Seven months ago, Wu Shigang started running online cars with his 19-year-old mentally disabled son. In order not to be complained about by customers, behind his passenger seat, posted a fact sheet on why he took the child along with him to run the car.
The Spring Festival is near, and he has no money to go Home for the New Year. Credit cards, online loans, home loans …… these have been overdue for nine months, and his 80-year-old mother has not received living expenses for two years. He has a complicated relationship with his Family.
He left home and wandered at 13, was sentenced to 11 years in prison at 17, and was “divorced” at 29. During the years of living with his son, three women had feelings for Wu Shigang and all left.
Children have become the biggest obstacle to Life, but also Wu Shigang the most difficult to let go of the ties. The man with a complicated life says his biggest dream is that one day his son will say, “Dad, you have suffered all these years,” which means that his son has recovered and woken up, and life may There is really a turnaround.
He added a layer of film between the front and back of the car, which is one of the few breathing spaces Wu Shigang left for himself and his son. But the film is translucent, as if he has to deal with the urging behind him at any Time, take his son, desperate to run.
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The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. He started to run online taxi. In order to avoid complaints and bad reviews, he had to do so.
Most passengers will be silent when they see this note, and some refuse to ride. Sometimes there would be four passengers, and Wu Shigang could only apologize, ask the other party to cancel the order, and compensate for the damage.
His son Dongdong is used to sitting in the passenger seat for more than ten hours a day. He mostly stays quiet, staring out at the videos on his phone. When he is alone in the house, Dongdong gets sick, shouting and smashing things.
Seeing new things in the car every day, Dongdong’s condition gradually stabilized. Occasionally out of control, Wu Shigang will educate him: “This is our work, in order to earn money to eat, this difficulty can not be overcome? “
In order to train his son, Wu Shigang ordered Dongdong to wipe the car every day. The son obeyed, no matter how cold it was, took the rag and began to act. He moves clumsy but serious, wipe the car outside, but also wipe the car. Wu Shigang’s orders are often “time to wipe the car, do not complete the work can not eat”, but when it comes time to eat, he will be to the child’s bowl of more meat.
“Remember, the guests on the car, to say goodbye to uncle, aunt good, get off to say goodbye”, Wu Shigang tirelessly admonished. But this is obviously beyond his son’s language skills, most of the time, he can only squeeze out one or two words, “OK, OK, eat, go…”
Why not send your child to a specialized school? The answer is simple and cruel: money.
Beijing‘s “dropshippers” registration management is strict, requiring Beijing people to Beijing households, Inner Mongolian Wu Shigang can only run not long ago on the line of The “flower piggy”. The income of this platform is lower than the drop, January 29, Wu Shigang noon out of the car, running until 5:00 am on the 30th, after all expenses, earned 98 yuan.
Why so late home? Wu Shigang said, the small piggy dispatch less, the fare is low, he did not dare to “put empty car”. The last passenger ran to Tongzhou, he has been waiting in place, waiting for the Changping direction home single.
And such a difficult life, but also thanks to the help of the boss of the car rental company. “Jiankun Yongchang’s boss took pity on me, rental car fee charged by the day, 150 yuan a day”, Wu Shigang said, counting 300 yuan a day for fuel, violation fines, the net income is barely enough He and his son eat. The most embarrassing time, they live in the car, only one meal a day.
The “drop” management knows Wu Shigang’s situation, buy something to see him, but the rules are the rules, there is no back door to open.
Netizen “Inoue You Chai” hit Wu Shigang’s car on January 12. He saw someone in the passenger side, thought the wrong carpool, the result “after the car saw the driver posted this paper, instantly teary-eyed. On the way, the child in the passenger seat is very quiet, did not cause him trouble. After getting off the car, “well you have Chai” hard stuffed to Wu Shigang 100 yuan.
“Inoue has Chai” to see posted on the network, netizens’ sympathy was ignited. Many people flocked to Wu Shigang’s cell phone, but he was busy running his car, not quite able to reply.
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Wu Shigang net car passenger seat on the back of the description reads, “child a year old had a high fever disease, the child burned, secondary intellectual disability can not take care of themselves, his mother ran away, children aunt and grandmother dislike … can now walk, but talk communication can not, I contact people in the car every day to communicate with him to exercise He, where you need to take… can not afford to rent a house, I two eat and live in the car, I hope the majority of passengers understand, good people will have good karma. “
This grammar does not make sense, but also with misspelled words “note”, telling the father and son of the difficulties.
