People mature and immature with age has no relationship, people mature immature, is that you can stand in each other’s perspective to see things.
The six characteristics of immaturity: immediately want to return; not self-discipline; often swayed by emotions; unwilling to learn, self-righteous, no zero mentality; do things by intuition, not based on facts; do things not rely on faith, rely on people’s words. As long as you believe that you can overcome your own immaturity, you will gradually grow and mature, you will get the kind of life you want, you will achieve your dream of time freedom, financial freedom, spiritual freedom of life!
People mature and immature has nothing to do with age, people mature immaturity, is whether you can stand in each other’s perspective to see things, is to be able to turn my world into your world. There are a lot of adults in this society, not yet out of childish behavior, a little thing to fight with others to fight.
One, the first characteristic of human immaturity – is to immediately want to return
He does not understand that only in the spring sowing, the fall will harvest. Many people in doing anything, just pay a little, immediately want to get a return. (Learn piano, learn English, etc., just find it difficult at first, find out that it does not work, and immediately have to give up.)
Doing our project is also the same, many people come to do this business, start without much achievement, and think of giving up. Some people give up in a month, some people give up in three months, some people give up in six months, some people give up in a year. I do not understand why people easily give up this trend business, but I know that giving up is a habit, a typical loser’s habit. That’s why you need to have vision, to look further, vision is used to see the future!
For those who have the habit of giving up in life, there is a saying that must be given to you: “Successful people never give up, and those who give up never succeed.” So why do many people tend to give up on things? Napoleon Hill, the famous American success guru, said
The poor have two very typical mentality.
1, always say “no” to the opportunity.
2, always want to “overnight riches”.
Today you put any opportunity in front of him, he will say “no”, you talk to him about the database business, they will not hesitate to reject you. In fact, this is very normal, you do not say, tell him that three and a half steps to life circle database is coming, that is, today you open a restaurant is very successful, you open your restaurant success, from the heart to tell your friends and relatives, let them also go to open a restaurant, you can guarantee that each of them are that open a restaurant? Is it true that some people still do not do? So this is a very typical mentality of the poor, he will say: “You can, I can not!”
The performance of the rich overnight is that you talk to him about any business, his first question is “earn money”, you say “earn money”, he immediately asked the second question “easy not easy “, you say “easy”, then he followed by asking the third question “fast”, you say “fast”! At this point he said “Yes, I do!” Oh, you see, he is so childish!
Think about it, in this world there is no kind of “and earn money, and easy, and fast”, no, even if there is also not our turn ah. Therefore, in life, we must know how to pay. Why do you have to give? Because you are paying for the pursuit of your dreams, people are living for hopes and dreams, if a person has no dreams, no pursuit, then there is no meaning in life!
Just like a fortune teller who is very accurate, tell you your whole life, including when you graduate, when to work, when to get married, when to have children, how to be forty, how to be fifty, how about your children later, when to pass away. You come back to life, is there any meaning? Is there no meaning at all? Human beings live for hopes and dreams.
So, what you want to gain in life, you have to give something first. You want to get time, you have to give time first, you want to get money, you have to give money first. You want to get hobbies, you have to sacrifice hobbies first. You want to spend more time with your family, you have to spend less time with your family first.
But one thing is clear, what you give in this program will be doubly rewarded. Just like a seed, after you plant it, then water it, fertilize it, hoe it, kill the insects, at the end you will reap tens and hundreds of times more. It’s the same with our project!
Whether in this project, or in life, you must know how to pay. You should not be so eager to get immediate returns, there is no free lunch in the world, you easily can not be successful.
Must know how to pay first!
Second, the second feature of human immaturity – is not self-discipline
Not self-discipline where the main performance?
Reluctance to change themselves.
You have to change your own way of thinking and behavior patterns, you have to change your bad habits. In fact, there is not much difference between people’s ability, the difference is the difference in the way of thinking. A thing happens, you go to ask successful people and failures, their answers are different, or even contrary to each other. We are unsuccessful today because we are not successful in the way we think.
A good formula is: when you plant a seed of thinking, you will have a harvest of action, when you plant the action, you will have a harvest of habit, when you plant the habit again, you will have a harvest of personality, and when you plant the personality again, it will determine your destiny.
But if you plant a seed of failure, what you get must be failure, if you plant a seed of success, then you will definitely succeed.
You must believe that if someone succeeds in this project, you will definitely succeed. Only constant action will create a habit, and a habit will develop after 21 days of repetition. Then by sticking to it constantly, it will form your personality.
Many people have a lot of bad habits, such as: watching TV, playing mahjong, drinking, clubbing, they also know that such habits are not good, but why they are not willing to change it? Because many people prefer to put up with those bad lifestyle, rather than change the pain brought to him, so he is not willing to change.
Willingness to talk about others behind their backs.
If you like to talk about others in your life, one day it will definitely get back to you. There is an old Chinese saying that those who talk about people’s rights and wrongs are definitely wrongdoers.
