai, and told him to go to work and ignore it.
That day, Yang Xiaoyan told her friend Liu Lei on WeChat that Du Hai did not retain her, but only asked if she had thought about it. During the mediation, Xiaoyan said, “You are disliked by your in-laws all day long, you can’t get by”. The mediator asked Du Hai to properly mediate, Du Hai back: “He is my old man, how do I say he. “
In order to divorce, Yang Xiaoyan promised not to children, common property, net out of the family, alimony and other children older then give. She was worried that after the divorce, her in-laws would not let her see the children.
The mediator registered, let them come back after a month of “cooling off” period.
“Five years and nothing,” Yang Xiaoyan said. Liu Lei reassured her that this was “the best gift to herself on Goddess Day, relief”.
Hair Yang Mengya that day also received a voice from Xiaoyan, with a crying voice, said she did not want to be aggrieved in his home, “I work they say, do not work also say, how I do, they all say I “. Yang Jingya persuaded her to go back to her parents’ home to discuss with them, and Xiaoyan said, “Okay, I’ll go home.
Yang’s mother was worried about her daughter and wanted to ask her son-in-law, but Xiaoyan told her to calm down, “Wait for him to go to you, what are you looking for him to do? “Listen to my voice, I don’t feel like I’ve cried so much. “
That afternoon, Yang Xiaoyan went home to get two pieces of clothing, borrowed to live in the next neighborhood Zhou Jiaxue home. Before, she joked with Zhou, said to “put a bed quilt in your home to stay back.
In the next three days, Yang Xiaoyan continued to go out every day at 5:00 a.m. to work at the fresh supermarket outside the neighborhood – after her mother-in-law helped with the children this year, she started working as a stocker at the supermarket, working 8 hours a day with a salary of more than 2,000, for less than 20 days. She plans to work for a few more days and then go to work as a nanny for a higher salary.
After the morning shift, she also went to driving school subject two. March 10, she told Liu Lei, she was stupid, reversing nine, only one into the. “There is a word called practice, a word called persistence, a word called start over”, she sent a circle of friends, but also the last one before life.
In those days, after talking with colleagues and friends, Yang Xiaoyan changed her mind and wanted to re-filing for divorce for custody of her eldest daughter – who had a congenital ear disease and she was worried about her daughter being aggrieved.
Yang’s mother expressed her support, saying that her family was about to be demolished, and that she had been given a house to help Xiaoyan with her children after the divorce.
On the afternoon of March 11, after consulting a lawyer by phone, Yang Xiaoyan went back to Du’s house to look for her daughter’s disability certificate and birth certificate. She couldn’t find it anywhere. She wanted to wait for Du Hai to come back from work and ask him again.
That day, Liu Lei received a phone call from Xiaoyan, she cried and said that once she came home and saw the child, she couldn’t let go and wanted the child.
When she didn’t come home for a few days, her husband would sometimes ask her on WeChat where she slept and how to get to work in the morning. Xiaoyan teased, “No words at home, leaving home, talk more.” “Then no more talk, I’m going to sleep. “Du Hai ended the conversation.
Yang’s mother was always uneasy and called her daughter back to her mother’s house every day. Xiaoyan said to go back in three days.
Three days later, the person was gone.
After the incident, Yang’s mother blamed herself for not calling her daughter home, she spent the whole day paralyzed in bed with tears, while Yang’s father kept smoking and rarely spoke.
Yang Qing quit her job to be with her parents. She did not know how to comfort them, and did not dare to show her grief. Since she was a child, her sister had always protected her, and she lay on the bed where she had slept with tears streaming down her face.
The child
Time flowed slowly in this family.
In late March, the roadside peach and rape blossoms were in full bloom, and in the Yang family’s field, strawberries were already tinged with red.
The three strawberry sheds were planted the year before last, and if they do well, they can earn more than 100,000 yuan a year. Now is the time for picking.
In the past, Xiaoyan would also bring her children and come back by bus for an hour and a half. The two children were happy to hear that they were going to grandma’s house to eat strawberries.
The Yang family’s two-story bungalow was built more than ten years ago, and there was nothing decent furniture in the house, and things were arranged in a messy way. In the room on the second floor, two beds are put together, and Xiaoyan and the children sleep here when they return.
This is also the place where Xiaoyan grew up. She was born in the summer of 1992 and is the oldest in her family. Her parents raised her three siblings by farming and doing odd jobs.
After finishing junior high school, Xiaoyan went out to work and did a three-month light bulb plug-in in an electronics factory in Hangzhou. Parents do not feel comfortable, she returned to Hefei, in a small restaurant as a waiter, cashier.
In the eyes of her family and friends, she was cheerful, simple and thrifty, and most of her salary subsidized her family, often buying clothes and shoes for her younger siblings.
