Which moment makes you feel that your Parents are getting old?
Is it the hard-working and gentle mother who used to be an Internet addicted old man who is now addicted to cell phones? Is it the parents who used to be thoughtful and reasonable, but now open their mouths and say “…… on WeChat“? Or is it the parents who set the alarm clock every day to fertilize and water the virtual orchard and bombard the Family group for free apples?
Wu asked clearly remembered that in previous years, the Chinese New Year‘s Eve dinner is grandfather “three Gu Mao Lodge” to ask his grandson to eat, but this year the other way around; previously, he liked to play two games of chess with his father, since the change of smart phone has become a low head. The smartphone has become a low-headed people, keen to brush short video to the early hours of the morning, with virtual steps and pull head “for money”, with the game Gold beans for Food and oil ……
Wu asked if his dad, who uses his cell phone for more than 10 hours a day, is considered an Internet addict, and he browsed aimlessly on social media platforms to see a message, “This is my old man himself. “.
“My grandfather 73 this year, some Time ago the old problem of emphysema, resulting in his inability to breathe, the big night hit the 120 during hospitalization, clip oximeter to my mother said, can you give him a new finger clip, the middle finger clip is not too fun phone. “Zhihu netizen Ohrich wrote.
Playing with cell phones has become one of the main ways of leisure and entertainment for the elderly. The report shows that the current App that makes the elderly spend the most time and even addiction is roughly the two categories of social and killing time, including Jitterbug, Racer, WeChat, as well as planting trees, K songs, small games, etc.. In the year 2020, the Epidemic is at Home, the algorithm is the king, regardless of the value output of the Internet recommendation mechanism, the “addiction” and the conflict between generations are magnified.
Now, how to get along with the Internet is a mandatory course for a new generation of older people, and how to help parents quit Internet addiction has become a new issue for some young people.
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Social three treasures: Jitterbug Express and WeChat
At 1 a.m., Youning was unable to sleep because of the brainwashing BGM coming from the living room.
It is the mother in the living room brush short video, open the speaker, but also from time to time into the comment section to browse a circle, the Music repeated over and over again. She went to the living room to remind, mom also aggrieved that if the sound is low will not hear clearly. It was her last night at home for the Chinese New Year, and she didn’t want to upset her mother. She lay in bed tossing and turning: why did her mother, who used to be a hard-working and gentle person, become an Internet-addicted old child after retirement?
The most addictive app for the elderly is short video, led by Jitterbug and Racer, and QuestMobile’s “Silver Hair Crowd Insight Report” shows that compared to the previous year, short video occupied more time for the silver hair crowd (over 50 years old) in 2020 and is the main form of entertainment for this group.
One of Youning’s “Nightmares” is that his mother dances to short videos in Jitterbug, and a video of less than a minute can be played on a loop in the living room. Half an hour. This year, mom is also busy with “money”, participating in a number of APPs to grab red envelopes, doing tasks every day, lighting lanterns, collecting cards, playing mini-games, the original dog walking time, nap time, not used for The time, nap time, either used to brush short video to save hours, or invite friends to help.
The six APPs are less than 50 yuan. She reassured her mother that “to get a big prize for this kind of probability activity, unless the Koi possesses you”, but within a few hours, she regained her enthusiasm and got hooked on creating. She didn’t expect that within a few hours, she had regained her enthusiasm and was hooked on creating.
Even a relative’s child accidentally broke a cup, Youning’s mother’s first reaction was to open Shake, let the child pretend to accidentally break another, three generations together to face the camera auspicious words to pay respect to the New Year.
Lin Chang’s family of four elderly people last year is still squatting waiting for the Spring Festival Gala, this year’s New Year’s Eve family program turned into an exchange of short videos. Grandpa loves to watch anti-Japanese dramas and fishing videos, grandma likes Buddhist music and square dance, dad is keen on chess and suspense skits, mom has opened a live broadcast, everyone can always find a reason to pass the time on ShakeYin Express watermelon video, and even feel insomnia is not a bad thing anymore. When you go home to face four “Internet addicted middle-aged”, Lin Chang does not know whether to be relieved or anxious.
