People know their Destiny when they reach 50.
Yantai farmer Zhang Yumei did not expect to receive another “gift” from fate at the age of 58 – a pair of lovely twin daughters.
This year, on the seventh day of the New Year, she gave birth to twin daughters by Caesarean section in a hospital in Yantai, and the operation went smoothly, mother and daughter are safe.
Zhang Yumei, who gave birth to twins at the age of 58, is taking good care of the two little ones.
As a rare case, “58-year-old twins born at an advanced age” instantly attracted public attention. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
7 years to run around the country many hospitals “to seek children”, spending hundreds of thousands of Family savings, the family from support to firm opposition …… Zhang Yumei spent a sad and physically and mentally exhausting “running around seeking children” of Seven years, but also spent nearly collapse and despair of seven years.
In the face of public opinion, the public network – poster news dialogue Zhang Yumei, listen to her tell the truth behind the difficult age of child seeking.
58 years old “ushered in” twins
March 25.
This is the 36th day after Zhang Yumei gave birth to twin daughters.
It was after 10 a.m.
Compared to the hustle and bustle of the Internet, Zhang Yumei’s house is very quiet.
There was no talking, only the sound of chopping cabbage. The family is preparing lunch.
The one who is trembling and bowing at work is Zhang Yumei’s 90-year-old mother-in-law.
Zhang Yumei’s Home is in a relatively new neighborhood in Penglai, Yantai.
In the eyes of uninformed outsiders, this community is in good condition. The district has at least 20 buildings, elevator entry, and an intelligent doorbell.
“This is a relocation community, and every family of villagers has one.” Zhang Yumei said that although her house looks quite new, but these seven years she spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to seek a son, but also owed more than 100,000, the family is not well-off.
The innermost bedroom is the room for Zhang Yumei and her twin babies.
“Come on, my little baby is hungry it, mommy get you a bottle ……”
At 10 o’clock, Zhang Yumei, a 58-year-old woman of advanced maternal age, took good care of her two babies.
A pair of twin daughters are very healthy and cute, and look alike.
The baby’s little feet sticking out, Zhang Yumei’s heart is melting.
The two little ones were very healthy, but because they were born prematurely, they looked a little smaller than the little babies of the same age.
“Look, one is double-eyed, one is single-eyed, all the other look the same.” Zhang Yumei said the two little ones look extremely similar, the general public can not see, but as a mother, she can distinguish.
She pointed to the bed of the two little ones introduced, the left side of this is the sister, is sleeping sweetly, the right side of the sister, is eating with a bottle of milk happy.
Zhang Yumei, 58, arranged the room is not old-fashioned at all.
Soft, goose yellow small mattress, pink with the same small clothes …… Zhang Yumei like other young happy mother, prepared a variety of supplies for the children, and are full of cute “girl style”, the room is very warm.
After a while, eaten sister a little sleepy, Zhang Yumei put down the bottle, picked her up to gently burp, and put the baby to sleep.
Zhang Yumei put the sleeping baby down gently and let her and her sister sleep side by side next to each other in the TV show.
She lowered her head and looked at the child for a while, the more she looked at it, the more she liked it, and she couldn’t help but smile faintly.
Zhang Yumei love two children, because the family economy is not generous, Zhang Yumei “moon” period, in order to save money to raise two children, but also can not afford to buy their own nutrition. This reporter saw that in Zhang Yumei and the baby’s room, there are a lot of baby supplies are sent by the loving public.
Some warm-hearted citizens gave the two little babies a milk warmer.
Just a few days ago, the warm-hearted mother Sun Jing and her sister Sun Lulu, who met her in the hospital ward, came to see her together.
As soon as they entered the door the sisters were heartbroken.
“Auntie, you can’t just eat these things, you’re too short of nutrition during the month!” Sun Lulu advised her that she had to take care of the baby and first of all, she had to take care of her own body to be able to survive.
Later, Sun Lulu gave her some pig’s feet to nourish her body, but Zhang Yumei didn’t want to eat them.
“For the birth of these two children, the family spent hundreds of thousands of dollars, but also owed a lot of debt.” Zhang Yumei said that this is also the problem she faced in giving birth to a child at an advanced age. Now there is almost no income at home, she has to take care of the children can not go out to work, her husband is not healthy, can not work, there are 90-year-old mother-in-law.
The economic conditions are not good, and close to 60 years old, a should be a grandmother’s age, Zhang Yumei why risk, insist on doing advanced maternity?
