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Because after returning to China, the two things that are urged the most, one is the job search, the other is to seek a spouse. Especially in the matter of looking for an object, not only is my mother secretly knocking on the side of the drum, to be honest, this older single young women also want to have sweet love.
So when a friend sent a link to this matchmaking meeting, see “ID card real name into the field, the master’s degree accounted for more than 70%, there are countries returnees, civil servants, finance, IT elite” label, I have a little moved.
When I saw that the matchmaking rate was as high as 40%, which was higher than that of the non-competitive ones, I decided: “Go, I must go.”
The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
The company’s friends have been in the business for a long Time, and there are different themes of matchmaking activities every night.
“The company’s main goal is to create the best possible opportunity for singles to meet each other.
This is one of the most demanding matchmaking events for returnees.
The most important thing is that you can get a ticket, and you can’t get a Beijing residence + a returnee / master’s degree.
Did my love die on the account before the ice was broken?
Well, after repeatedly confirming, the bridesmaid reluctantly relented: “Why don’t you go to the one at the branch, which is limited to Education.”
She also added, “Although the registration form says it’s free to attend the event, it still depends on the circumstances of the day, with priority given to members.”
In other words, if there are too many people attending the event, I, as a regular player, will need to pay 180 to get in.
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At 6:30 pm that night, with the demon wind in Beijing, I arrived at the Matchmaking Bureau event in an office building on time.
I thought there would not be many people coming to the event in such bad weather.
Who knew that just standing at the entrance, I could already see many men and women in groups of three or two in the room, either with a questioning look and a long talk with the red lady, or with a bit of embarrassment and shyness, looking for topics with the TA they were meeting for the first time.
Just as I was curiously surveying, the lady at the reception desk had begun to guide me to fill in my personal information:.
“Name?”
“Education?”
“Mobile phone number?”
“Come ID card to show.”
After the verification, the red lady who contacted me on WeChat greeted me and asked me to sit down for a while, while I took this time to survey the store’s décor.
The fence divides the entire site into a room and a hall.
The lobby is hung with a television set, on which the wedding photos of the members who have successfully joined hands here are played on a loop, and in addition to the names of the bride and groom, the names of the bridesmaids are also greatly marked.
The walls are filled with graffiti and slogans left by the men and women who have visited the place.
“Love me, put me in a wedding dress and then strip with your own hands.”
“Cucumber to find a young wife to find a beautiful”
“Don’t bother me, I have something to say in bed.”
When I turned around, I heard the red lady at the next table talking to a lady who looked around 30 years old with great enthusiasm.
“You want to say that particularly handsome people, how can there be in real Life, most of them are ordinary people, right? It’s just a matter of eye appeal.”
“I’ll be honest, you see now in Beijing, the rest or more girls, a lot of good conditions of the boys have objects. Now we are not too old, we can still pick one. But the opportunity is always reserved for those who are prepared, do not hurry to find, in two years, a little older, it is difficult to find the right one.”
“Girls and boys are a little different, we have the best childbearing age, one after this age, physical energy in all aspects will not be able to keep up, you for example, I feel less healthy than before after the age of 25.”
“The actual fact is that you can find the best way to get the most out of your life.
This is the first time I’ve ever seen a girl who has been in the market for a long time.
It so happens that I also have a copy on my desk, so I opened it and looked at it, the details written on this dating club held a variety of thematic activities, as well as the price of matchmaking services, divided into monthly, annual and package to Marriage, the cheap but a couple of thousand, the most expensive is not tens of thousands.
Of course, the corners also printed a lot of chicken Soup for the soul.
What kind of people are the most difficult to find objects?
The moral and moral corruption and all aspects of outstanding people.
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After about half an hour, the main event of the evening finally began.
The red lady brought me to the event room, the boys side, girls side sitting around a long table, each in front of a number plate, the general situation can refer to the script to kill the brain.
The organizers intend to control the ratio of male and female students at 1:1, I counted, 10 boys and 10 girls.
As the guests on the field sat down, the men and women who were originally talking in the hall, also came together to the railing, three layers around, some look like they are watching, some with eyes to measure the male and female guests on the field.
“I’ll start with our rules, no leaving the field in the middle, no playing with the phone, if I find out that playing with the phone, but to punish the singing yo.”
After announcing the rules of the matchmaking bureau, the hostess led us to raise our right fist and began to swear, probably “I voluntarily came to participate in this activity, with an open and friendly mind to make friends, and to ensure that now is a single state.” The words “I volunteer to come to this event with an open and friendly mind to make friends and pledge to be single now.
