How common is a very common young man in the dating market?
I cite a very common marriage requirements, a very very common male youth standards.
1, height 172 or more.
2, education specialist or above.
3, monthly income of more than 5000.
4, the face is medium or more, not ugly not greasy.
5, no car, no house, but motivated.
Looked at the rich and handsome full of drama, suddenly see such standards, is not the young man very ordinary?
Ordinary to such standards if placed on paper, girls simply do not care to see, even lazy to see.
If a girl has proposed such criteria for choosing a spouse, I believe absolutely no one will say that the girl is overly ambitious.
In fact, each of these conditions are very ordinary, but together, all the requirements must be met, it is very uncommon.
To be convincing in what you say, you have to show evidence.
Big data on the conditions of young men
First look at the height of the male youth, the requirement of 172 cm in height, what kind of standard is it.
This standard is very low, right? I did not ask for a height of 180.
This requirement is really not high, but not low either.
According to the national physical fitness monitoring data made public by the state, the median height of Chinese young men aged 20 to 29 is exactly 172 cm, while the median height of young women is 160 cm.
The median means that half of the young men in China are taller than 172 cm.
Another layer of meaning is that half of the young men are shorter than 172 cm.
For women, the corresponding figure is 160 cm.
It does seem okay, half of the people can reach this standard, which is indeed the ordinary standard ah.
Then look at the second standard, the requirement of education specialist or above.
This standard is very low, right, now the expansion of the university is so powerful, casually take a specialist.
This requirement is very high?
Indeed not high, but also not low.
Since 2000, China’s annual birth population has been stable between 16 to 17 million people, and almost no impact can be seen after the opening of the second child.
And in 2016, the number of applicants for China’s college entrance exam was 9.4 million, with 7.72 million accepted, for an acceptance rate of 82.15%.
More than 82 out of 100 high school seniors can get a specialist degree or higher, so indeed everyone can go to a specialist.
But not everyone went to high school ah.
There are not a few people who go to work directly after the nine-year compulsory education, 7-8 million people every year.
There are men and women, even handsome men and women, there are actually a lot of people without education.
According to 7.72 million specialists or above, the total number of 16~17 million people, about 45~48% people, to get a specialist degree.
For the convenience of calculation, I consider by half.
Don’t feel less, the total population of China, specialist above only 7% of the population, the vast majority of the grandparents, not even high school.
That is, the new generation of children, to do so 50% of such a large proportion of the specialist rate.
Then look at the third requirement, is a monthly income of 5,000 yuan.
This requirement is also very low, right, a month only 5000 yuan ah, this requirement is excessive?
Not excessive, but also not as easy as the average person thinks.
Nationwide, 600 million people earn less than 1,000 yuan a month, and 95% of them, less than 5,000 yuan a month.
Of course, many readers are living in the city, pulling the nation over the average is not appropriate.
So, I’ll post a figure for Beijing today, considering only the salary level in Beijing. The entire city of Beijing, 42% of the people, monthly income of less than 6K.
Of course, this is the average of the elite coders in Haidian District and the ordinary office workers in the suburbs.
But ordinary workers are also people.
Considering that Beijing’s wages are higher than those of second and third-tier cities, 6K is also higher than 5K, I simply take a look at the monthly income of more than 5000, it is more than 40% of young men of the same age, I think there is no problem.
And then look at the fourth requirement, that is, the face is more than medium, not ugly and not greasy.
This requirement is not too much, and did not require handsome into male stars.
But this is something that can also be considered quantitatively.
What is meant by medium face, ugly to the bottom is certainly not called medium face.
Can be called medium ordinary appearance, at least should be more than half of the people handsome it, just ranked to a social appearance average.
The requirement for young men to look medium, not ugly and not greasy, this one condition, and eliminated half of the candidates.
Just these four low can not be lower conditions, together they are already very scary.
The young men who meet these four ordinary conditions at the same time are not ordinary at all.
Because people who are 180 tall, may be very ugly.
A very handsome person, may be a junior high school graduate.
People who earn a monthly income of more than 10,000, may be 165 tall.
If you are willing to lower a certain condition, then you choose a spouse a little difficult, but can still be solved.
If you are not willing to lower one condition, you only deserve to be single.
In every 100 young men of the right age.
Meet the height of 172 or more conditions, only 50 people.
In these 50 people, to meet the education specialist or above, only 25 people.
In these 25 people, to meet the monthly income of more than 5000 people, only 10 people.
In these 12.5 people, only 5 people meet the medium value of the face.
In every 100 people, only 5 people can reach the standard of ordinary male youth, very ordinary kind of ordinary male youth.
So it’s too hard to find an ordinary man to marry, because 95% of men really can’t reach the ordinary standard.
This is just extremely common conditions, if you raise the standard to a height of 180 cm or more, 985 undergraduate or more, monthly income of more than 10,000.
That is already not one in a hundred, but one in a thousand.
Do not believe you can look at the acceptance rate of 985 undergraduate.
There are 48 people in 100 people can take the specialist or more, but only 0.79 people can take the test to 985 or more.
This condition alone, the difficulty has skyrocketed 60 times.
Not to mention the height and monthly income.
But even if the height of 180 + key undergraduate + month such as into 10,000, in the eyes of the majority of people are just ordinary conditions, not to talk about quality youth.
The real sense of quality youth, but also on the basis of this has a house and a car.
This condition is more intimidating, so I simply do not dare to list.
But in fact, most people say that people on the requirements of male youth “motivation”, basically no one can meet.