This comes from an unbearable past seven years ago.
“The pain of “loss of independence
This is not the first Time Zhang Yumei became a mother.
Zhang Yumei once had a son. It was her only child.
Like all women in their 50s, Zhang Yumei’s son is in his 20s. According to her vision, in a few years, her son would get married and she would soon become a grandmother and live a Life of hugging her grandchildren.
However, a merciless fate disrupted her happy plans.
One day in 2014, Zhang Yumei received the sad news that her son had suddenly passed away in a car accident.
Zhang Yumei’s whole life went gray.
“I couldn’t figure out why such a fate had befallen my family?” Zhang Yumei said she felt that the sky had suddenly collapsed and she cried every day and night until she was desperate and cried until her whole body lost its strength.
At the age of 52, Zhang Yumei lost her motivation to do everything. She seldom spoke except to cry, her eyes were empty and she did not want to communicate with others. She also did not want to go out to work, can not be interested in everything, in order to pass the time, Zhang Yumei play mahjong every day.
When the mahjong game ended every day, she had to go back to the great pain and emptiness, she felt too lonely in her heart, Zhang Yumei felt that life had lost all meaning and did not want to live.
In order to compensate for the pain of the loss, her family asked Zhang Yumei to go to a relative’s house to help take care of the children and divert her attention, however, the parenting philosophy was different and she soon returned sadly.
“I still want my own children.” Zhang Yumei said sadly.
This reporter saw that in Zhang Yumei’s home, the living room wall was plastered with two 100-day photos, which were photos of her relatives’ children, and she took them back and carefully plastered them on her own wall to give the family some warmth and atmosphere.
In order to relieve the mood, Zhang Yumei also raised a few pots of flowers, but also in a small fish tank to raise a thinner than a small thumb tropical fish.
I don’t remember how many days I cried, Zhang Yumei suddenly stopped, she felt that there is a power in the dark, let her have another child, as if she can “find” and lost the child’s destiny.
“If there is no child, then I live too sorry, I can not live without children.” Zhang Yumei said that no one can understand the pain of losing a child better than she does.
“How about having another child?” She was immersed in pain and could not extricate herself, and was bent on seeking a child. To prevent her from drowning in it, her family also supported her to have another child.
From then on, Zhang Yumei embarked on a long road to find a child.
The “family” nationwide search for a child
It was a desperate and physically and mentally exhausting seven years.
Zhang Yumei began the most anxious and humble days of her life.
Yantai, Qingdao, Beijing, Nanjing, Jinan …… she ran through all the hospitals she felt were “powerful”, whether they were big and famous or small clinics.
However, fate initially refused to favor her.
Zhang Yumei is too old and has been rejected numerous times by doctors.
Zhang Yumei insisted that she wanted a child, and she would pay any price to have a child. As long as there is a ray of hope, she wants to try.
In order to have another child, she threw everything at it, and seven years down the line, in her words, the family has “lost everything”.
In the beginning, Zhang Yumei actually had money in her hands, originally the family had savings.
Beijing, Nanjing, Qingdao ……
The time is really too long to toss and turn for seven years.
Zhang Yumei spent more than 400,000.
She tossed the family’s savings, but also owed more than 100,000 foreign debts.
Zhang Yumei said, at first relatives also lent her. Her Parents gave her money, her brother’s family also lent her. But then repeatedly failed, relatives also have little money to lend her.
People advised her to give up.
She refused to listen.
It is saddening that this rural woman, who has been running around “seeking a son”, has been cheated of a lot of money.
“A lot of money has been cheated by scammers, they all say they will cure, but in fact, just to cheat my money, these people really have no conscience ah, how can they cheat my money.” Zhang Yumei’s eyes are red as she recalls her years of seeking children and being cheated time and again.
In the past seven years, Zhang Yumei suffered great pain and countless anxious moments, and had numerous breakdowns.
Zhang Yumei clearly remembers that the first time she failed in her quest for a child was in Qingdao. Tired and full of hope, she learned that the treatment failed, her emotions instantly collapsed, she had nowhere to vent her frustration, she raised her cell phone and viciously smashed it, breaking down and crying afterwards.
For the next seven years, she broke her phone more than once, and broke three phones in total.
Her husband, who had been running around with her in search of a child, couldn’t hold out any longer and advised her to give up.
She still refused to listen.
Year after year, most of the time, the treatment became Zhang Yumei’s “lonely battle”.
