I always wondered why we had to be married by the age of how many, have kids by the age of how many, have a successful career by the age of how many?
Mom and Dad said, “It’s too late, kid! You have to hurry up.
Because it’s not too late, we’ve become the leftover men and women.
Because it did not come in Time, we are about to become a senior maternity, older dads, and even monsters in the eyes of others.
The internet speed should be faster, the high speed rail should be faster, so get married and fall in love faster?
On the TV dating program, I have seen more than once, still studying female college students to participate.
When I see such a scene, I always wonder: has the main task of female students changed to matchmaking?
At this pace, is it possible for girls to go on a blind date in the future without waiting for 18?
We care so much about speed, but only because the increase in speed will greatly reduce the cost of time.
The time we save with speed, where did it go?
Do we use this time to think about Life, to know ourselves, to understand the world?
The emotions between people, undeniably, there is a thousand miles a day, a glance at the possibility of a million years, but for most people, not enough time to get along and understand, coupled with Parents, relatives and friends, in the name of love concern, and ultimately buried the scourge of flash Marriage and flash divorce.
For how to find love, the ancient Greek sage, Socrates made the following analogy.
Suppose you are told to take a road, not to turn back, and then find a flower that you think is the most beautiful.
If you choose the flower you meet at the beginning, by the end, even if the flowers you meet are more beautiful, you have lost the opportunity to pick them.
If you keep thinking that the best flower is always the next one, then you may end up with nothing or pick one that is not as beautiful as you want it to be, because there may be more than one beautiful flower that you have seen than this last one.
If, after you have walked for a while, you have seen some flowers, have some comparison, choose a flower that is more in line with your own feelings, which of course does not guarantee that you can pick the most beautiful one, but at least this way, you will have less regret.
In the end, this approach emphasizes awareness, comparison, and selection, which means improving yourself, perfecting yourself, and not leaving the right to choose in the hands of divine providence.
The point of becoming a better version of yourself is to improve yourself so that you have the ability to make decisions when you want to, and not get caught up in the chaos of flowers and fear.
So, brothers and sisters, before you become a better version of yourself, before you have the ability to judge, before you figure out what you want, please stay calm.
Let the concern of your aunts and uncles not be the cause of your hasty marriage and love.
The fact is that you can’t get a good idea of what you want.
Let your parents’ earnest expectations become your firm confidence and motivation to continue to move forward.
Tomorrow is not the end of the world, so why rush in this moment?
Even if tomorrow is really the end of the world, then so hurry, there is really no point!
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