70 little things people who live alone need to know

1. Before you choose to live alone, make sure you have enough to fully afford to live alone. After all, living alone is the most expensive of all living options.

The more open and developed a city is, the higher the percentage of people living alone, and the less Life and mental distress you have to face when you choose to live alone.

If possible, try to live close to the core of the city, where public and private space are equally important for people living alone. This applies especially to women living alone, as argued in “My Alone, My Self: The Age of the Single Woman:” “Cities offer them a safer refuge, and in turn they contribute to the improvement of cities. “

4. If the house is rented, master a little skill that can quickly improve the quality of the living environment, such as changing the curtains and wallpaper, choose a design floor lamp, buy a nice carpet …… Even if the house is not your own, you still have to feel like you belong. In every Time you get off work or party and say “Home“, from the psychological, really take that place as home. 5.
5. If you live in an expensive first-tier city, you can only have a small house, but also to ensure that the house has a partition in addition to the bed, there are enough scenes to choose from, so that the space for eating, working, and relaxing themselves apart. Otherwise, you are prone to become a dead weight in bed doing everything.

For women: Make sure you can carry a 15 kg 24 inch suitcase up three or four flights of stairs in the right way that doesn’t hurt your back and arms. If you can’t do it, live in an elevator, no matter how much more money it costs.

For women who are particularly weak: the minimum level of physical fitness is to be able to unscrew all types of mineral water, drinks and spice bottles with your bare hands.

8. overcome the psychological barrier of walking alone at night, and if not, go home early.
9. be sensitive to your own health, develop the habit of medical checkups and fussing about hospitals when you have a minor ailment. After all, if you are sick and can’t move in your room, the breakdown will make you question the life in front of you.
10. remember to take out the garbage, walk the dog with a key, or simply change the combination lock. If you already have a combination lock, remember to charge or replace the batteries regularly.
11. In order to prevent “30 hours in the shower trapped in the bathroom”, in addition to bringing a cell phone, you can also prepare a waterproof, with a phone function watch or stereo. courier, take-away calls can also be put on the door while taking a shower, the relaxation of the shower will not be interrupted.
12. then sleep late, no one cares, but the degree of late sleep to not affect the next day can normally get up and work as appropriate.
13. Never buy too many dishes at once, and there are many set meals for one person to choose from if you order takeout. Do not underestimate the amount of ingredients, even if you do salad, hot pot, each dish with a drop can make a large pot of finished products.
14. Buy more small packages of Food and objects, small packages of snacks, small bottles of olive oil, small bottles of wine, small portions of coffee beans …… Although this is a bit environmentally unfriendly, it can reduce waste and the guilt that comes from waste.
15. try not to always sleep on one side of a double bed, the bed is going to cave in over time in that area.
16. always keep an extra roll of toilet paper in the bathroom.
17. you can of course be like a primitive man, unrestrained naked throughout the house to make times, this is the most cool side of living alone. But make sure the curtains are closed, make sure you can see the view outside and do not become the view yourself.
18. If you have dried your quilts and clothes on the open terrace and outside, check the weather forecast before you go out.
19. If you have something important to do the next morning, set a few more alarms, even one of them away from your bed. Or, book a take-out delivered early in the morning the night before. After all, no one will wake you up when you catch an early flight except the alarm clock and the delivery boy.
20. before each business trip or travel, after packing the best room to restore neat and tidy, otherwise, a number of days later, the moment you come home and open the door, always a little demoralized.
21. prepare two or three different textures of pillows (after all, the whole bed is yours), insomnia can come in handy.
22. get into the habit of throwing things away regularly, and you’ll thank yourself when you move. Even if it doesn’t involve moving, throwing things away regularly is a way to clean up your life and your mind.
23. Have a list of songs that are suitable for listening to at work or when you are alone, not too lively and not too chill, just enough to bring inner peace.
24. have some of the most basic electrical appliances, common sense electrical circuits, sometimes the iPad does not charge is not the charger or itself broken, may simply be the control of this outlet circuit tripped.
25. if you are a geek, every day at home playing games, make sure that at least every two days, get up, out of the house, throw away the take-out garbage.
26. do need an itchy scratch, especially for men who are not flexible enough.
27. Some regular cold and flu medications, painkillers, allergy medications, and stomach medications should be checked regularly for shelf life. Perhaps the quick-acting heart pills and nitroglycerin are not exaggerated for today’s often “996” young and middle-aged people.

You should know your drinking limits and call a cab home before the threshold of unconsciousness and withdrawal arrives, or at least tell the sober people around you where you live.

29. Even if you live by yourself, it’s a good idea to have enough dishes, glasses and coffee mugs at home for small gatherings so that you won’t be caught off guard when friends visit.
30. have at least one sex toy, face their own desires, always anxious, stressed or simply bored, will want to use it.
31. even if you have been single for a long time, you should still have some safe products at home that are still within their shelf life, because you can not be sure if you will meet the person you want to use that with Ta tonight.
32. Live close to your friends and visit them occasionally to create a “Friends” type of neighborhood atmosphere, which is even more precious after the Epidemic period.
33. have one or two reliable friends who are used to checking their phones and answering WeChat and phone calls in close to seconds. If you have an emergency or emotional breakdown, at least you have someone you can contact immediately to calm your emotions.
34. If you are living alone in a foreign country, make sure you have at least one friend in the same city with you who has the key to your house and knows your address. If you are away on a business trip and your home is flooded, Ta can save you. 35.
35. at least one friend has the contact information of your insurance broker, knows your workplace, and Ta also has the contact information of your Parents or any Family member.
36. fill in the emergency contacts in the various information registers with relatives or friends in the same city as you and let them know that Ta has taken on this responsibility.
37. pair up with at least one person and call if you don’t respond to a message for a day for no reason, and if the phone doesn’t answer, it’s best to come to the house. This can not only prevent accidental injury, sickness when no one knows, but also can eliminate your sadness on the head about the sudden death of no one to find the self-pity.
38. The above six items show how important it is for people who live alone to have friends they trust.