In the spring of 2016, through a matchmaker, Yang Xiaoyan met Du Hai, who was one and a half years older than her.
Du Hai, whose hometown is 20 kilometers away in another village, works as an aluminum alloy window maker and seems to be honest and talk little. In 2013, his parents paid $280,000 down to buy him a house in Aquileia, with a mortgage of $200,000.
Xiaoyan’s parents did not quite agree at first, feeling that Du’s location was a bit off, but Xiaoyan liked him and said he was good to her. Not long after, she got pregnant.
Three or four months after they met, they got married. After the wedding, Du Hai Ban, Xiaoyan home waiting for delivery, the in-laws came over only in the Spring Festival, the days were as uneventful as water.
In January 2017, her daughter Kiki was born. Xiaoyan wanted her mother-in-law to help take care of her, was refused, only to bring their own.
“Isn’t it normal for her to bring up a child at home alone? Can’t it? ” said Du Weicai, the father-in-law, in an interview with Punch News.
Kiki is deaf in both ears and “particularly difficult to bring up.” Yang Qing remembers that before she was two years old, she cried non-stop at night and could not be coaxed to sleep on her mother’s body when she was tired of crying, sometimes falling asleep at four or five in the morning.
The son, Hao Hao, was conceived by accident. Du Hai wanted his mother to help him bring him up, but she did not want to. They were ready to abort, but couldn’t, so they went to Nanjing for a pregnancy test and found that the child was healthy and decided to give birth.
Yang Xiaoyan holds her daughter when she is pregnant with her second child
Haohao was born in February 2019. He was born weak, bad lung trachea, a month or so, choking a little wind, hospitalization cost more than 10,000; less than a month after discharge, after blowing wind and hospitalization cost more than 10,000 – Yang’s mother said that the hospital bill was her daughter to borrow from her.
Yang Qing recalled that the two children are very sticky mother, every day “hanging on her”, sister alone with two, often this just put to sleep, that began to make trouble; sleep at night, a stirring quilt. It is easy to get cold, every month or two to be sick once, one sick also passed to the other.
Once Yang Jingya went to the hospital to visit her children and saw Xiaoyan running alone from upstairs to downstairs, taking medicine and labs, while the children had to be looked after by the patient next to her. When doing the test, the child was upset, and she was anxious to cry.
Zhou Jiaxue once saw, Xiaoyan hair disheveled, haggard, hugging her daughter with a fever, and kept patting ah pat, “the child is her life. “
Occasionally, Xiaoyan will confess her heartache in her circle of friends: “It’s not easy, holding (the child) to sleep for two years,” “annoyed, intermittently sick, tired of heart”, “how much longer to insist, to have a normal sleep” ……
Last December, she wrote, sending Kiki on the way to school, holding the big pushing the small, two minutes away from the goal when holding can not hold, let Kiki walk by themselves, Kiki does not go, she kicked, Kiki cried, she also cried, “once I despise this behavior, but now their own like this The first thing you need to know is how to get over from having one in your belly and holding one in your hand. Look down on me, it’s okay, I don’t need to look down ……”
When her friends felt sorry for her, she always said, “It’s okay, it’s okay to suffer for a few years. The company has been encouraging itself to “have a good mindset” and “try to become The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Dilemma
Before she went to work, Yang Qing often went to her sister’s house to help with the children. Kiki loves beauty, and when she saw Yang Qing’s daughter wearing braids, she wanted to do it too, and was happy when she did. When she called her name, she also knew to look back.
Zhou Jiaxue helped bring Kiki a few times, and every time Kiki called out “Auntie Auntie”, her voice was sweet and she waited for her mother. Hao Hao is more naughty and doesn’t like to be touched.
Not tall, very thin, with freckles on his face, plain face, dressed plainly, is the impression Yang Xiaoyan left to the neighbors in the neighborhood. She is often seen pushing a stroller and taking her two children out to play.
Yang Xiaoyan’s life was frugal. Friends recall that after the wedding, she hardly ever bought new clothes, invited her out to play, but also can not afford to spend money, 19.9 yuan sweat parent-child tickets are heartbroken. But she does not want to aggravate the child, Kiki’s a skirt more than 400 yuan, she also thought about buying the child hundreds of silk quilt.
She often uses credit cards, spend money, “everyone thought she was financially strained. “Yang Jingya heard Xiaoyan said, last year Du Hai did not give her money, spend money to the repayment date, he turned the bill to pay.
She asked Liu Lei to borrow money a few times, 10, 20, 100, mostly to buy things for her children. “The child looked at other people’s food eyes, she did not have money, so let me transfer to her. “Liu Lei said.
The most is 500 – that time she rode a battery car hit someone else’s car, to pay 500, looking for Du Hai to ask, Du Hai did not give, she had to find Liu Lei borrow.
After the marriage, for the children’s illness, buy things, Xiaoyan intermittently find her mother’s family borrowed 50,000.