You think the “motivation” is to work and life positive on the good.
Often work overtime, often and customer dinner to exchange feelings, this is not considered to have “motivation”.
This is called a greasy middle-aged man who does not return home.
In the eyes of women, the motivation is now an employee, but later is the director level or even president level, now 50,000 a year but later can earn 500,000 or even 5 million a year.
What you want is not motivation, what you want is to pick up the slack, asking you to be rich and powerful in the future, but today to get married to the standard of ordinary families, and that’s all.
If you do not have this “motivation”, then you can only rely on the car and house to ensure.
But the city to buy a car and a house for young men, that is quite small.
Because these conditions are difficult to be met at the same time, so many young women feel that their choice of spouse standards are clearly set so low, why still can not find an object.
Surely not their own standard problem, but they have not met the right true love.
So, the major dating sites are getting rich, with an endless stream of female members.
The problem of matching quality young women
In the big data of a dating site, women with a bachelor’s degree actually occupied 70% of the proportion, far exceeding the normal proportion of education in the population. And in this group of highly educated girls, the height of 160 ~ 168 range, and occupy more than 70% of the proportion.
This is also not normal, you should know that the average height of girls is 160 cm. Likewise, the largest number of female members of the dating site, an age of 24 years old, the age of the greatest overall attractiveness of girls.
This is the phenomenon of the so-called leftover girls in China, the better the harder to marry.
The biggest problem is not whether they are good, but they greatly overestimate their own strength, underestimating the difficulty of marriage.
How do you overestimate yourself?
Are these girls not in good condition?
Quite high quality.
The ratio of male to female enrollment in Chinese universities is basically 1 to 1, but even so, girls who can have a specialist degree or higher only account for half of the population.
Girls who are taller than 160 cm are only half of the population again.
Other conditions are the same by analogy.
So the girls listed above are really high quality.
But when young men and women choose their spouses, one of the biggest differences is that young men require less of the immediate conditions.
Many young women do not require high conditions, but the article is just necessary.
The man below 170 is definitely not considered.
The man with a high school education is definitely not considered.
Long connected to the ordinary level of men are not considered.
The income is less than XX yuan men definitely do not consider. The house and car will not be mentioned.
Just above these four small conditions, if you never compromise, one refused to give up, then the trouble is big.
But young men are different, they have fewer immediate conditions.
I don’t know why, but Chinese young men rarely have the courage to say that a certain condition if not met, then I definitely do not consider. The girl who is 170 tall is a model figure, and the girl who is 155 tall is a bird.
Monthly income of 3,000 girls willing to be virtuous and family-oriented is a good girl, as for the monthly income of 30,000 girls that is not whether you want to marry, but others are willing to marry, as long as they do not mention the outrageous conditions, willing to marry normally, there is no don’t.
There are some more outrageous men, as long as the living female, it is felt to have reached the passing line.
What is a quality young woman?
Young, beautiful, work to get by.
Young this one, who have young time, can do this condition of young people is 100%.
The job is easy to meet, because it means that as long as the work is decent and legitimate, no requirements for salary.
And pretty this requirement seems difficult, but as long as you are prettier than 50% of the people, then you can be defined as pretty.
So 50% of marriageable young women can be defined as quality young women, and the top 20% or 10% who are especially beautiful can be defined as super quality young women.
The evaluation dimensions are too few, the conditions are too single, not many people are screened out, there is no multi-dimensional joint strangulation of male youth screening ability.
This results in the number of “quality young women” in the eyes of men is much higher than the number of “quality young men” in the eyes of women.
Those who reach the female “quality male youth” standard, not only rare, and the psychological bottom line is very low, marry who feel they have earned, because they married, is the social sense of everyone recognized “quality female youth”.
And they themselves, but the social sense of “ordinary young men”, just entered the threshold of “quality”.
They are very ordinary, can marry a quality woman, that is not earned.
The first to grab them, they will go with who, and is happy to go, think they have earned a lot.
But ordinary young men less ah, and quality young women more ah.
And many young women, and not willing to rush to grab people when they are young, want to dazzle a few more years, the result is that they end up being snatched away by others, and they are not willing to lower the conditions, and finally only left.
The rest are also the real sense of quality women. It’s a pity.
In fact, if a male, insisting on a variety of conditions do not let go of words, he is also very difficult to find the object.
All the conditions are met super quality female is there, just like all the conditions are met super quality male is also there.
But if you are not a super quality man, it is impossible to match such a super quality woman.
The same applies to men and women. There are cars and houses, height 180, 985 school graduation, monthly income broken million, instrument.
This kind of super quality man certainly has, but if you can not do the same or similar conditions, then you meet such a person also useless.
Cinderella is unable to marry the prince, because China is a monogamous system, the princess also want to marry someone ah, you say married to whom it?
Someone is willing to marry a gray man?
This is the current social oddity.
It is definitely wrong and abnormal, so I wrote this article today.
In fact, to see if a marriage standard is reasonable, it is actually very simple.
You know the unmarried young men and women around themselves are listed, according to your own definition of the standard, see how many belong to the “quality young men”, how many belong to the “quality young women”.
If the sample is less than 100, the number of men and women should be similar.
If the gap is large, that is your standard problem.
Both men and women, you can refer to this approach to measure themselves.
If you define yourself as into quality, and then according to your own standards, there is a large number of quality same-sex around.
But according to your own standards for the opposite sex, there are only a small number of quality opposite sex around.
Then you will not be able to get married no matter how hard you try.
This is true for both men and women.
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