For the past four years, I’ve made the same plan on January 1: I can no longer be distracted by text messages or apps on my smartphone; I want to live in the moment.
Of course, by making the same resolutions every year, I’ve come to realize that more than just this New Year’s resolution tradition needs to be done to really change habits. In fact, I’m not alone.
Before the New Year, many of us set ourselves hard-to-achieve goals, including a promotion that we’ll never achieve, a fitness program that we won’t stick to for a month, or a relationship that gets blurred. In my own case, my goals are hard to measure, so I often feel like I’ve failed, even if I haven’t. (To be honest, I also shy away from career and fitness goals.)
Don’t lose heart. That’s not a bad thing, at least not for a few. Statistic Brain, the market research company, compiled a study from the University of Scranton and found that only 8 per cent of people made their New Year’s resolutions.
“from the beginning of the planning, failure and procrastination is blended in among them. “specializes in procrastination at Canada’s carleton university associate professor of psychology at Timothy peach, (Timothy Pychyl) said.
Failure to feel
Of course, since you can share it with others (and thus feel obligated to work toward it), it’s also good to set goals at this time. But in reality, New Year’s resolutions are notoriously difficult to fulfill.
Psychologists Rachel Weinstein (Rachel Weinstein) said that part of the reason is that we tend to choose the most difficult to achieve, as New Year’s resolutions, took it for granted that they can in the New Year reinventing “. Weinstein or American potter lanzhou institute of adult (Adulting School), dean of the School to “millennials ” teach the personal skills and financial management skills. The problem gets worse when we hear that our friends and colleagues are setting ambitious goals at this time. And the marketing messages that emerge around this culture are even more harmful than profitable.
In fact, “change is the result of a accumulate over a long period. “weinstein said.
Joseph Luciani, an American psychologist who specializes in self-coaching, says that for many people, New Year’s resolutions backfire in unexpected ways. ‘After a few failed attempts, we get so frustrated that it’s hard to try anything else,’ he says.
“target in the New Year are empty… We quickly go from feeling confident to disheartened. , “he said. This ultimately leads us to become even more discouraged and afraid to set new goals for the rest of the year.
Recipe for success
If you really want to achieve a goal in the New Year, start early. Don’t wait until January 1. Peach, said delay plans like “a kind of cultural atmosphere to procrastination ”. In other words, we all love to brag about our resolutions to others on New Year’s Day, but find it hard to keep them. For example, buy a pair of running shoes, try a few sprints, and then resolve to run a marathon.
Don’t tell your friends your goals until you have achieved them. ‘Even if we don’t do anything to achieve our goals, just announcing our goals and demonstrating our ambition gives us a sense of accomplishment,’ says Mr. Pichel. “sometimes, announced to all of your goals is one of the worst things instead, because you have already get the reward. , “he said, ” immediate satisfaction of change is a failure in the future. ”
By reducing the target
If you really want to implement your plan, you should set an achievable goal from the start — even if doing so makes you feel like you’re underestimating your abilities. Weinstein believes it’s best to find a target that makes things harder than they already are.
For example, if you can already go to the gym twice a week, aim for three times a week. This makes it easier to succeed and gives you a sense of self-esteem that motivates you to pursue more difficult goals. If the New Year plan is too simple, “wait until February to revised target also have not cannot. , “she said.
But if, like me, you’ve failed before, you should forgive yourself and be more grounded when it comes time to set new goals. Cannot continue to use the original target, and should strengthen Lucia through other ways, the so-called “self-discipline muscle ”, with the aid of even the smallest success to gain some satisfaction.
“develop self-discipline is a process. “Lucia, says ” the success of the accumulation, the more you will find yourself in a different perspective. ”
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