I want to marry the woman who killed me

preface

In the second half of 2017, I read a paper titled “Practice and Thinking on The Prediction of Recidivism Possibility of Released Prisoners”. The recidivism rate of released prisoners is always high, so it is not easy for them to return to normal life by relying on “self-reconciliation” or “conscience appeal”. I came up with the idea of visiting some of my fellow inmates to learn about their life outside prison and the impact of their prison experience. Because I didn’t have the professional interview skills, most of the interviews were carried away by the other side in a “shoot the breeze” way. Finally, I restored the story of Tang Dongdong in a pile of fragmentary materials. I think even my own record is not enough to reflect the general situation of the population of ex-convicts. It is just the result of my conscious selection. To be honest, this is also a way for me to make up for my utilitarian writing.
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Tang Always thought that his parents gave him this name, too hasty, sounds like a name not easy to obtain respect. Although he had already served more than 15 years in prison twice before, he was adamant that more than half of his failure to find a girlfriend was due to his ridiculous name.

Three months after Tang was released from prison for the second time, all that changed — in 2015, a 35-year-old woman finally agreed to “fool around” with him and, if happy, became his wife. And just before this happy thing happened, he had just had a fight with his brother.

That day, the figure is thin get like rub garment board, put on the soup Dong Dong that inside heighten also just passed 1 m 6, jump up and down in the home, broke the aluminium alloy that two newly decorate to push pull window. When he finally stopped, his brother finally stopped preventing his 70-year-old parents from buying the 50,000-yuan car for his troublesome younger brother — even though it would cost them all their savings, and Tang doesn’t have a driver’s license — after all, it’s hard for a man without a car to get a chance to fall in love in his hometown.

After that, Tang Dongdong often drives a new car and goes to a massage shop in the town. There, he met Ma Qin, 35.

Like almost all the women engaged in this trade, Ma Qin also prepared a failed marriage story when she met Tang Dongdong. Although it was difficult to tell the truth from the truth, it was enough to kill a clock from beginning to end.

According to Tang dongdong’s later account, Ma qin always liked to step on his back, complaining about her ex-husband and picking holes in his butt with her toes. When pinching his feet, he would occasionally drop his head, and his long hair would always reach the center of his feet.

This slightly intimate service costs extra, but it’s hard not to be tempted by a 39-year-old man with little experience.

Ma Qin and the majority of this age is not good at maintenance of the woman is no different, the appearance has been slightly weather-beaten. But against their own conditions, Tang Dongdong feel Ma Qin can agree with other objects, is enough to make him overjoyed. What’s more, Ma Qin is also a businessman. She even hinted to Tang dongdong that she doesn’t mind men who eat soft food, as long as they get along well with each other.

So, before long, Tang Dongdong will do the car as a mortgage loan, the money to Ma Qin to ease the liquidity of another business. What business it was, Tang had no idea, but he thought the loan would be guaranteed to a family.

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In early April 2015, Tang Dongdong, weighing less than 100 jin, was slumped behind the steering wheel. The accident happened a few minutes ago, which made him feel unusually heavy. Remorse and fright filled his body like lead.

That night, because Ma Qin led him to see his parents, he excitedly drank half a jin of baijiu. In the past, he could not drink more than two beers at any drinking table.

Ma Qin, who was sitting in the passenger seat, was calm. Although the two incidents of driving without a license and driving drunk were enough to send her fiance to jail for a third time, she did not seem to show any panic.

“Don’t you get out of the car. Get into the passenger seat.” Ma Qin get off to look at the injured, the thin soup dongdong directly dragged to the passenger seat.

The accident happened on the outskirts of the village, the injured was riding a bicycle to turn out of a junction, the bicycle went in front of tang Dongdong car, suddenly brake car, was knocked over. Of course, because of drinking the wine, Tang Dongdong did not know whether the man made this dangerous move on purpose, or he just bumped into it. He could not even see the man’s face, only to see him flying a few metres away and lying motionless on the concrete road.

“I reckon not.” Ma Qin got on the car, directly turned the car, ready to return to the county seat.

About 20 minutes later in the journey, Ma Qin is not only willing to help Tang Dongdong replace the accident, but also want to properly deal with the accident. At that time, Tang Dongdong thought she was really a great woman, and he would never forget the words that came to his heart:

“The people are from my village, I know them. If you drive without a license, if you drive drunk, if your car has no insurance, you will get a heavy sentence.”

“You can’t go in there again. I’ll turn myself in. At least I have a driver’s license.”

