- What makes an interaction valuable is not the interaction itself, but the respective values of the interactors. High-quality friendship always occurs between two fine independent personalities, and its essence is the mutual and heartfelt appreciation and respect of both parties. Therefore, it is important to make oneself truly valuable and worthy of being a quality friend, which is the primary contribution one can make to friendship.
- People often mistakenly believe that those who are enthusiastic about socializing are some generous people. Tagore well said that they are just squandering, not giving, and squanderers often lack true generosity.
So, what is the difference between profligacy and generosity? I think it is this: profligacy is taking out what you do not value; generosity is taking out what you do value. This is exactly what happens to enthusiasts in the social scene. They don’t feel that their time, energy and mood are of any value, so they squander them without a care. On the contrary, a person who values life must prefer to create in solitude and then give the best fruits to the world.
- Interaction is necessary for human nature, but its proportion is not easy to master. Pascal said, “We form our spirit and feelings by interaction, but we also corrupt our spirit and feelings by interaction. I believe that the former kind of interaction is the communication between two people, it is the kind that Martin Buber calls The latter, on the contrary, is a bustling transaction of interests, which, like what Nietzsche described as It is like what Nietzsche described as “the market”, which both desecrates love and humiliates solitude.
- Society is a field that complicates human nature. Of course, no one can live completely apart from society. But no one must give up his or her spiritual life for the sake of society, either. For those who have strong spiritual instincts, it is natural to moderate social interactions and simplify social relationships. Because of this, they are able to transcend the barriers of society and move toward great spiritual goals.
- As for human relationships, I have gradually come to the conclusion that the principle that best suits my nature is to respect others and to be as close as possible. I believe that all good friendships are formed naturally, not deliberately sought. I also believe that even good friends should have distance, too lively friendship is often empty.
- All the friendships in the name of friendship are not broken in the end, and in the end they accuse each other of not being friends enough, and are angry at the fragility of friendship. In fact, what about friendship, the so-called friendship is false at the beginning, but is just a mask and tool for interests. People today give it a proper name, called emotional investment, which is more honest. I hope people will be more honest and inform the invested party of their profit target when investing.
- from a person how to interact with people, especially can see his do. This does not lie in whether people are good, more or less friends, a variety of interpersonal relationships are harmonious. Good people may be because of the easy-going character, may also be because of the smooth, in itself can not explain the problem. I think Confucius is right in emphasizing the word “faith” in dealing with others. Whether to treat people honestly and without deception, can best reflect a person’s character is open and honest. Even if a person has friends all over the world, as long as he has betrayed one of them, we have good reason to doubt whether he really loves his friends, because once he thinks it is necessary, he will betray other friends as well. “Friendship with friends but not trust” can only be a momentary selfish desire, but it is a great failure of human beings.
- In a long trip, it is best to have a satisfactory travel companion, the next best is no travel companion, the worst is to have an unsatisfactory travel companion.
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