There is a saying, “Shake three minutes, an hour on earth”, in front of the short video personalized algorithm recommendation, the elderly originally difficult to resist the brush screen era easy to operate, fast The temptation of feedback. Just like a “melon” that people can easily pick up, once they pick up the first one, they will want to eat the second one, the third one…. …can’t help slipping on the index finger ……
The everlasting sense of anticipation, the balance between acquaintance and stranger socialization, plus the extreme version, the small favor type rewards behind the holiday bonus, and the sense of participation in completing tasks or creations, all attract older people with the idea of relieving boredom + earning some money to stay as long as possible, and invite more friends to join.
If the short video APP is the second circle of friends of the elderly, then dare to call the first only WeChat. The popularity is high enough, and there is a voice call function to meet the social needs, so WeChat has become a tool-type APP for the elderly to socialize online and make friends offline.
Huang Jiajia’s mother is the leader of the community square dance. After suspending rehearsals during the epidemic, she switched to communicating with the WeChat group, and the content has expanded to include health, chicken Soup articles, current affairs, and even sunshine three meals a day. “Aunties like to voice chat in the group, chatting about everything, my mother are open speaker playback, once to listen to not enough to listen twice, their own response to the voice to listen repeatedly. “
She knew that her mother was suffocating this year, watching her indulge in group chats and could not bear to interrupt, but last June her mother had a relapse of eye disease, and continued after the cure. This time she came home for the Chinese New Year and found that the kitchen burned two pots and pans, a little bit of fear. Sometimes you can call your mom several times, and she’s just listening to the voice and grabbing the red packets, as if she can’t hear everything in her ears”, and dad from the beginning of boredom, helplessness, and now also silently The phone is now playing.
“Red packet”, has been considered the traditional entertainment activities during the New Year. Li Mao’s father is usually addicted to WeChat red envelope, New Year’s Eve and the holidays even more, but also added a few red envelope group, from New Year’s Eve to the fifth day he left home, all day and night, in addition to eating, sleeping, is to stare at WeChat red envelope.
And the strongest presence in the circle of friends and family groups of the elderly, old classmates or colleague groups, so that they are happy to forward, and all kinds of marketing number of the title party masterpiece, including public articles and earthy video.
Li Mao summarized, mothers like to forward spot removal, skin care, health tips, Marriage, filial piety theme of chicken soup article, fathers like to engage in creative (production of family albums), keen to participate in the latest hot discussions, some articles and video titles exaggerated frightening, such as “Zhong Nanshan again issued a message, hurry up! Look”, “Extraordinary notice, Spring Festival holiday has changed “”Burning fireworks eliminates viruses in aerosols” “The state is paying out again in 2021! Forward it out”, some videos even use pornographic photos as cover to attract traffic.
The retirement or leisure time of the new generation of older people has been accustomed to devote a lot of feelings and energy to the virtual network, and the king of acquaintance social APP WeChat is the most universal carrier. In the context of the epidemic in 2020, part of their original interpersonal network was cut off for a short time, so they moved to WeChat as well. At the same time, those content producers who seize human weaknesses and take advantage of the elderly’s poor discernment of network information, amplify this sense of virtual participation, so that the elderly mistakenly believe that “this is announced by WeChat, will not be false “, the elderly “bring bias”, “bring addiction”. The content producers amplify this sense of virtual participation, making the elderly believe that “this is published by WeChat, it’s not fake”, leading them to be “biased” and “addicted.
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Killing time: planting trees, K songs, small games
Socialization, access to information, the biggest demand of the elderly is to spend time, deep burning found that their main way is planting trees, K songs, reading novels, playing games these kinds of, the cost is invisible consumption of contacts.
Searching for “orchard” on Weibo, you can see that many young people are brought into the virtual orchards of Meituan and Jindo by their elders and are reminded every day to The “watering and planting of trees”. Tang Le is one of them, he has to help his mother to complete the watering task in the morning when he opens his eyes, forgetting that he will be reminded or even criticized by the small window.
“Poundland is really an ant forest for the elderly. “Tang Le wrote this in his circle of friends in the early morning, that time, his mother is still researching the farm and orchard need to be watered a few more times. The family has received free apples, melons, pears, etc., the mother has been named “orchard planting model” by Poundland, which is her daily alarm clock fertilization and watering, take the dad’s The company has been awarded the “orchard planting model” by Poundland, which is the result of her setting an alarm clock every day to water the orchard, taking her dad’s phone to click on the link to help, and inviting bombing in various family groups and old friends groups.
