Being pampered and feeling pampered are different, the former is passive and the latter is a subjective experience, however they are the same in one thing, they both feel awful over time.
The movie Miracle Boy tells a seemingly warm and inspiring story, but the back side of all the performances shows us the cold side of warmth.
A young boy, Auggie, was born with a facial defect and has undergone multiple surgeries since he was a child, but his face still looks like an eye sore. In order to protect her from the eyes of society, his mother, Isabel, chooses to give up her job and career to grow up with him, and a family classroom begins to function, with the teacher as mother and the student as son.
There is nothing wrong with a mother’s psychology or behavior, it is a mother’s love and devotion. In the meanest Chinese language, it’s not your fault if you’re ugly, but it’s your fault if you come out scary. It was the fear that this mean-spiritedness would cause Auggie harm that changed the family’s mode of operation: Auggie, with his facial defects, was the sun of the family, and his father, Nate, mother, Isabel, and sister, Weah, were all planets revolving around the sun.
After four years of homeschooling, Isabel decided to send Auggie to public school to grow up with children his own age. Inevitably, Auggie experienced oddness, surprise, amazement, and derisive remarks at school.
Teachers and classmates were careful not to irritate Auggie, except for individual children who openly teased him about his resemblance to a monster from Star Wars. No one wanted to eat at the same table as Auggie, and a boy named Julian pretended to be carrying a tray of food.
The first day of school was difficult for Auggie, especially during recess, when the tree-lined campus was filled with students and the contorted face was the center of strange stares, whispers, and disdainful taunts.
At this point, all he wants to do is put on his favorite astronaut helmet and transpose himself to another scene, to be someone who doesn’t have to show his face, but can attract attention and cheers. It is also Auggie’s dream to be an astronaut, and he often wears an astronaut helmet even in his daily life at home.
The most important thing for a child with a physical handicap is not what his family or the outside world thinks of him, nor is it the care and love of family and friends, but his own perception of himself. He has to accept himself as he is inside and have an objective perception of himself in order to cope with or ignore the outside world’s strange looks.
Auggie wore a spacesuit helmet at home before he went to school because he felt special attention from his family, which meant he was a child in need of special attention, and he was pampered out of love from his family. But he doesn’t want to be treated differently, he wants to be a normal, normal child, but he’s not. He accepts his specialness, isolates himself, and lives in the world he likes.
For the weak and handicapped, real cruelty is more real than deliberate hypocrisy, and even the real kindness of family and friends can make the person being cared for feel very lame and weak.
In a sense, feeling pampered is a much worse situation to be in. You can’t say to someone who is genuinely kind to you, you can’t say you’re making me feel useless. You can’t say that you make me feel like I’m worthless, but deep down you’re angry at the people who are really nice to you, because of things you can’t change, like facial deformities, like being born a dwarf, and so on.
The film treats the same scene from different perspectives of different people, showing the different forms of a relationship. The mother, Isabelle, gives up her career and gives selflessly, which is a heavy price for her and an emotional burden for Auggie.
Sister Vanya, who learned early to cope independently with everything in her studies and life because of her brother, was occasionally jealous of Auggie, who in his weakness possessed all of her parents’ attention and companionship. One of the very rare occasions when her mother’s company was interrupted by her brother’s accident at school. She is a sensible child, but she is also a child who needs her parents’ love. However, due to Auggie’s facial deformities, the family’s love was severely skewed.
Auggie’s classmate, Jack, was initially asked by the school to approach and befriend Auggie, and later really liked being in a relationship with Auggie, but because of an inadvertent slip of the tongue on a social occasion on Halloween, he may or may not have spoken out of turn, and told some of the boys he was with that if I look like him, I’m going to die. This deeply hurts Auggie behind the mask, and on his favorite holiday, Halloween, when everyone is allowed to wear weird or exaggerated masks, no one notices his facial deformities, yet they are most likely to hear the truth. At Halloween, sometimes a deliberate disguise is closer to the truth than a real masked smile. Auggie and Jack’s relationship was instantly sealed.
Later, when the other students thought they were catching germs by touching Auggie, a little girl sat across from him with a tray of food and bravely made friends with him. Later, Auggie and Jack were able to put their differences behind them and become friends again.
Later, Auggie is named the most outstanding student of the school year. A warm and inspiring story with a positive and sunny ending.
The film deliberately creates a warm environment, with only one Julian on the opposite side, showing the coldness and cruelty of the real world. In the real world, however, there is no such warmth as in the film, as Auggie is more likely to have Julian by his side, and Jack is extremely rare.
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