Spirituality

39. first assess whether you are a person who enjoys living alone, if so, you are suitable for living alone; if not, do not actively choose to live alone; if you have to, also try to shorten your time alone.
40. Have a little bit of a savings plan, the minimum standard being that you can afford to put a deposit on your rent and live stress-free for at least three months after you dump your resignation letter to your boss. Material security has to come first in the security of living alone.

The freedom of living alone does not include the lack of self-discipline in life and spirituality, that is not freedom, that is self-abandonment.

With a little thought, one can see that most of the amenities that can be obtained in Marriage and family life can be replaced by public services and O2O services in the city. In this respect alone, China’s first-tier cities are better suited to solo living than most cities in Europe and the United States.

43. Be friendly to the strangers you know best, for example, the cleaning lady, the locksmith, the courier guy in charge of your area, you will find after living alone for a long time that most of the time, your security and warmth are given by these people.
44. have some plants or pets, so that the room in addition to you, there are other breathing.
45. Take responsibility for your pet and treat it as a family member. This is good for it and even better for you.
46. keep in touch with your family properly, for example, call once a week, and go back for dinner once a week if you are in the same city. This is good for your mental health, and even better for your family’s mental health.
47. know how to restrain themselves from complaining and the desire to vent their emotions, there is no one around to be an emotional garbage can, doing exercise, putting together Lego, going out for a walk to divert attention are good ways.
48. You also need to restrain yourself when you want to share something funny, joyful, or feel good about yourself. Perhaps, you can record it on your phone.
49. alone, of course, but do not completely cut off contact with the outside world. See at least one person a week other than a delivery boy, a courier boy, a cleaning lady, or a fitness instructor.
50. Have friends or small groups of people other than colleagues to prevent spiritual and interpersonal involution.
51. Be prepared to hear “Aren’t you lonely?” in the present and in the future. Whenever you are asked, answer them – who is not lonely?
52. you will always hear married and child-bearing people admire you for living alone, so relax, they are just saying that.
53. The above two articles are mainly to say that there is no need to use outside judgments and positive or negative imaginations about your life to draw conclusions about your current lifestyle, no life is absolutely righteous or unrighteous.
54. Whenever you encounter any of the above kinds of life difficulties or spiritual dilemmas, don’t be the first to review whether it’s the fault of living alone.
55. Don’t always worry about leaving your door unlocked, that is a very unlikely event, it is not worth it to bring anxiety to go out because of this small detail. Other details listed in the “Do’s and Don’ts for Living Alone”, pay attention, but don’t become obsessive-compulsive. 56.

If you don’t own the house, change it every few years to get some freshness, after all, this is the advantage of the proletariat, you have to take advantage of it.

57. Have a familiar public space or two, like a cafe or a small fast food restaurant, that you can go sit in when you don’t want to be home alone, and make sure you have familiar clerks and owners willing to help you look at things when you go to the bathroom. A familiar space outside of your home will give you a sense of belonging and security.
58. have one or two dramas and variety shows that you are familiar with that you will watch over and over again, and their company will make you feel much better when you occasionally feel empty and lonely.
59. when you go out alone to eat, watch a movie with a good mind, to be justified, this is your right, no need to feel sorry for the restaurant is crowded, and you alone occupy a table.
60. you can take a nap and an afternoon nap, but try not to let yourself wake up at dusk, “dusk phobia” everyone has more or less, especially easy in The “twilight phobia” everyone has more or less, especially when alone to meet the dark attack. 61.

Don’t turn on your phone when you’re most depressed and gloomy, and post little essays on social networks complaining about your life, which you’ll probably regret more than the drunkenness and brokenness of your words when your emotions ease.

62. Similarly, do not say yes to anyone’s advances and confessions when you are most lonely and isolated, the odds are that you will regret it, and the odds are that the other person will regret it.
63. be generous with Tinder, Tantrum and other social software, just as many people can be generous with blind dates.

For women: those who regard single women as vulnerable, and remind women living alone how to “wolf-proof” tips can be read to build a sense of security, but It is not necessary to pay too much attention to specific rules and regulations, otherwise it is easy to put oneself in the position of a lamb to be slaughtered, and life will be insecure and unhappy instead.

65. When you have nothing to do, occasionally examine whether you are becoming a strange man or woman who can not get along with people for a long time and is a bit withdrawn, and if so, rest assured that it is not a big deal. After all, the data suggests that there will be more and more of these kinds of weirdos in the near future.
66. find a balance between the desire for freedom and the desire for companionship, which is not easy, like playing balance board, without the pursuit of absolute stability, to ensure that you do not fall is a master.
67. There are pros and cons to everything. Having full freedom to use the bathroom means having to deal with clogged toilets alone. Whenever the crushing moment of living alone comes, think about those good times.

Most people in marital relationships and group living feel lonely to varying degrees. Loneliness cannot be eliminated as long as one lives, and as an increasingly neutral adjective, “loneliness” should not be eliminated either.

It is normal to live alone, it is normal to live together, it is normal to marry, and it is normal to have three generations living together.

70. Being able to live alone at least proves your economic base and mental independence. If living alone is a transitional phase, enjoy it. If living alone is a firm lifestyle choice, enjoy it.