Starting last August, she pushed the two children every day, took a half-hour bus ride, and sent Kiki to the rehabilitation center for classes. She wanted to buy an electric car with a shed to facilitate transportation, which cost several thousand dollars, but Du Hai did not agree, and she was too embarrassed to ask her parents to borrow.
She always thought Du Hai had no money until this year before New Year’s Eve, turning his phone, only to find that he had more than 100,000 in savings.
But Du Weicai described a very different: he said his son Du Hai can earn 70,000 to 80,000 a year, “the money is not all for her to use? “My son is sorry for her hard work with children, she will give as much money as she wants,” she said to buy what to buy “, it is the daughter-in-law’s own indiscriminate. He and his wife also subsidize them 10 or 20 thousand every year. Last year to buy hearing aids for Kiki spent more than 20,000, is their own and older son each contributed 10,000.
Rupture
When Kiki was a few months old, Yang Xiaoyan first had the idea of divorce.
In her last words, she wrote: that time Kiki fever to 39 degrees, twice urinated on her pants, she did not have time to change. At noon, her cousin helped make lunch, but she only ate one bite. The child’s fever was so bad that she carried it alone to the pharmacy to buy medicine, or the pharmacist helped feed the medicine. When she got home, she sat in the living room with the baby in her arms, hoping her husband would come home early. The first person to come home was her father-in-law, who accused her of making a mess of the house when he saw that the dishes were not put away and the windows were closed.
They got into a fight. Xiaoyan said, “This is my home, I can do whatever I want to do”. The father-in-law replied, “I’ll ask Du Hai whose home this is. “
Du Hai came home and said, “He is my father, he told you, you only tolerate”. “I dare not speak this is my house, you dare to say it is your house ah”.
During the argument, Kiki’s fever reached 39.8 degrees, and they rushed to the hospital in a panic. On the way home, Yang Xiaoyan made up her mind to get a divorce. “It was you (Du Hai) who gave me a knee, so I didn’t insist.”
In 2019, her mother-in-law suffered from a meningioma, and after the surgery, she came to Xiaoyan’s house more often.
“She said that as long as the in-laws do not come okay, a little hard work is okay, the in-laws come to quarrel. “Yang Jingya heard Xiaoyan mention several times that she wanted to get a divorce. She advised Xiaoyan not to start a head-on conflict with her in-laws. Xiaoyan returned, “Some people you can’t hide from”. She asked why she had to hide in her own home, and Xiaoyan said, “I don’t even dare to say it’s my own home. “
Last year, her mother-in-law offered to help with the children and let her go to work, Xiaoyan felt that the children were too young, not yet weaned, and wanted to bring their own.
In her last words, she wrote that her father-in-law said, “We’re old, don’t say we didn’t give you a child. Xiaoyan wrote back, “You can stop saying that, but I won’t raise you”.
Her father-in-law asked her to return the down payment on the house and the money she had received during the three years of marriage. She felt aggrieved that her in-laws had not given her the money, but asked her to return it. As usual, her husband was silent.
The idea of divorce was getting stronger and stronger. “I’m only 30 years old, I can’t keep living like this. ” Xiaoyan told Yang Jingya.
The divide continued to deepen, and the couple also moved to fight. Yang Xiaoyan confided in her best friend, after finding her husband saved private money, she asked him to return the money she borrowed from her mother’s family, her husband did not give, she held her husband’s legs and did not let him go, her husband dropped her glasses and fought.
This year, her mother-in-law offered to take the children again, and considering that her son was two years old, Xiaoyan agreed.
But the quarrels didn’t stop. One day before the Lantern Festival, the child cried at home, and her in-laws said that when Xiaoyan was at home, the two children made a fuss and it was not easy to bring them up. She did not talk back, took the child to the elevator and waited for the elevator, the father-in-law still stood at the door and said.
“I just messed up the mold to, I take the children they also look down on me, I go to work and say I. “Xiaoyan said to Yang Jingya.
Working in the supermarket, she envied her colleague’s husband, who came to the supermarket every night to help his wife work and close up. “I can’t live without divorce (marriage),” she said.
Several customers who often go to the supermarket to buy food had seen Xiaoyan crying while tending to the goods. A neighbor in the next building also heard Xiaoyan say that she came home at night when her mother-in-law was asleep.
Another thorn in Yang’s side was that her father-in-law called Kiki a “coward” (stupid). She told her husband, but he only asked “when did he say that”.
When interviewed by Punch News, Du Weicai denied that he had scolded his granddaughter, “it’s all made up”.
He said that sometimes the family hygiene is not good, he will say two words, his wife will say he, said Xiaoyan at home with children is not easy. They have not quarreled with Yang Xiaoyan, “never a big conflict, small quarrels are not,” The company’s main business is to provide a good service to its customers. good, right? “, “you all do not know the inside story, after I will certainly also send online “.