Negative, complaining.
What do you like about those people in life? Are those who are sad all day long, all day long complain about this complain which people, or like those who are happy all day long great belly? If you are those who complain in life, negative people, you must change the defects in your character. If you do not change, you are very difficult to adapt to the society, you are also very difficult to cooperate with others.
In life, you have to know that how you treat life, life will treat you, how you treat others, how others will treat you. So you do not want to be negative and complain, you have to be positive, forever positive, is the saying: successful people never complain, complainers never succeed.
Third, the third characteristic of human immaturity – often swayed by emotions
A person’s success or failure depends on five factors.
1、Learning to control emotions
2, a healthy body
3, good interpersonal relationships
4, time management
5, financial management
If you want to succeed, you must learn to manage these five factors, why put emotions in the first place? Put health in second place? Because if you are strong body, if you are emotionally bad, it will affect your body. Now a person to succeed 20% by the intelligence quotient, 80% by the emotional intelligence, so you have to control your emotions, emotions on people is very big impact. Between people, do not for a small matter, it is not good to jump like a thunderstorm.
Just like action star Stallone said: the past is not the same as the present, but only a temporary cessation of success. Anything that happens, will have a purpose, will help me! You have to constantly say to yourself, this is just a day for me to hone my character in the storm.
So in life, what kind of mindset do you want to develop? You have to develop “three no”, “three more” (no criticism, no complaints, no blame; more encouragement, more praise, more praise). You will become a popular person in society.
If you want your partner to be even better, it’s simple, always motivate and praise them. Even if they do have faults, what should they do then? Shouldn’t that be the time to give them advice? In life you will find There is a phenomenon that when someone gives advice to someone else, they are able to accept it, but when someone gives advice to someone else, they get angry. In fact, the most important way of advice is the “sandwich”: praise, advice, and praise again!
Think about it, how many people have you praised in a day, some people may think that praise is to praise, is to patronize. There is a difference between praise and praise, and praise has four characteristics.
1、It is sincere
2、It is from the heart
- Accepted by the public
4, selfless
If you praise with a strong purpose, it is flattering. When you praise others, you have to say it out loud, and when you want to criticize others, you must bite your tongue!
Fourth, the fourth characteristic of human immaturity – unwillingness to learn, self-righteousness, no zero mentality
In fact, there are many similarities between people and animals, animals have a stronger sense of self-preservation than people (babies and piglets). However, the biggest difference between humans and animals is: people will learn, people will think. You must not bury your natural potential, you must learn, you must have an empty glass mentality. Who do we learn from? It is to learn directly from successful people!
You must always learn positive things, do not look, do not listen to those negative, negative things. Once you absorb those toxic ideas, it will corrupt your mind and life. In this knowledge economy, learning is your only passport to the future. In such an era of speed, change and crisis, you can only keep learning so that you will not be abandoned by this era, and you must have the mentality of learning and zeroing in. To see the merits of each person, “three people, there must be my teacher too”!
Fifth, the fifth characteristic of human immaturity – do things by intuition, not based on facts
Many people have not started to do, said the business is too difficult, not good. Some did, a few did not do, said we are too poor in this place, the cost of this joining people can not accept, some said that the virtual things online people simply do not accept, or if according to my method must work, etc..
These are his personal instincts, but he is not basing them on facts and does not like the experience taught to him by successful people. In fact, Shanghai Hanrui 10 years, is a real enterprise, he does not see this fact; its database tentacles have been derived to the corners of the service industry in Shanghai, he does not see this thing; now is the Internet society, computers and the Internet will be like household appliances will be popular to every home, he also does not see this fact; and the Internet business is one of the most growth potential industry, he Still can not see; in 2008, the output value of the Internet has exceeded 2.5 trillion, he also can not see this fact.
Sixth, the sixth characteristic of human immaturity – do things not rely on faith, rely on people’s words
We say that belief is the starting point, persistence is the end. Many people do not rely on faith, like to listen to what others say. Not 100% confidence in the business they are doing, believe and belief are two different concepts, believe is visible, belief is invisible.
Belief is a human attitude, but many people who do things, do not rely on beliefs, but to listen to what others say. If you want to climb a mountain, ask those who have climbed to the top, never ask those who have not climbed the mountain. I believe many people must have heard of the story of the “grandfather and grandson selling their donkey”. Because they listened to people’s words, they didn’t even sell their donkeys!
Here is not to say that other people’s advice not to listen to, you can go to reference, but you have to remember that you come to do this business is to achieve your dream, to achieve your own value. Other people won’t care about your dream, only you care about your own dream, only you care about whether you can really succeed. That’s the most important thing! As long as your choice is right, never care what others say.
The above six characteristics of immature people, you yourselves to control, which one of the characteristics you have, you must be corrected in the shortest possible time. As long as you believe that you can overcome your own immaturity, you will gradually grow and mature, you will get the kind of life you want, you will achieve your dream of time freedom, financial freedom, spiritual freedom of life!
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