Tough to “usher in” twins
“It’s twins!”
After numerous trials and tribulations, in 2020, the doctor told Zhang Yumei that she was pregnant.
“Bang Bang Bang ……”
When the doctor gave her an ultrasound, Zhang Yumei heard the heartbeats of her two children for the first time and let out a cry on the spot.
Zhang Yumei recalled that she cried, but the doctor was frightened, rushed to ask her if there was something wrong with her body.
She cried and said, “Doctor! I was so happy to cry, I had to make a big cry.”
Zhang Yumei recalled that after years of seeking a child, she was so close to giving up that she could not hold on anymore.
Thanks to the words of a Dr. Dong in Jinan, she saw the light. Zhang Yumei had sought Dr. Dong’s help in toning her body with the intention of giving it a try.
When she was discouraged, Dr. Dong encouraged her, saying that her uterine lining was thicker than some young people and that her body was in good condition, so it was not impossible for her to get pregnant.
Keeping this “hope” in mind, Zhang Yumei continued her quest for a baby and finally, after several failed attempts, managed to get pregnant with twins.
Fate still gave Zhang Yumei the “gift” she wanted most.
How did Zhang Yumei’s twins get conceived? Was it a natural pregnancy or in vitro fertilization? This has caused a lot of speculation, but also attracted the attention of the media.
The reporter noted that the media reports appeared in a variety of ways, and Zhang Yumei does not want to talk about it, only that she is full of gratitude for all this.
Lonely “senior” pregnant women
It is said that the pregnant woman is the “merit” of the family.
But Zhang Yunmei became the most “lonely” pregnant woman in the birth control ward.
During the days in the ward, Zhang Yumei had almost no one to accompany her in bed.
Her mother-in-law is in her nineties, her parents are in their eighties, and her husband has broken his leg due to an injury and has difficulty moving around.
Over the years, Zhang Yumei’s family has been mentally and physically overwhelmed by the need to have a child. When she was hospitalized during the birth control period, she could not stay with her for a long time.
Most of the time, she was alone with the “twins” belly, shuttling back and forth in the hospital, slowly “moving” to do examinations, meals, and massage themselves.
The good thing is that the “lonely” woman met a good samaritan.
A young pregnant woman, Sun Jing, was in the same ward of the hospital to keep the fetus, and seeing Zhang Yumei alone was very difficult, she was moved to compassion.
The first time she noticed Zhang Yumei, she was “surprised” by her loud voice, when Zhang Yumei shouted in the ward to ask the nurse to help.
Jing quietly opened the curtain and took a look at the “loud” aunt, and was surprised to find that she was not here to accompany the bed, but was a “big-bellied” woman in labor, and was pregnant with twins.
In the next few days, Sun paid more attention to Zhang Yumei out of curiosity and found that Zhang Yumei’s bedside was surprisingly cold.
She was the only one who took care of herself in the ward where the baby was kept, Sun said.
The “lonely” Zhang Yumei is also very “strong” and remains cheerful and optimistic.
During the period of fetal preservation, both of her legs swelled up to almost as thick as a barrel, and she had difficulty moving around and buying meals.
Out of compassion, Sun discussed with her sister, Sun Lulu, who came to stay with her in bed, to help Zhang Yumei more.
From then on, her sister Sun Lulu often gave Zhang an extra portion of Food when she was eating, and helped her get in line when she was having a checkup. When she had something to eat, she gave her some.
The birth of the twins was getting closer and closer.
Throughout the Spring Festival, Zhang Yumei spent time in the hospital.
On the seventh day of the Chinese New Year, Zhang Yumei finally entered the operating room for the Caesarean section.
She closed her eyes nervously and listened carefully to the movement of the children.
She felt her heart jumping out of her throat.
Zhang Yumei said she would never forget that moment in her life.
At that time, after the first child was carried out, the doctor’s hands soon came “wow” a loud cry, followed by the second child was born successfully, and again soon came a loud cry.
Frozen for a moment, Zhang Yumei suddenly cried out even louder.
The doctor was startled by her and rushed to comfort her saying, “You are now in labor, don’t cry, take good care of the child in the future, don’t be sad.”
Zhang Yumei cried even louder, she cried and laughed and said, “I am crying with joy, seven years, I finally have a child!”
“Borrowed” breast milk
The feeding of the child also became a problem.
At first, Zhang Yumei’s breast milk was too little.
From the first day of their birth, the twins, who have received a lot of attention, had to “borrow” most of the breast milk.
