Last weekend, I finished a new project and it was almost one o’clock in the middle of the night. I sent a “I want to eat a snack oh” circle of friends, and then went to take a shower after that.
When I came back, I found dozens of likes under that circle of friends, but only one comment said: recently a new crawfish good, I’ll go pick you up to go eat together ah?
This person is my best friend watermelon who I have known for ten years. During my shower, she sent me two more WeChats to make a phone call, and she questioned me furiously, saying: you’re not asleep!
I don’t know how to describe how I felt at that moment, I just suddenly remembered a phrase I read on Weibo a long time ago: friends who like each other a hundred times are not as close as eating a meal.
It’s true, I’ve really gotten to know a lot of people over the years.
I have three WeChat, are full of five thousand people, I send a circle of friends, can get hundreds of praise, are uniform praise and compliments, the tone of light and uplifting, look for a long time it is easy to make people misunderstand my relationship with everyone is the same good.
But when I really need comfort, I realized that a thousand sentences of comfort across the screen are not as good as a face-to-face hug.
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I remember when I first graduated from work, I just joined the workforce, and I really wanted to expand my social circle. So I forced myself to constantly meet new friends and go to some unfamiliar events and meals.
Of course, I also met a lot of new people, as expected, we all added each other WeChat, will be close to the face together with intimate photos, of course, or will give each other’s circle of friends like.
Some of these people, we also call each other dear, called up extra know kind and gentle, as if we had drunk together.
The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re doing.
I still remember a time when I really felt like I had friends all over the world, where I had good friends, I was not afraid to go anywhere.
So I became even more addicted to this short-lived socializing, and gradually lost myself in between the gossip.
The first time I was hospitalized, I sent a picture of the back of my hand playing a drip in my circle of friends. The surprising thing is that there are still a lot of likes and comments asking me to pay attention to my health, but the friends who are eager to ask me “what’s wrong, in which hospital, why didn’t you notify her” are actually the same ones from the beginning.
After that, I seldom go to participate in that meaningless wine bureau, than a bunch of people sitting together to introduce themselves and secretly climb, in fact, I prefer to sit with a few good friends in a big stall drinking and jerking off, with each other’s embarrassing things to drink, a big mouth of wine, a big mouth of meat.
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Sometimes I feel that making friends is a lot like buying lipstick, there is always a time when you are obsessed with collecting the number of lipsticks, different types of different brands and shapes, you want to have one.
But when you have dozens of lipsticks to fill the table, you will find that in fact you really use those few bars.
This is also the case with friends, even if you make friends extensively, but in the end you can push your heart and soul, there are always so few people.
I remember the episode of “The Legend of Wu Lin” there is an understanding of friends, Tong Xiangyu said very well, she said: friends are exchanged for the heart, sell a good gift to be able to exchange for friendship, too cheap.
So sometimes it is appropriate to advise people to give up some meaningless social, you go to great lengths to use all your strength in exchange for friendship is not a sure thing, it is like a hand full of sand only, consumed their time and experience, but in the end still can not hold, only to let time will slowly pass them away.
What you should do is, while the years are just right, hurry up and have fun with real friends, go on field trips together in the spring, go surfing together in the summer, cook hot pot together in the fall, and have snowball fights together in the winter.
You have to eat many, many meals together, eat until the time of gray hair, but also to hold hands together to do beautiful sisterhood.
So don’t worry about the likes, why don’t we meet for dinner, okay?
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