Recently, the “superfluous son-in-law” has dominated the hot search and become the new national next meal drama. In the drama, the modern web novelist starring Guo Qilin crosses over to ancient times and joins a luxurious Family, helping his wife to play the business of the Wu Dynasty and become the richest man in Jiangning.
With the “son-in-law” fire out of the circle, “door-to-door son-in-law” has become a topic of interest for everyone. From “rich girl looking for son-in-law” to “demolition The topic of Xiaoshan son-in-law has been salvaged again. Some articles say that Xiaoshan, Hangzhou is the real “son-in-law paradise”. The jingle “Which is the strongest son-in-law in China, find Xiaoshan in Hangzhou, Zhejiang” is circulating on the Internet, and some netizens define Xiaoshan as “the son-in-law capital of China”. capital of China”.
Is Xiaoshan really popular for sons-in-law? What does the ecology look like? Is it a happy Marriage? What are the new changes of Xiaoshan son-in-law now?
Recently, the reporter visited a marriage agency in Xiaoshan, Hangzhou, which has been specializing in introducing sons-in-law to families for 21 years, and invited several people who have been involved in superfluous marriages to share their stories of married Life.
Peak period: more than 300 families recruit son-in-law every year
In 1998, he was laid off from a state-owned enterprise and turned his hobby into a job, creating the Golden Idea Marriage Agency.
Li Jiyan said that there were more than 20 marriage agencies operating in Hangzhou at that Time. In the fierce competition, he aimed at the prevailing trend of son-in-law recruitment in Xiaoshan, and fought the banner of special services to figure out a way to survive. Nowadays, the introduction fee for son-in-law has doubled ten times, from 1,500 yuan to 15,000 yuan for a single party in Li Jiyan’s marriage agency.
In Li Jiyan’s memory, Xiaoshan has always had a tradition of recruiting door-to-door sons-in-law, “tracing its roots even back to the 1950s and 1960s. “
Only, the concept of in-laws then and now is completely different. “Li Jiyan said. At that time, because people were not rich, “in order to increase the workforce”, most families in Xiaoshan with only girls would let boys “insert the door”.
After the reform and opening up, Xiaoshan people have set up large and small private enterprises, down factories, textile factories, auto parts factories and other factories everywhere, and families built three- to five-story villas and houses.
After entering the 21st century, with the urbanization and transformation of Xiaoshan city and countryside, there are not a few families who have been allocated three or four suites. Li Jiyan said, in the Golden Spot marriage agency, the most one, the woman’s family has eight suites, “all new houses, a set of more than 100 square feet. Even if the girl does not work, rely on the rental house alone, are clothed and fed. “
“Xiaoshan many people are only daughter, and the family industry, family wealth is quite rich. As they get older, Parents begin to generally worry about their future retirement. If a boy is willing to come to live together, the pressure on the daughter to take care of the elderly is reduced, the family’s ‘incense’ is also flourishing, many people have the idea of flocking. “Li Jiyan said.
Corresponding to this, Hangzhou, large and small enterprises absorbed workers from all over the country, “many boys have two or three brothers in the family, the family conditions are not good, the difficulty of settling down in Hangzhou. ‘Inverted door’ has become their logical choice. “Li Jiyan will be summarized as,” to achieve complementary advantages and resource sharing. “
The economic takeoff, combined with the first generation of only children entering marriage, made the first decade of the 21st century the peak period for the prevalence of son-in-law recruitment in Xiaoshan. Li Jiyan remembers that at that time, almost every year, more than 300 girls’ parents came to register for door-to-door sons-in-law.
In the past few years, the figure has dropped a lot, and now there are about 100 of them every year. “However, it is not only Xiaoshan that is now recruiting door-to-door sons-in-law, but also the main urban areas such as Jianggan District, Yuhang District and West Lake District of Hangzhou. “He added.
This year’s situation: there are extra boys who want to be superfluous sons-in-law
The official website of the Golden Spot Marriage Agency claims to have “(a cumulative) 20,000 members, of which, thousands of women from all walks of life want to recruit superfluous. Li Jiyan estimates that in the past 21 years, he has facilitated more than 4,000 couples, of which, one-fourth of them are sons-in-law.
At the Golden Idea Marriage Agency, the number of the recruitment has been arranged to more than 300, but only 100 men have registered to be the son-in-law.
In Li Jiyan’s opinion, Xiaoshan son-in-law is still in short supply, to his surprise, “Since this year, the number of boys who come to consult want to be a son-in-law is extraordinarily high. He told reporters that more than 20 men came to consult in the first week of March alone, compared with only three or four a month in the past.
Xiaoshan son-in-law has also long shifted from local to national, and even worldwide. Li Jiyan introduced that some men working in Beijing, Hunan, Hubei and other places, and even Chinese working in the United States, foreign students studying in foreign countries also called to consult.
At present, the matchmaking agency has 132 son-in-law female members and 43 son-in-law male members posted on the official website. Combining these personal information and Li Jiyan’s narrative, Xiaoshan son-in-laws come from all over the country, such as Hunan, Hubei, Hebei, Anhui, Jiangxi, Jiangsu, Yunnan, etc. Their ages are generally concentrated in the age of 25 to 30, and their occupations are mostly engineers, technicians, managers of various types, but also university teachers, civil servants, corporate management and entrepreneurs. From the point of view of Education, basically college or above, of which, the most undergraduates, accounting for two-thirds, at the same time, there is no lack of graduate students.
