Do you often have such thoughts: “worried about giving others trouble, need to be alone, easy to have a sense of guilt, have been deeply affected by the small things in the eyes of others, face a lot of information and change, easy to anxiety, hate crowds, feel that they can not do many things, often called by others sensitive geek”, if most of the above are met, then most likely, you are a highly sensitive person.
Sensitivity
Susan Cain’s book Quiet directs public attention to introverted people who have a high need for solitude and quiet.
This group makes up a whopping 1/3 of the world’s population, and there is an unmistakable commonality between the 70% of introverts who are highly sensitive persons (HSP). As more is learned about the personality traits and behavioral tendencies of introverts, sensitivity is increasingly being discussed and focused on.
Sensitivity was first studied by Dr. Elaine Allen in 1991 and her research was soon published in various journals.
In her book, Highly Sensitive People, she describes how sensitive people are often mistaken for a minority group. Culture influences the perception of sensitive personalities, and in a culture that belittles sensitive personalities, highly sensitive people tend to have lower self-esteem. They are told to “not think too much,” which makes them feel like they are not strong enough to be an outlier.
In fact, there is no good or bad personality, it is important to accept and use your original traits. Understanding yourself is the only way to live better. The following 8 descriptions help you determine whether you are a highly sensitive person.
1, strong feelings, tend to approach things emotionally
Are you often said to have ideas and profound thoughts? Then you may be a highly sensitive person.
Highly sensitive people tend to perceive more deeply, and they are more likely to have emotional reactions to things. They like to grasp things at a profound level, they have keen intuition, and they think deeply to find answers to questions. In other words, when others are in trouble, highly sensitive people show compassion and a lot of concern, because you feel deeply, when others are difficult, but also to appreciate their pain, which helps keep your mind open, you can put yourself in the shoes of others, understand what others are going through, and highly sensitive will make you more tolerant.
2, you prefer to exercise alone
Highly sensitive people often avoid team sports, because they are uncomfortable with others observing their every move.
Most highly sensitive people tend to be able to complete the exercise independently, such as running, hiking or cycling, these exercises can achieve fitness goals at the same time, allowing them to get away from the hustle and bustle, and get rid of the stimulation of the external environment. But in some cases, hypersensitive people also prefer group sports.
They will also excel in group sports if their parents, who provided them with a supportive environment growing up, make it easier for them to integrate into the group and have encouragement from family and good friends. The key to raising a highly sensitive person is to help them adapt to sports they wouldn’t enjoy on their own, which will make them feel safe about risk-taking behavior.
- Takes longer to make decisions
Because of the fear of making wrong or bad decisions, highly sensitive people need more time to make decisions, even if they are not right or wrong.
For example, it takes more time than normal to decide what to eat, because the tendency to weigh all the options, even if you already have an idea, but still can not control to think “what if” and then going over the possible choices on the menu according to the presentation. Therefore, when it comes to making major life-changing decisions, such as which city they want to move to, or which career they want to pursue, highly sensitive people may feel overwhelmed and overwhelmed by every potential outcome that could arise.
4、Pay attention to details and small things
You are sensitive to changes in your surroundings and people, you will notice many details, for example, the color of someone’s newly dyed nails, or the small, inconspicuous cracks on a desk lamp.
A highly sensitive person, you can hardly miss a single detail because you easily appreciate what is meant beyond words. Generally speaking, as an emotional person, observing details is a habit, because everything strongly affects you.
5、You pay high attention to etiquette
Highly sensitive people will be particularly concerned about their own performance, and how their behavior affects others.
You will take into account the needs of others, and want to do things to provide convenience to others and avoid causing trouble, even in small things also spend a lot of thought. For example, when shopping, you will put things back where you took them from so as not to create inconvenience for the staff. Highly sensitive people will consider the waiter’s service and leave a generous tip at the end of dinner. Will feel uncomfortable when not showing the best manners.
- More prone to anxiety and depression
Especially for people who have many bad experiences in the past, if highly sensitive people encounter a lot of negative energy in their lives, the accumulation of years may develop into anxiety or depression.
When feeling uneasy in the environment, the nervous system will often operate in a state of anxiety, which is to remind potential danger, when it is long accustomed to this, you will be in a state of anxiety for a long time. It is vital for parents to nurture highly sensitive people by giving them the appropriate level of attention. If your parents make you feel ashamed for being sensitive, then it will prevent you from understanding and using sensitivity in an effective way to help you grow, and if you are overly concerned because of sensitivity, then it will lead to difficulties in transitioning and adapting to new situations in real life.
- Horror and violent movies are not your cup of tea
Violence and horror movies can overstimulate highly sensitive people, thrill seekers can get an adrenaline rush from them, but you, the highly sensitive person, do not necessarily like this. Realize that there is nothing wrong with rejecting horror movies, and your nervous system will reflect the happy signal because you made the best choice.
8, you are good team player
Highly sensitive people think more deeply and are an integral part of the team, they can analyze the situation, find everyone’s strengths and specialties, and use these strengths and specialties to make the team operate more efficiently.
In addition to this, they can also distinguish between strengths and weaknesses when making decisions, however being the last person to make decisions can make you feel uncomfortable. You can play the role of a negotiator and help facilitate the discussion without having to be the one who takes the final action. Using good methods to give proper encouragement can make highly sensitive people excellent leaders because they can infect their colleagues and keep their minds open when they encounter problems.
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