In 2006, Wu Shigang took his son to Beijing. Since then, his son has changed to more than a dozen schools, ordinary, special, public and private, but he could not stay long. “Sometimes being at work, I get a call from the school, saying that the child is sick, hitting or biting someone, so I can pick up the child. “
Wu Shigang said his son could not speak and would become ill when he was bullied and discriminated against. He remembers a good school in Shahe, Changping, where the teacher took care of his son and he liked it. But the next year, the school was full, so he had to send his son to a special Education school in Shunyi, which costs 7,000 yuan a month.
In that “special school”, his son’s illness got worse and worse. He found that his son’s speech and intelligence deteriorated, his back was injured, he was malnourished, he didn’t know how to wash his face and brush his teeth, he was afraid of water, he couldn’t tell right from left, and he had no basic knowledge of life.
Wu Shigang could only take his son home. Because of the inability to express, defective intellectual development, when he could not resolve his emotions, Dongdong would throw a tantrum. “He smashed the glass on the door, broke the TV remote control, and broke the hot water pipe because he didn’t want to take a bath”, Wu Shigang said, adding that his son had many episodes of The behavior is uncontrollable, and will bite his own arm.
I made him kneel down and reflect on why he broke the hot water pipe”, Wu Shigang said, in order to make his son understand that mistakes have to bear the consequences, he took cold showers with his son every day. The two freezing shivering.
“Do a good job with rewards, do wrong punished”, is Wu Shigang figured out the way to communicate with his son. Every day before leaving the car, he will ask his son to organize his clothes, boil hot water into a small bag, bring the phone, and then help himself to wash and wipe the car.
With his son running this year, Dongdong has learned to wash his face and brush his teeth, boil water, fold the quilt, sweep the floor, use the phone and other basic life skills. This, of course, took Wu Shigang countless efforts. He taught his son to “greet people and smile”, and when he heard the instruction, Dongdong would try to squeeze a smile on his face. But when Wu Shigang trained his son to “turn right”, Dongdong would only turn backwards in a circle, which his father could not understand, no matter how he demonstrated.
My name is Dongdong, 18 years old, horse, hometown of Inner Mongolia Ba Meng, now living in Beijing Changping, and dad together. I only have a father, is my father raised me from childhood, to earn money for my Kung (sic) I study, give me Food to pay tuition, my food, drink and tuition are given by my father, my father is much more tired than other people’s father, my father raised me alone, he is too heart (sic) bitter. I am now grown up, can work to earn money, I want to learn more skills, help dad work, work to earn money should be good filial piety to dad, be an understanding and smart children. “
This text was written by Wu Shigang last year, despite the stumbling, this has been one of the few things the child can read through.
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The fate has been so harsh, and life is still stingy.
Before running the online taxi, Wu Shigang delivered takeaways. He had just started working as a Meituan rider when he caught the new crown Epidemic. Many neighborhoods and roads in Beijing were closed, and Wu Shigang was not familiar with the roads, so he often turned around outside the neighborhood and could not get in.
After a month of groping, Wu Shigang became a silver rider and his daily income rose from more than 50 to 200 yuan. The good times did not last a few days, he was blocked – the United States Mission has a “take-away smile” action, riders The company’s main goal is to provide a good service to its customers. The company’s business is very busy and has to take care of the children, Wu Shi just forgot to upload several times, losing rider qualifications.
If you can’t do Meituan, can you do Hummingbird delivery? Wu Shigang, with experience, became a “silver” again in a month or so. But he was blocked again – one day Wu Shigang took a single from Guang’anmen Hospital, the address was near the Guang’anmen Bridge on the West Second Ring Road. Wu Shigang rushed from Daxing to the destination, the car broke down halfway, the father and son pushed the car to walk 18 kilometers. This order delayed 6 hours, customer complaints, Wu Shigang was blocked.
Wu Shigang and merchants to verify, only to find that the platform got the address wrong. The takeaway was to be delivered to Guanganmen Hospital South in Daxing. After the customer called to understand the situation, said the takeaway do not want, let Wu Shigang eat. The merchant also expressed his apologies and compensated Wu Shigang 30 yuan. He still bawled on the phone: “You pitted me bitter, I just dry on the silver, just because you address wrong I lost my job again. “
Take that a single did not send out the pizza, back to the residence in the middle of the night. Wu Shigang tears and his son opened the pizza, “there is a father in, not bad for your meal.”
In fact, Wu Shigang can’t carry it anymore. Despite living in a small bungalow monthly rent of just over four hundred, but Wu Shigang still can not pay the rent. He took his son to run takeout day and night, both to earn more money, but also to avoid the landlord. Sometimes he and his son slept by the roadside, in public toilets, mosquitoes bite father and son are covered with bags, he only self-consolation: “Fortunately, the late spring and early summer, the night is not cold “.