“Why does the daughter-in-law want a divorce? ” the reporter asked.
“I can’t figure it out, she that idea you can’t imagine. “Du Weicai said that Yang Xiaoyan never communicate with them about anything, and when they talk, her tone is very impulsive; when they go to her home, she also does not talk to them, never called them a mom and dad. “What kind of daughter-in-law do you think this is? “
He said that he and his wife do not want their son to divorce, is the daughter-in-law repeatedly mentioned, really want to go away, she is not willing, “repeatedly, you do not know what she thinks in her heart.” The son and his wife don’t want to divorce.
He felt aggrieved, “You said we did not treat her badly, right? It’s really her own desire to take a desperate path. “
Waiting
On March 5, Zhou Jiaxue saw Yang Xiaoyan’s mother-in-law in the rehabilitation center, in front of many parents, said her daughter-in-law lazy, children with bad. She recorded it to remind Xiaoyan.
Xiaoyan sent the video to her husband, who did not say anything. She made up her mind to get a divorce.
The afternoon before the crash, Zhou Jiaxue heard Xiaoyan’s mother-in-law say in the rehabilitation center that she could not bring up the child. Thinking that Xiaoyan had already mentioned divorce, this time she did not talk to Xiaoyan, only asked her if she would go back to her house to sleep at night. Xiaoyan said she wanted to go back to Du’s house. She then did not ask more questions.
The next day after the incident, the police went to her home to take away Xiaoyan’s clothes, pockets containing bank cards, bus cards, registration photos, and 500 yuan.
When living in Zhou Jiaxue’s home, Xiaoyan had said, after the divorce can not see the child, do sister-in-law can see other people’s children, but also a period.
“She gives people are kind of optimistic and strong feeling. “Yang Jingya also can not believe it. A few days before the accident, Xiaoyan also said, earn money to buy birthday gifts for her almost two-year-old daughter.
They also agreed that when Xiaoyan saved up, they would take her to get rid of the spots on her face, buy some clothes and change herself. Xiaoyan said, “Okay, okay, I’ll work hard and save hard! “
After the incident, Yang’s family submitted Xiaoyan’s chat records with friends and family before her death to the police, trying to trace the motive of Xiaoyan’s fall.
To visit the funeral home, cremation, need to Du, Yang two signatures. Can not contact each other, the Yang family will be screenshots posted online, hoping to get the Du family to show up.
Yang Qing said that the eighth day of the incident, the morning of March 19, she received a text message from Du Weicai, hoping that the two negotiated to have the deceased cremated as soon as possible. Yang’s family asked Du Hai and parents, brother, matchmaker all to appear, but was refused.
And for Yang Qing’s claim, Du Weicai almost always denied. He said that the Yang family released on the Internet is nonsense, the days after the accident, the son’s cell phone in the Public Security Bureau, there is no woman’s home phone, they also dare not meet with the Yang family, afraid of a head-on conflict, things are getting bigger.
Du Weicai said that after the police gave him Yang Qing’s phone number, his nephew called, the other party scolded his family to cut off their children, but also hung up the phone, “let me so angry.
“(Yang Xiaoyan) heart is so cruel, took the child away”, Du Weicai said, after the accident son trance, reluctant to talk, their own family is the biggest victim. Now, he only wants to be cremated and buried as soon as possible, and anything to deal with later.
Previously, Changfeng County Judicial Bureau had intervened in mediation. The Yang family insisted that Du Hai and his parents and brother all come out to face the confrontation and apologize; while the Du family did not want Du Hai’s brother to be involved, and did not agree to “wear mourning” at the funeral. Mediation ended without a hitch, and the two sides have not been able to meet.
Recently, the Yang family contacted a lawyer to prepare a civil lawsuit.
The incident has been restored to the community as usual. The stroller that the children sat in is still parked in the hallway. Some owners moved away out of fear. Several grannies gathered to talk about it and couldn’t stop sighing for the mother and son, “It’s so sad, it’s such a pity.”
Xiaoyan’s story is still circulating online. Some people shared their own stories and were glad they chose to sue, but also lamented the fact that two young lives were swept away by adult strife before they could be stretched.
No one knows how the young mother spent that night, what she was thinking, and how she left in desperation. The sealed room sealed all this. This was the place where Yang Xiaoyan became a mother, and where her life and that of her child fell away.
Without the accident, she probably would have taken her daughter back to her mother’s home. Kiki went to kindergarten nearby, and she went to work as a nanny. When the demolished house is divided, she will have a house, a home of her own. The front of the house will be filled with fruit trees, cherries, persimmons, pears, date palms, and a pond where carp and loaches swim around. When spring comes, she will take her children to pick strawberries.
That’s the life she’s longing for.
(At the request of the interviewer, all characters in the article are pseudonyms)
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