Sun Jing, who had helped her in the same ward, “lent” the twins breast milk.
Fortunately, from the birth of the children to the full moon of the children, this caring mother Sun Jing’s breast milk, successive supply for more than a month.
This temporarily solved Zhang Yumei’s urgent need to feed her children.
The warm-hearted mom provided breast milk to the two little babies for more than a month.
No difficulty has hit Zhang Yumei’s happiness. This month with the children, she felt tired and happy.
Zhang Yumei’s mother-in-law is over 90 years old and cannot help with the children. Her husband is not well and cannot always bend down to help with the children, so he can only be busy with the paperwork and shopping for the children.
Both children are in her hands almost every day, and she takes care of them wholeheartedly. Since both children were born prematurely, Zhang Yumei needed to feed them at a frequency of once every two hours. At night, the two children woke up at different times, and the feeding time was also different, so overnight, Zhang Yumei could hardly sleep.
While the children were asleep, Zhang Yumei rushed to wash and brush the bottles.
Despite the fact that taking care of the twins is very tiring, Zhang Yumei’s heart is incredibly happy.
But as a 60-year-old woman in labor, she clearly feels that taking care of her children today is completely different from years ago, first of all, her physical strength is not as strong as before, she is so tired that her back is sore, back pain, and wrist pain.
Zhang Yumei, who gave birth at an advanced age, often suffers from severe back pain.
In addition, her “child-rearing knowledge” has also lagged behind. She did not know that using boiling water to warm the baby’s milk will greatly lose breast milk nutrients, nor did she know how to scientifically burp the baby after drinking milk.
As a senior mother who was separated from young people by a “generation gap”, she took the initiative to learn to bring diapers to her child with the help of young people, and learned to use an electric milking machine with the help of young people.
Zhang Yumei learned to burp her child with the young mothers.
However, the voice accusing Zhang Yumei of being “irresponsible” still came.
The “irresponsible” controversy
“58 years old to have twins?”
“Too selfish, right?”
When the news of Zhang Yumei’s birth at an advanced age spread, it became a hot search.
After the incident fermented, Zhang Yumei received a lot of accusations from netizens. Everyone is worried about the same – so old, how to raise a child? How much money does it cost to raise a child? What if the child does not have enough breast milk? What if you can’t afford to buy milk powder? How about school in the future?
Another netizen calculated a sum of money, he thinks Zhang Yumei childbirth also borrowed money, still owe a hundred thousand, no more income, raising two children is “worse”. In the future, the two children will have to go to kindergarten, and so 15 years old to finish junior high school, parents are 73 years old, simply can not supply to read high school and college.
The netizens’ questions, Zhang Yumei, who has had several breakdowns in the process of seeking children over the years, now seems particularly calm.
“Thank you all for your comments, I want children too much. When I lost my own child, I miss the child, I just want to have a child again, everyone just consider me selfish.” Zhang Yumei said that she has no regrets at all about having the twins. If time starts over, she will still make this choice, no matter how difficult, she has never changed this idea.
Zhang Yumei personally took care of the two little babies and worked hard for the children.
“The future go step by step, now catch up with the good times, always starve.” Zhang Yumei said that it is the social and medical technology progress, she has her own twin children, she feels that the children came to such a good society is quite good, do not feel that the children will suffer.
Zhang Yumei lamented that in real life, there are also whispers. But there are many people who sympathize with her and understand her feelings of motherhood. Although some people think that she gave birth to a child at an advanced age, simply can not take care of, she is “harm” the child, but the reality of the people will generally understand her feelings, generally will not be in front of her strong words. She is powerless to ask the network to understand her, but as a mother, the child’s future, she will do her best to plan for the child in the future.
Zhang Yumei said that the family is a rural person, now living in the government to build a building, she personally have a monthly pension of 1,100 yuan.
No matter how difficult life is, Zhang Yumei can’t help but see the new babies born, a smile appears on her face.
“These two children came is fate, is my baby.” She said that for the sake of the two children, she will take care of her body as soon as possible and take good care of the children. Since her husband can’t stand for too long or do heavy work because of the injuries he suffered, he can’t go out to work. Zhang Yumei plans to let her husband stay at home to look after the children, she went out to do some small business, selling vegetables, fruits and so on to earn money to support the family.
Although life is difficult, but Zhang Yumei believes that there is no more difficult than the loss of children. She believes that the future of life, will be better and better.
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