According to the organizer’s requirements, the self-introduction should contain details such as “name, age, height, education, college, occupation, income, household registration, house and car, hobbies, marriage status”.
The self-introduction started with the boys.
There are master’s degree in Chinese from Peking University, undergraduates with an annual salary of nearly 2 million, MBA from the University of Singapore, International Students in intelligence from France, programmers from Xi’erqi, and young talents who are 30 years old and have a Beijing house, Beijing car and Beijing household.
The educational background of the female side is no less impressive.
Some were in their second year of doctoral studies, some were Nankai graduate students, some had a master’s degree from Nanyang Technological University, some had a master’s degree from the UK, and some had already bought a house in Beijing.
The moderator then threw out the question that everyone had to answer.
“Are you in the Appearance Association?”
“What are the advantages and disadvantages of marrying a beautiful wife/
What are the advantages and disadvantages of marrying a handsome man?”
“What do you think a good woman/man is like?”
The answers were still in the order of the male and female students.
Of the 10 guys present, 3 firmly denied that they were appearanceist, 1 confessed that he was appearanceist, and the other 6 said, “It’s okay, it mainly depends on eye contact.” And gave their more important girls plus points:.
“I care more about girls with good character and be kind.”
“I am not an appearance association, but big eyes are a plus.”
“I am not an appearance association, but I hope she is not too fat.”
“Looking for a partner is like looking for a partner, with high overall quality.”
In their opinion, the biggest advantage of marrying a beautiful wife is that it can satisfy their vanity, but the resulting financial and Family stability concerns will be more:.
“The benefit is to take out the turnaround rate will be higher, right, go out with a face, the downside is some economic concerns, maybe she buy cosmetics to buy clothes will spend more money.”
“Married to a beautiful wife is of course very happy, they will feel more confident, but at the same time the pressure is also relatively large, afraid of wife regret so peer pressure is relatively large, but also worried about the outside chasing more people.”
“The benefit is that you can meet your own vanity, the downside is the fear that she may be more love to climb.”
“Looking for beautiful is of course for family harmony, because see her face so nice, will also take the initiative to coax her to apologize with her.”
As for the question “what kind of woman is a good woman”, the most mentioned answer is “family”, the frequency is so high that almost everyone must mention.
I just can’t figure out why someone would ask his significant other to have his own career while also taking care of his family, aren’t these two somewhat contradictory requirements?
“She should be mild-mannered and have her own career, but take care of her family.”
“I hope she is more traditional. Some of the more open values abroad don’t quite suit the Chinese.”
“She can work with me through thick and thin in the face of adversity.”
“She can keep an open mind, communicate with the world at all times, and keep up with the times.”
“Extroverted, independent, understanding and mature.”
“Filial, virtuous, hope she can be a virtuous helper, take care of all the things at Home.”
Compared to the boys who mostly claim they are not an external appearance association, the girls are a little more straightforward.
Among the 10 people, four gave positive answers, two said they would look at the face but not completely, and the remaining four girls said they were not an appearance association.
Most of them think that appearance is only one aspect of a boy’s own condition, and handsome or not is not the most important, character is put in the first place.
The qualities that are valued by most girls are: commitment, responsibility, willingness to communicate, good to his wife, and respect for women.
“Good for the eyes, after all, handsome no intuitive standards. As for the “good or bad” in fact, and he is handsome or not handsome nothing to do with the more important is to see this person and your feelings together, as long as he is serious and responsible, good character, take charge, good for the wife on the line.”
“I admit that I am a nymphomaniac, but when looking for an object will not be a nymphomaniac, the other side can look past the line. Find a handsome husband of course will be more than teach eye-catching, but at the same time outside of the flowers a bit of a distraction. The most important thing is that the two people can share the pain and suffering, and then a little more favoritism towards me.”
“I am not an appearance association, a boy good-looking is just an appearance, is a condition of him, but the most important thing is that he has requirements for himself, motivated, love life, willing to create a better life together with the other half, know what they have to do at what age.”
“I like guys with a warm smile, guys who love to smile means he is open-minded. I hope he is open-minded, his personal thoughts and emotions are not too negative, and he is willing to communicate.”
“I’m in the Appearance Society, but I also keep a touch of sanity under looking at faces and don’t judge everything about a person just by their face. The good thing is that maybe my child can inherit this handsome gene, the bad thing is that the face is easy to pass away one day he will also not handsome. The most important thing for a good man is to respect women and my hobbies.”
After the rounds of speeches, the anonymous questioning session was entered.
In this part, men and women can write down questions about the opposite sex they are interested in, and the moderator will ask them.
