Not obedient, is their own cultivation is not enough.
People angry that a moment, the IQ is zero, after a minute before slowly return to normal.
The key to human grace is to control one’s emotions.
Hurting people with your mouth is the most stupid kind of behavior.
A person who can control bad emotions is stronger than a person who can take down a city.
Bad emotions hidden inside spring up all the time in life.
Once upon a time, in a pond, there lived a bad-tempered turtle, who became good friends with two geese that came to drink water here.
Then, one year, there was a drought and the pool dried up. The turtle had no choice but to move, and he wanted to go live with the geese in the south. But it could not fly, so the two geese used a branch and asked the tortoise to bite the middle, the geese each held one end and told the tortoise not to talk, then they moved to fly high.
They flew over the green fields and the blue lakes. When the children on the ground saw them, they thought the combination was funny and clapped their hands and laughed: “Look, that turtle is very funny.” The turtle, who had been smug, was furious when he heard the mockery and tried to open his mouth to scold them. When he opened his mouth, he fell down and hit a stone and died.
The geese sighed and said, “What a bad temper.”
In fact, when emotions are bad, a person is disarmed in terms of mental strength.
What’s more, emotions may even hurt others and cannot be recovered from.
There was a boy who was very willful and often lost his temper with others. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him, “Every time you lose your temper, nail a nail to the fence in the backyard.”
On the first day, the boy lost his temper 37 times, so he nailed down 37 nails. Slowly, the boy found it easier to control his temper than to nail down a nail, so the number of times he lost his temper each day decreased little by little. Finally, one day, the boy was able to control his emotions, no longer throwing tantrums.
The father told him: “From now on, every time you hold back your temper, pull out a nail”, and after many days, the boy finally pulled out all the nails.
The father took him by the hand and went to the fence in the backyard and said, “Son, you have done well, but now look at this fence covered with small holes, it can never return to its former appearance, and the words you say when you are angry to hurt others will leave wounds in their hearts like nails, no matter how many apologies you say afterwards, those wounds will always be there. “
Can emotions be controlled?
We can do an experiment: if you make a smiling face, then your mood will immediately feel a few points of increased pleasure. Research in psychology shows that not only emotions can influence human behavior, but also in turn can influence human emotions. Not only can people control their emotions psychologically, but modern physiological research shows that people can control their blood pressure, heartbeat, and so on. Not to mention emotions? There are many ways to control emotions, and in my opinion, at least the following methods are feasible.
(1) Shift
Shift your attention to something pleasant.
(2) Distraction
Disperse your worries and break them down individually. Do not associate this worry with other worries. Do not seek your own worries and artificially magnify them. Specific worries, specific solutions, do not count the total account.
(3) Weakening
Weaken your worries, for non-principled stimuli, we must learn to hold the gate tightly, as far as possible, do not listen, do not see, do not feel, do not let it input. If it is input, do not associate, think, or remember it as much as possible.
(4) Consideration
Get angry and punish yourself for the faults of others. If you forgive others, you forgive yourself. Also, see the other person as an objective thing.
(5) Relief
It is to see things from a different perspective. To look at a problem from a deeper, broader, higher, and longer-term perspective, and to make a new understanding of it, in order to break away from the original limitations. Make their own mental relief, in order to transfer their energy to their own pursuit of the goal up. For example, if you lose your horse, you will not know that it is not a blessing, which is the classic thinking of liberation.
(6) Sublimation
Using a strong emotional impulse and directing it in a positive, beneficial direction to give it constructive meaning and value.
(7) Counteract
Seeking another stimulus. If your next-door neighbor is playing music loudly, making yourself distracted, use the previous method is ineffective, you may want to turn on the stereo yourself and play your favorite music…
(8) Use
Turn bad things into good things. One is the use of timing and objective conditions, the second is the use of emotions themselves, the emotions sublimated into power.
(9) Expression
Writing, talking.
With the effective management and utilization of emotions, people will become more and more free and dashing. The tree wants to be still but the wind does not stop. True freedom is expressed in: the firmness of the roots, the strength of the trunk and the swaying freedom of the branches, all three in harmony and unity.
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