Recently, the TV series “Little Surrender” has given viewers a solid experience of all-round Chinese educational anxiety.
The first two series of the “small series”, “Little Separation” and “Little Joy”, mostly explore education issues in a more relaxed setting, making viewers feel both The first two series, “Little Goodbye” and “Little Joy,” mostly explored education issues in a more light-hearted setting, making viewers feel both close to life and not overly projective.
But this time, the drama turns its attention to the chicken-blooded mothers, who earlier had a uniform title of “Chinese Tiger Moms”.
Chinese tiger moms are making a comeback
In the drama, Huanhuan’s grades are average and her parents advocate quality education and happy growth, a veritable “vegetarian chicken child”. The mother wants her child to do better and better, and is a typical “meat chicken” who is oriented towards improving her academic performance. Just like in real life, every time the two parents meet, they intentionally or unintentionally start to “fight”, but every time the battle ends, there is no winner.
The parents of children who need to improve their studies are arguing at home over how many tuition classes to enroll in, while children who seem like they don’t need to worry about their studies are also anxious because of their parents’ ever-increasing high demands.
Although “Little Shed” is a drama, but this parenting anxiety hangs over almost every viewer’s heart, and the crueler thing is that even though the first half of the episode embodies a million tangled, helpless and troubled lives, the final ending does its best to present Happy Ending, which may make many people feel slightly embarrassed.
And there are no scriptwriters in real life. Those children and parents who are always feeling the pressure of higher education, as if they can only vaguely see the light of the end of the entrance exams in the distance, and as for the happy ending or not, it is a confusing thing.
Wake up at 6:30, arrive at school at 7:30, rush home immediately after school in the afternoon to pick up two bites of food, and then start to complete the homework assigned by the school. When the homework is finished at about 9:00 p.m., the rest of the day is spent reading foreign languages, doing math, practicing piano, and basically washing up and going to bed after 10:30 p.m.
Weekends are even worse, as they are so busy during the day with homework and tutorials that they sometimes have to take a quick lunch on the bus, and a large chunk of In addition to sleeping every night, the rest time is basically only four hours on Sunday afternoon.
This is not the sprint schedule of a certain senior student, but the work and rest schedule of Niu Niu, a sixth grade student at an elementary school in Gulou District, Nanjing, for her, this has become the norm of life.
This high-pressure life, not to mention children, even adults may not be able to eat. The attitude of Niu Niu’s mother is that other issues are fine, but the academic schedule is not negotiable at all.
In this regard, women seem to be more assertive. The traditional concept of the father singing the black face of the mother singing the white face of the role of the distribution, in the face of the problem of higher education eclipsed the phenomenon of “tiger mother and cat father” more and more, when the child to the child The father, who was strict with his children as a child, often could not bear to see his children’s “make-up class schedule” like a star schedule, and the growing hunchback and myopia of his children.
Many people look back on their own experiences growing up and do not think much of the “primary school” thing, which is included in the compulsory education level of the process of further education, compared to the secondary and high school exams The process is a piece of cake.
But this seemingly simple matter in the past, but now it has become a new battlefield outside the two exams, and similar to Niu Niu’s mother such as the enemy of parents, not a few in the country.
In first-tier cities, it is the consensus of many parents that their children need to attend cram school: a good middle school is the “green channel” to a good high school, and entering a good high school is equivalent to having one foot in the door of a university. A good middle school is the “green path” to a good high school, and entering a good high school is like having one foot in the door of a university.
If you talk to any parent waiting outside a cram school on the weekend, you will surely hear something like this: “We all want our children to grow up easily and happily, and it’s even harder for parents to surround their children after work. But nowadays, children around us will go to cram school whenever they have the conditions.
“One point a thousand people”, “door knocker and “quality education resources” have become the triple shackle on contemporary parents. If you can’t get your child as close to the “starting line” as possible, then as the actor in “Little Shedder” predicts, “one step will not catch up, and the next step will not. If you can’t get your child as close to the “starting line” as possible, then, as the actor in “Little Shedder” predicts, “one step can’t catch up, and every step can’t catch up. In the face of the restrictions on the number of places in key secondary schools, almost all parents are held hostage, and in this battlefield where scores are the main factor, most parents can only “give in to the pain”. The company has been in the process of developing a new product, the “new” product.
Although the Ministry of Education has been calling a halt to all kinds of learning competitions in recent years, the demand for additional certificates from parents and schools has continued to grow. One example is the Cambridge Five Level Certificate Examination in English (MSE), which has suddenly become popular in recent years. Under this certificate system, K and P are a frequent topic of discussion among parents, with K being the first level, equivalent to the English level of the domestic secondary school exam, and P being the second level, comparable in difficulty to the English level of the domestic college entrance exam.
In Beijing, if you want your child to enter the “six little ones” in your district, getting the “In other words, if a child in the sixth grade wants to be more competitive in terms of further education, he or she must get a high score on the English paper of the entrance examination.