From here, it was also possible to see who was the most popular – the
Although the lowest education but annual salary of nearly 2 million, some small handsome, in the background of the older man looks a little more young No. 2 male guest, become the popular king among the boys.
“Why are you single? How about previous relationship experience?” Small pieces of paper with anonymous questions from the girls were handed to the host one after another.
The most popular girls were No. 5, a doctoral student, and No. 3, a girl who loves to play games.
The boys asked the former about her plans for her work life afterwards and whether any of her classmates were still single; the latter was asked what her favorite game was and what model of video card she had.
Oh yes, there were also girls who were asked the classic question: How do you balance work and family?
Round after round of questions and answers made the time pass quickly, and before you knew it three hours passed.
In the final speed dating session, you need to write down your number and the number of your heartthrob on the card, and if you choose each other, the match is successful.
When the host announced the results of the speed dating, I felt a little surprised but reasonable – the most popular No. 2 male guest and the most popular No. 5 female guest hand in hand, and the other pair is from the same province of hometown.
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After the event, I randomly talked to a few of the parties involved in the event.
Maybe from their words, we can see some more intuitive feelings of the TAs about this event and about the Shuo-Bo Matchmaking Bureau.
Ruby (pseudonym), female, 94 years, master.
To be honest, from the moment I arrived the consultant pulled me in for a chat, I felt that she was selling women’s age anxiety, maybe she was also trying to pull in a few more members, after all, it’s not easy for everyone to work (laughs).
My first impression is that the overall condition of the girls’ side is better than the boys’. Because on the one hand, the average age is younger, almost all around 25-30 years old, while the boys have a lot of older, and several are almost four. And girls may be more clean up their own bar, look quite beautiful decent. The boys, on the other hand, gave me a kind of … not so good feeling, one even looks a bit like Su Daqiang.
After all, it is a blind date, always give me a feeling of transaction. Everyone openly and honestly to talk about their hard and soft conditions, so I feel quite uninteresting, no chat atmosphere.
In addition, this bureau gives me the biggest feeling is “appearance”, the host asked questions based on this point, many girls said they are not appearance association, but the most questions or the most handsome guy, sometimes women are quite hypocritical.
Wennie (pseudonym), female, 97 years old, returnee.
The whole event left me with a deep sense of being offended. The words of the staff, the scrutinizing eyes, made me feel like a girl was treated like a commodity. Is this how marriage is a naked comparison of conditions to make a deal?
The female guests were decent and anxious, but the guys, on the other hand, gave me a sense of confidence that “they are not very good, but they have to weigh whether they want to marry a beautiful wife. The values are exactly the same as on Weibo, you want your wife to be independent and docile, you might as well have a dog! I’ve never been around such guys before, so it gives me a sense of the absurdity of the microblogging into reality.
And there are guys who, despite having studied abroad, are still old-fashioned at heart, don’t really know how to respect women, and aren’t right at all in terms of gender equality.
Lucaz (pseudonym), male, 88 years, master.
I feel that girls are so demanding nowadays.
For example, the girl who said she was “a looker, but not just a face”, I and the guy next to me thought that this girl was a bit too demanding, she had to be handsome and good at other things, I don’t know how it is for other people, but I’m under a lot of pressure anyway.
Elieen (pseudonym), female, 89 years, returnee.
In fact, I quite understand this activity. The name “Master’s degree” gives us the opportunity to meet more people with similar backgrounds to ourselves, so it’s easier to have a conversation.
Besides, the matchmaking bureau is quite real. Because some people think that marriage is for love, then TA must think that this way is not suitable for TA; but some people think that marriage is to maintain private property, more commonly speaking, is to find a match under the premise of the right family, then this kind of similar dating bureau is a simple and efficient way to make friends.
As for myself, I seem to know the reason why I have been single for so many years, and the reactions of those guys will let me know that I think something different from what they think. But I still think I want to be myself and am determined not to change hahaha.
Lisa (pseudonym), female, 93, Master.
In fact, some of the boys’ statements I can understand eh, although it will make people feel uncomfortable, but at least honest enough, and indeed speak the truth.
The gimmick of a master’s degree from a seafarer may mean that the same degree makes communication easier. But the truth is, these have nothing to do with education and everything to do with experience. A master’s degree does not mean high quality, and some people, in addition to having a higher degree, talk and have a trivial outlook that makes people feel ordinary.
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Postscript.
Perhaps everyone who reads this article will have a different opinion.
Some people see the different situations of men and women in the marriage market, some find the reason for their singleness in words and actions, some feel that the so-called sea-returned master’s degree is a gimmick ……
In any case, the home page of the gentleman to conceal personal views, is to restore a most real “returnee master dating bureau”.
I wonder what you see in it?
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