Wu Shigang filed a complaint to the United States Mission, Hummingbird, more than a month has not waited for news. He couldn’t afford to wait. In order to solve the economic source, Wu Shigang rented a car to run a net car. At the beginning of that period, he and his son only eat one meal a day, five or six o’clock in the afternoon in the roadside stalls to order a fried rice fried cake, and then dry until the latter part of the night, living in the car.
Friends Liu Bing advised Wu Shigang, let him raise money in the public welfare platform for help, but Wu Shigang does not want to beg. Liu Bing said, Wu Shigang nature to be strong, some guests look at him poor, give him 500, 1000, a large number he refused. Most of the friends are also the bottom of the people, life is difficult, although we help each other, but also a drop in the bucket.
The Spring Festival came, Wu Shigang and his son did not return home. “The most critical thing is no money, not even road expenses, for two years in a row. “He has not remitted money to his 80-year-old mother for two years and feels guilty inside.
Wu Shigang bedside there is a large ashtray. He quit drinking for many years, driving more can not get alcohol. When the Spring Festival came, he smoked even harder, two packs a day, the cigarette overflowed the cylinder. Credit cards, online loans, home loans have been overdue for 9 months, how to do? Wu Shigang said, overdue on overdue, there is no money to pay back.
“My biggest dream now, is one day in the car, my son suddenly said to me, Dad you have been aggrieved over the years, Dad you are not very tired these years, Dad I’m sorry “, Wu Shigang said, that represents the son suddenly woke up, recovery, good days have come.
When saying these words, this hard middle-aged man’s eyes flooded with tears.
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For the old home in Inner Mongolia, Wu Shigang does not want to talk about it. He believes that “several important junctures in life are ruined here”.
Wu Shigang ancestors in Shaanxi, in Inner Mongolia fur business became a rich merchant, so settled in the area. After the “land reform”, his grandfather, who was a landlord, was ” When Wu Shigang was born, his family was already penniless. He dropped out of school in the fifth grade, herding sheep and selling sisal to earn money.
In order to marry his brother, the family owes foreign debts. For this reason, 12-year-old Wu Shigang and his sister-in-law have always had a bad relationship. The two had several conflicts, all ending with Wu Shigang being severely beaten by his father.
Disappointed with his living environment and family, at the age of 13, Wu Shigang decided to run away from home. He followed an old villager in Yinchuan, sleeping in underground passages. One morning when he got up, the old villager died for unknown reasons.
In the years that followed, Wu Shigang picked up trains and traveled through dozens of cities across the country. He carried sacks at the docks in Wuhan, joined the “beggar gang” in Zhengzhou, and was almost killed by a local snake at the Beijing railway station for scavenging. He was regarded as a blind, many times was sent home, halfway and then escaped, “in Beijing alone, three times the internment and deportation”.
When he was 16 or 17, Wu Shigang went to a private coal mine in Wuhai, Inner Mongolia. He said that at that time, the average person’s monthly salary of several hundred yuan, he earned three to four thousand a month. When the mine collapsed, he ran desperately to the entrance of the shaft, and the tunnel behind him kept collapsing. When he escaped, he cried at the mouth of the mine with his fellow workers.
When his father found out, he wanted Wu Shigang to go home. He could not resist and ended his five years of “wandering”. This turn of events became Wu Shigang’s most reluctant memories.
Back home, Wu Shigang went to a villager’s house to watch people play mahjong. He got into a verbal argument with someone, and in his youthful anger, he made a big mistake and was sentenced to 11 years in prison. Wu Shigang said, this is a habit developed when wandering, “want to protect themselves, we must not live, or wandering when the early death”.
When he was released from prison at the age of 28, Wu Shigang became a “delinquent” in the eyes of others. He lived in Wuhai by riding a tricycle to carry goods, until a woman appeared. The woman took the initiative to pursue him, risking the pressure of breaking up with his Parents and married him, and gave birth to a child. This woman is the mother of his son, Dongdong.
But soon, because of financial problems, family conflicts occurred, Wu Shigang said: “Dongdong’s mother’s family suspected that my family is poor, can not afford to eat meat, can not afford to buy cosmetics, wash their faces with soap has become a matter of blame. “Finally, when Dongdong was more than a year old, the two divorced. Wu Shigang back son to see the construction site, guard the scrapyard, odd jobs are not enough money to live.