Li Jiyan revealed to reporters, in the registration stage, they will first round of screening of men. Education is exactly the criteria he values greatly, “either have to have a college degree or above, if the education is low, you have to have a skill. “At the same time, the age of less than 25 years old, he also almost do not receive.
“A few days ago, a 23-year-old guy doing courier contacted me and wanted to sign up to be a door-to-door son-in-law. He was so young, graduated from secondary school, and had no expertise, and wanted to be a superfluous son-in-law, which was difficult to succeed. I did not accept it, I told him to learn a skill first to have hope. “
Li Jiyan said that a few days ago there was even a freshman student in Hangzhou came to consult at the age of 21. “He is a native of Hubei, family conditions are not good, there is a brother, eager to graduate and settle down in Hangzhou. He said he came first to line up a number, hoping I would help him find a girl family with good conditions, a house and a car, and can help him in his future career. “
From his gate-keeping criteria, Xiaoshan people’s requirements for selecting a superfluous son-in-law can already be glimpsed. Li Jiyan said the women generally look for the man’s education, appearance and occupation. “Find a handsome college student or graduate student, not only can improve the family’s cultural level, the woman’s family will also be more dignified in the countryside. “
However, men who simply eat by their faces are not popular in the Xiaoshan superfluous market. A boy who is a model has been rejected by Li Jiyan, “We Xiaoshan people are mostly pragmatic, do not like this kind of surface scenery, but the actual pressure of the type. “
At the same time, the woman also pay attention to the character of the man, will require the man does not have bad habits, such as smoking, alcohol, gambling, etc.. Li Jiyan remembered that Xiaoshan once had a superfluous son-in-law said he wanted to start a business, but ended up taking the woman’s family money to gamble, “and later, the two divorced. “He stressed,” the boy is not our introduction here. “
The new son-in-law: take the man’s surname, live alone, have a voice
Children take the woman’s surname and live in the woman’s house, according to tradition, into the marriage had some set principles. But according to Li Jiyan’s observation, in the past 20 years, more open and liberal thinking has started to emerge, giving Xiaoshan son-in-law a whole new look.
In recent years, with the full liberalization of the two-child policy, some redundant families have chosen to have two children, one with the woman’s surname and one with the man’s surname. Li Jiyan said that some men will now make this request when they sign up, and there are more and more female families who don’t care so much about the surname of their children, and agree to take the male’s surname even if they have one child.
At the same time, the entry is no longer limited to the male party to stay in the female family a mode. The reporter noticed that among the 132 female son-in-law recruiting members announced on the official website of Golden Idea Marriage Agency, five of them proposed to buy a house together for marriage. Li Jiyan said, “Now, some parties will jointly purchase a house, some people have more houses, will let their daughters and sons-in-law live alone, just usually eat together, relatively speaking, the conflict has also been reduced. “
“New Year, the girl always inevitably go to the boy’s old Home, visit each other’s parents, but foreign door-to-door son-in-law’s home is generally a long way, remote location. “Li Jiyan said, in order to avoid the young couple to run far, some female families will also be home a suite to the male parents live, some men will also buy their own separate loan suite for their parents to move in.
In Li Jiyan’s matchmaking, there was a Hebei boy and Xiaoshan girl to get along for three months, they entered into a superfluous marriage, and now the daughter is 7 years old, with the male surname.
“The boy himself is very good, height of one meter eight, handsome, and has a graduate degree, do civil servants, annual salary of more than 200,000. The woman’s family has three suites, after the marriage, the boy and the woman’s parents live together, get along well. “Li Jiyan said, the girl’s parents, however, had complained to him that “everything is good, just the New Year is not good. Because the Spring Festival, the daughter to go with the boy to the Hebei hometown. “Seven or eight years ago, the girl’s parents had been to the boy’s old home,” back, they complained to me, where the conditions are too poor, the water at home is muddy yellow. “Li Jiyan heard that a few years ago, the boy himself also bought a suite in Hangzhou loan.
However, as times change, the female family’s educational requirements for a superfluous son-in-law have become higher than ever. “Now most of them require college or above, and some families only accept bachelor’s degree. “Li Jiyan said.
At the same time, and the early years of low education level only want to join the flunky different, now the flunky ideas are changing. They are more highly educated and intelligent, but just do not have a financial base. Being redundant is a marriage choice, but obviously also has practical considerations, the man can gain access to the woman’s extensive network and resources. Therefore, two or three years ago, the female side to pay for the door-to-door son-in-law to start a business, in Xiaoshan became popular.
Contrary to the rumors, Li Jiyan believes that modern son-in-laws also have a voice in the family, “Some of these boys are highly educated, some have a skill, and their annual salary can reach 200,000 to 300,000, so there is no inferiority in the family. “
Li Jiyan remember, in the past into the Golden Spot marriage agency many boys are covered tightly, “wearing a hat, sunglasses, wearing a mask, can be said to be fully armed, in the last decade, this phenomenon is gone. “
He told reporters that a few days ago, there are two colleagues working in Binjiang met together to consult, “a software engineer, annual salary of 180,000, a frame structure engineer, annual salary of 350,000, they both want to do superfluous son-in-law. “
In this unique corner of society, Li Jiyan experienced the urbanization process, the world of human feelings change and unchanged, but also always uphold their own views on marriage. “Love needs an economic foundation, without which the marriage edifice may collapse at any time. In his opinion, “the door is right” to join the family. The company is also a happy marriage.
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