When I was in middle school and high school, the most common thing to do after each exam is to gather around and ask “How was your exam?” Usually, those with good grades discuss with those with good grades and those with not so good grades discuss with those who are not so good, for example, I belong to this kind. After our internal discussion, we always find someone with better grades than us and ask them, but the answer we always get is: “I don’t know, I don’t feel good.” Once we heard that, we were even more confused. But often the results come out, people test very well. Over time, this type of person is defined by us as “very hypocritical.”
When I was in college, the best performance in our class, study hard, always get a scholarship, is my good friend. Every time she finished the test, her expression was particularly serious, always anxious to say “feel bad ah.” I thought, this person is good at everything, how to meet this thing also love to play it, too hypocritical.
Later, when we got together to talk about this matter, she said sincerely, I’m really not hypocritical, it’s really the bottom of the heart.
At that time I still did not understand. Until the first two years I enrolled in an examination, after the test I was very anxious. A good friend comforted me, you do not worry, you can certainly pass. I was thinking, “I’m not worried about passing, I’m worried about whether I can get a high score.
It was at that time that I suddenly realized. Those students were not being hypocritical, they were not comparing themselves to me. The tenth place is in comparison with the fifth place, the fifth place is in comparison with the first place. My good friend, the goal is to get a scholarship.
When I figured this out, I also understood the existence of what I once did not understand.
For example, Xiao Zhao said to Xiao Qian, you are six or seven thousand a month salary you still enter the study, you still earn less, I just more than three thousand, quite good ah.
For example, Xiao Sun said to Xiao Li, you so many clothes still too little, so sophisticated, I do not have so much it.
For example, Xiao Zhou said with Xiao Wu, you run that place to travel, the sun is like what, at home with more comfortable ah, suffer that crime.
。。。。。。Maybe you just simply, without jealousy hate to send out sighs, but people are really not intentionally with your performance, they are the goal and reference and you are not at all on a point. You feel that people do not know enough to give themselves to others for reference, or bring people to their own reference, which are very inappropriate.
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