“You go back to raise money right away, I’ll give you the address of this family, you get a hundred thousand dollars to try to get them to write a letter of understanding, I take the letter of understanding to surrender, at most a year and a half. You must marry me when you come out next year, understand? ‘

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Let Ma Qin to surrender “top package” this matter make Tang Dongdong very ashamed, but for this man, the third time in prison is more terrible than the grave thing.

He sat in his parents’ room, four or five relatives buried their heads in sighs and said nothing. The silence was filled with the anger of his relatives, and he did not ask for forgiveness for what he had done.

In the process of asking for money from his family, Tang Dongdong, who keeps an indifferent attitude towards “family affection”, believes that his deviant life these years requires his relatives to take the main responsibility.

In 1999, 23-year-old Tang Dongdong received a call from his father at a construction site 1,000 kilometers from his home, saying that his brother needed a building so that he could marry a woman who had already paid 10,000 yuan in “meet and greet gold”. Can want to change the two tile-roofed houses of that each 30 square meters in the home into a fashionable two-story building in the town, it is empty all savings in the home is not enough. So his father gave him a 20,000 yuan fundraising assignment over the phone: “This is my brother’s responsibility.”

Tang Dongdong has no place to raise so much money.

About 500 meters away from the construction site, there is a warehouse where building materials waste and construction tools are stored. The warehouse keeper often goes to the activity room of the construction site to push Pai Jiu. He uses two packs of cigarettes to let the young and clever Tang Dongdong take his place in the management of the warehouse, so the key of the warehouse is often hung on the pants of Tang Dongdong.

The cash of building materials waste and construction tools is 20,000 yuan, almost let Tang Dongdong empty the original full warehouse. The items were reasonably priced at more than six figures, and tang was soon arrested for theft and sentenced to 10 years and six months in prison. Tang dongdong received a lighter sentence for his good performance in the confession.

Serving a sentence in a distant foreign land, relatives for a long time did not come to visit, tang Dongdong can even understand. But every year his family only remit him 1000 yuan living expenses, thoroughly wore away his to this family place to keep the final warmth. It was for the sake of his family that he had come to this point, and prisoners without enough to live on would have to endure even worse conditions behind bars.

Long and hard life, let the “family” in the heart of tang Dongdong become very cold.

After commutation, Tang dongdong was released one year and six months early. When tang Dongdong was released from prison for the first time, he was already 32 years old. Considering that he was only 23 years old when he was released from prison, not only the number of his age was reversed, but also the changes of the outside world were earthshaking for him.

He doesn’t want to go home. That day, he and a fellow inmate, whom he had only met at the prison gate on the same day, stayed up late at night near the prison and stole a spare transformer. Little did they know that the cameras attached to the poles would record their path in a way that the world had not yet taught them.

Four days later, when they planned to deliver the transformer to a buyer for 3,000 yuan, Tang was arrested again on suspicion of theft.

Because he is a recidivism, Tang was given a heavy sentence of eight years (which was later reduced by another year and three months). Soon, the name and appearance of the inmate he had been working with were almost impossible to recall accurately. “It was like a dream,” he said. “It was like waking up in prison, like he had never been released.”

Two prison experiences in a row, left the impression of Tang Dongdong, like an absurd long dream.

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“You won’t be able to live without a hundred thousand dollars for me!”

Tang dongdong throws a glass teacup at his brother’s feet, and the silence that lasts for several minutes breaks as the two scuffle.

Fighting with your brother is the most effective way to get your family to compromise every time you can’t get your hands on the money. Thin tang Dongdong can always knock his brother down to the ground, riding on the lack of two arms of the disabled man, with parents talk about conditions.

The parents then will use the building homestead certificate to the hands of Tang Dongdong. Of course, even if the building, which has been under construction for more than a decade, was quickly traded, it is estimated that it would be difficult to get 100 thousand yuan, but Tang’s parents are clearly unable to do anything.

Before the family moved away from the building, his father asked Tang Dongdong to sign the agreement to break off family relations, and invited the old man of the village chief to testify. On the note, which was filled with his father’s scrawl, Tang Dongdong pressed his thumb without hesitation.

His broken life, he thought, was the result of kinship, and it was not enough to save him, even at this stage. In fact, the so-called break off of the family relationship has already happened, why still care about the form of this piece of paper?

On the day of signing the agreement, Tang Dongdong looked back and saw his brother and mother hunched over in the corner crying, which was not enough to move him. It was the way his sister-in-law, with a cut lip, shivered in her arms around his 12-year-old nephew and tormented him in her mind for several nights afterwards.