In this regard, in addition to the tiger moms, the development of the Internet industry has added fuel to this “anxiety feast”.
Online education institutions are doing their best to showcase their powerful curriculum while also releasing anxiety signals through a soft advertisement. The change in communication methods has also made it easier for parents to see “other people’s kids” instead of “other people’s kids”. Behind the endless expansion of the scope of comparison, children feel as if they are working hard to give others a leg up in life.
Behind the increasingly serious systemic anxiety about further education, family relationships and children’s psychology also suffer a huge test.
Parenting expert Yang Yue after a long period of observation, found an interesting phenomenon: more than 70% of the children in the fourth grade will slowly disappear from the parents’ circle of friends. Before this, the child is the main character in this world, and after this, the family slowly began to live around the “academic performance” to parent-child communication and activities are In a sudden decline. And in Yang Yue’s view, the majority of Chinese families with children above the fourth grade are unhappy.
The data in the research report on the psychological problems of primary and secondary school students is also chilling, because of the increasing number of depression caused by excessive academic pressure, some data show that the prevalence of depression among adolescents and young people aged 10-24 in China has increased significantly between 2005 and 2015, with a prevalence rate of nearly 1.3%.
At an age when they should be enjoying simple pleasures, they are burdened with work intensity and psychological pressure that is somewhat daunting for adults, and parental blame and even surveillance is the last straw that overwhelms them.
There was a news report that a junior high school student was showing unusual anxiety about school and exams, and his hands were shaking uncontrollably when he was writing homework. The reason for this is that the child’s mother, in order to make up for her childhood regret of not getting into college, was so demanding of her child that she even installed a surveillance camera at home and scolded her child when she found him or her slightly distracted.
Both the child and the parents are “driven crazy” by themselves and their surroundings. But even so, few people want to slow down and experience a normal life.
What happened to the first generation of tiger moms?
This Chinese style of tiger mother education actually made its way out of Asia and became influential in the world a few years ago. The first generation of Tiger Moms, Chinese American mother Meier Tsai, who made the term “Tiger Mom” appear in the media, had published an autobiography, “Tiger Mom Battle Hymn,” which was translated into more than 30 languages and became a global bestseller.
A former lawyer and professor at Yale Law School, Meier published two books on the political science and history of international relations before becoming the poster child for “tiger moms. But it was her third book, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” that brought her into the limelight.
The Wall Street Journal published a book review on the subject: “Why Chinese Moms Are Better. In it, Amy Chua’s “Top Ten Family Rules” are quoted as being The following are impressive
1) No staying out at night, 2) No participating in school group recreational activities, 3) No attending school performances, 4) No complaining about not attending school performances. No watching TV or playing video games, no choosing extracurricular activities without permission, no getting less than an A in any subject, no failing to get a first in any subject except physical education and drama, no practicing instruments other than piano and violin, and no not practicing piano and violin on a particular day.
A Chinese celebrity with overseas experience made the following statement during the controversy over the book: “Of all the mothers I know in China, no one treats their children the way she does, and Ms. Tsai, who is a law professor, can be considered a loner when it comes to pretentiousness. Ms. Cai, who is a law professor, is alone in her pretensions. “
But it is hard to tell whether Ms. Tsai is pretentious or telling the truth about Confucian education. A few years ago, Cai Meier’s Tiger Mom style of education had caused great controversy, especially in China, American-style lenient education used to be the parenting style of choice for some parents, dominating the education of children at home Chinese mothers, there were many who were keen to give their children a Western-style upbringing, but in the end, also in the education of the inner volume, had to become “Tiger Mom”.
In Meier Cai, we can find the East Asian tiger moms. When Meier Tsai’s oldest daughter was in the fifth grade, she got second place in an exam. Instead of praising her daughter after she came home, Meier Tsai also punished her to do 20 test papers and 100 arithmetic problems every day, and after a week, her oldest daughter returned to the first place.
Under this strict tiger mother style of education, Meier’s eldest and second daughters also went to Harvard and Yale respectively, but according to a survey, the Chinese American population rated Meier’s education style lower than other American ethnic groups, and nearly 10 years after Meier’s book was published, Meier’s youngest daughter revealed that her mother had been labeled by some people as Nearly 10 years after the publication of her book, Chua’s youngest daughter revealed that her mother had fallen into a state of depression because she had been labeled by some as “child abuser.
Tiger mom Meier Tsai’s teaching position at Yale was also nearly threatened in 2018 when, according to The Guardian, Tsai once advised interns to dress more “outwardly” when interviewing U.S. Supreme Court Justice candidate Brett Kavanaugh (who was embroiled in a sexual assault scandal) “, Amy Chua denied the allegation, but the news couldn’t help but make people sweat for her, and the husband of the not-so-strong presence in this Tiger Mom phenomenon was suspended for sexual harassment within the school.
However, the “tiger mother” is depressed, but her way of education has gone global.
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