Poverty is a change. Wu Shigang sold his house for 6,000 yuan, asked a “Han teacher” in his hometown to take care of the child, and went to Beijing to work alone. He said his son suffered during those years: “Because he could not walk, the other children bullied him, shit and urine in the pants, crawling around on the ground. The family is just five kilometers away from the child care place, but no one to take care of Dongdong. This incident still haunts Wu Shigang.
When he arrived in Beijing, Wu Shigang joined the crew. At his best, he could earn 1000 yuan a day. In his photo album, he still has a picture of himself working as a double for Andy Lau in the movie “Cast Away”.
The relationship also seemed to have a turnaround. Wu Shigang met Ms. Li from Henan Province on the set of the movie, and the two of them got along so well that they even asked him to bring his son to Beijing. Wu Shigang said: “She took care of her son to pick up shit and urine, especially attentive, her son and her feelings are also very good, do not look at the son can not express, but if you ask with who is close, he still remember Aunt Li. “
But later Wu Shi just learned that Ms. Li because of the unfortunate marital life, there are major psychological problems: “her husband found a mistress, kicked her out of the house, she drank poison, resuscitated, but the brain left after-effects. “Ms. Li would often suspect Wu Shigang of cheating and having an affair, and later simply did not let him go out. Wu Shigang had to give up his work in the theater, and his income dropped sharply.
In September 2012, when the “Japanese purchase of the Diaoyu Islands” broke out, Wu Shigang followed his friends to the street to protest and slept on the ground in front of The Japanese Embassy that day. When he returned home, Ms. Li left without saying goodbye, and her son was sick and smashed the TV. Wu Shigang went crazy looking for someone.
Three years later, Wu Shigang just got in touch with Ms. Li. After she left, Ms. Li left her home and cut off all contact with the outside world. Wu Shigang bought Ms. Li 10,000 yuan of clothing and jewelry to thank her for what she had given to herself and her son, but the two could not renew their relationship.
In the next eight years, Wu Shigang had two more relationships. One of them, the other concealed his married status, to “take the husband called 200,000 and Wu Shigang far away”, Wu Shigang flatly refused, the two separated. 2020 In 2020, Wu Shigang met Ms. Song who was working in Fangshan, the other party thought “he was a good person, real kind, often donated blood, but because of the son dragged, the economy is very difficult “The two eventually did not get together, Ms. Song confessed: “He has no place to live, can not eat, we have no way to be together. “
Family of origin, emotional experience, even coupled with the life of dependence with his son, these seem insufficient to describe the ups and downs of Wu Shigang’s fate.
Wu Shigang himself adapted the song “The Shepherd of the Cocoanut Sea”: “My beloved, I’m waiting for you in the backwaters of Beijing. They say, you married to Wuhai, is it because of the beautiful desert there, or the camel bells there make you smile sweetly? “Beijing, BAM, Wuhai, for life, he loves to hate.
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Wu Shigang’s sister-in-law can no longer remember the contradictions of the year, she said she was nearly 60 years old, living a difficult life, but also to support 80-year-old mother-in-law, indeed, can not take care of the younger uncles and nephews. Wu Shigang’s brother’s cell phone number, is an empty number.
Wu Shigang household registration is located in Bayannur Hangjin Houqi, the production captain had applied for him to low income, by the superior to “Wu Shigang working in Beijing, income is higher than the villagers, does not meet the low income policy ” refused.
The content released by “Inoue You Chai” received more attention, and after obtaining Wu Shigang’s consent, he published Wu Shigang’s fast number, cell phone number, and collection QR code. Wu Shigang roughly counted, has received about 10,000 yuan of donations.
After telling his story, two questions stuck in my mind for a long time: one is, when our society has come to today, whether there are special laws and regulations, relief agencies, to pay attention to groups like Wu Shigang and children – although not enough to “The second is, when we are passengers ourselves, are we willing to have a mentally disabled The second is, when we are passengers ourselves, whether we would like to have a mentally handicapped “passenger” on the net car.
The Spring Festival is one day closer, and Wu Shigang is still driving with his son on the road. He does not want to rest, pulling work on the road will let him forget his troubles. He said he intends to run a car for the New Year. “You guys eat dumplings, I came back to pack some myself, as usual, this New Year, just a little bit of pity for us, it’s nothing. “
From the age of 13 years old ran away from home, Wu Shigang countless attempts to escape from fate, but time and again, life has beaten him to zero. Eventually, because of his son’s presence, he became a hardened guardian.
This can’t help but remind me of the story of the novel “Alive” – an escapee from life who, through hardships, becomes a person who strives to live.
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