“When a clay bodhisattva crosses a river, he cannot keep himself safe. No matter how bitter, no matter how poor, have I been in prison for more than ten years? Have I any pity?” Tang Dongdong quickly overcame his useless conscience and compassion with this idea.

He was frightened that the building was so empty that it looked like a grave. He didn’t want to spend a day “at home,” and after several days of searching around for a buyer, he finally struck a deal with a man in a neighboring county who offered him 75,000 dollars.

The day before the homestead deal, Tang’s mother and sister-in-law went back to the house to pick up the things they had forgotten to take away. Standing in front of the house, which is about to be renamed, his mother tells Tang a story that surprises him:

In 1976, tang Dongdong was eager to sell the house or loess wall, thatched roof, his father Tang Jinming and his wife in the house at the back of the root, found less than 100 days of Tang Dongdong. He was tightly wrapped in a pile of rags like a rag. Inside were a bag of milk powder and 10 yuan in cash.

At that time, tang Jinming, 28, was an honest craftsman who had to get up at 4 am every day to sell coolie in the neighboring county dozens of kilometers away. His family had just added a son with congenital disability. As a family-oriented husband and father who loved his son, he could not allow himself to be a little lazy.

at the side of the house to find soup Dongdong, Tang Jinming and his wife to discuss, this looks wizen thin, it is difficult even to grow up healthy abandoned baby to the village head to go, but still in the lactation of the wife but how can not open the hand.

Their biological son was born without arms, and heaven gave them a baby with health risks, which the couple felt was a fate they could not disobey. They try their best to give Tang Dongdong adequate nutrition, until tang Dongdong five years old, their own eldest son, has been foster in grandparents there.

Make tang Jinming husband and wife is pleased, although tang Dongdong is always emaciated, small, fortunately is a healthy child.

He decided to go to jail for the third time
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“It is not to be kept from you, now that you are discharged from the family.”

When his mother and his sister-in-law leave, Tang is so shocked by his sudden birth that he almost feels like he can’t stand up. In a life experience that was already bad enough, the day he learned his origins undoubtedly plunged him into a new nadir of his destiny.

The 3rd time jail is plonk, tang Dongdong feels he can’t hide thoroughly past: he can’t have the “close relative” that has boon to oneself to be chased out of the house, more the woman that cannot let a determination and oneself live replaces disaster.

He resolved not to remain a villain by fate, but to go to prison again.

On April 6, 2015, Tang Handed himself in at the nearest police station, confessing that he had drunk and run away after hitting others. Before deciding to surrender, he did not tell Ma Qin — he was afraid that any advice or intervention from her would shake his resolve.

The same day, Tang Dongdong in the police station until the evening, the police removed his handcuffs. He was told to go home and wait for the result of drinking and driving without a license, while the case of the traffic accident turned into a fraud case and the suspect, Ma Qin, and her ex-husband, Gao Yuming, were brought back to the interrogation room for investigation.

Tang Dongdong asks the specific detail of police case surprisingly, just learn from police brief answer, this is Ma Qin to help ex-husband repay gambling debt, with ex-husband conspiring to make traffic accident, come bilk his money.

In July 2015, the police station issued a punishment notice on Tang Dongdong’s illegal driving case: The car owner Tang Dongdong was selected as the target of the fraud case, his drunk driving behavior was exempted from criminal punishment, and his driving behavior without a license was fined 1,500 yuan and administrative detention for 7 days.

In August 2015, Ma Qin repaid tang Dongdong’s loan secured by a car, tang Dongdong issued a letter of understanding for the criminal case victim. Ma Qin and her ex-husband were given a lighter sentence for the crime of fraud, and Gao Yuming was sentenced to three years in prison. Ma was sentenced to two years in prison with a three-year reprieve.

Afterword.

Was he free of fate, or had it never made him a villain at all? This is the whole incident after the end, until today, Tang Dongdong has always remained a question.

However, after a year on the express, Tang Dongdong is now a father and has even named his two-month-old daughter Tang Aiqin.

Yes, he did marry Ma Qin.

To his fellow inmates, it was “dehumanizing” : not only did he write her a pardon, get her a suspended sentence and even marry her, even though the woman had set him up.

But the soup Dong Dong does not think so, he even retort everybody: “you who have not done the thing that hurts god and reason? We disdain to ask for understanding, can not ask for understanding, we can not forgive others? It’s a fucking power!”

The inmates had nothing to say, and I had nothing to say.