“Dad is also addicted to Poundland, but it is cash withdrawals. “Tang Le recalled that the most exaggerated one time, he drew more than 400 red packets on Poundland, the rules are full of 500 yuan cash, in order to get enough of this 500 yuan, did not sleep a night, every hour to receive a red packet, and constantly invite new people, and finally did not set. “He has High blood pressure, really worried about his body. “
Xiaonian’s mother, on the other hand, has been addicted to National K Song for more than a year, at first, calling on all the family members to play so that they could send her flowers and comments, and later joined the family, allowing Xiaonian to buy a microphone, and the bathroom at home became a recording studio. Xiaonian’s father teased that the headphones do not leave the ear, a song a night cycle more than twenty times is not a problem, not sing to S level will not stop. Some time ago, she also joined a special K-song exchange group, every day like work attendance, I sent you how many flowers, hundreds of comments, you also have to send me back.
According to Xiaonian’s observation, her mother spent at least four hours every day to count how many positive comments others sent her and how many tasks she did. She had a special record book and often recited, who sent less again, and naturally assigned likes, reviews, and flower delivery tasks to her family. Later she understood that what her mother and her friends were addicted to was not the singing, but the likes, plays and rankings.
There are a few young people with similar problems. On Zhihu, the topic “How to subtly make mom quit Karaoke” has been viewed nearly 120,000 times. More than one netizen said his parents could not devote 24 hours a day into it, and even because of singing songs to produce family conflicts. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re doing.
The rest are all kinds of “time-killing” mini-games, such as using virtual steps The other thing is that there are various kinds of “time-killing” games, such as using virtual steps to “exchange money”, using points from playing games for rice and oil, watching the news and even making money by sleeping. The crazy old people must sign in every day, pulling heads, all the rewards received to complete the task of the day.
Wu asked at first was afraid that his parents were left behind by the times, and gave them the latest smartphone, “Now it is good, my father is a ‘lie earn’ APP are not left behind”. After the investigation of the “walking can make money” APP, he first sent the news to his father, but his father said he had a bottom line, never spend a penny, originally by The actual game and walking to make money, even if one day can not withdraw cash is not a loss, and then ran to a new crop of “lying earn” APP.
The kernel of this kind of small game and the past steal vegetables, young people’s ant forest, the elderly virtual orchard has “the same thing”, are used The “flower planting effect” increases user stickiness and interactivity, attracting older users to give up their time in exchange for a little sweetness, generally based on physical rewards. In Xiaonian’s opinion, the reason why many elderly people “can’t stop” is that to some extent the platform mechanism satisfies their vanity and expands their This is the immediate need of the elderly nowadays.
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Helping parents to quit internet addiction plagues young people
Do you remember the aunt who was cheated in the fake Jin Dong incident? She had pinned her hopes and feelings on the “Jin Dong” in the short video, but when everyone told her that it was all a fake, I’m sure her low self-esteem and despair were hard for outsiders to understand. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are doing.
A small addiction is good for the soul, but a big addiction hurts the body. On the surface, the elderly play with cell phones is a pastime, and even a “rebirth”, but once addicted to addiction, a long time to brush the phone brought about by the physical hazards, network The dark side of the information on the elderly spiritual “poison” needs to be paid attention to. In some social media platforms where young people have the right to speak, you can already see a lot of questions like “What should I do if my parents are addicted to mobile phones/short videos/internet novels/karaoke? Most people’s feedback is that they “can’t stop” and “can’t say The majority of people’s feedback is “can’t stop” “can’t get through”.
Youning encountered this problem when she found that some short video apps have already started to popularize some ideas that are not necessarily correct but are enough to “brainwash” the elderly. For example, mothers love to watch the “women should be better for themselves”, the unisex “It’s better to rely on your children than on yourself”, “Nowadays, children are all old people ……
When you think that the short video platform is only entertainment, filled with more and more values output, coupled with the platform’s algorithmic recommendation mechanism to push the wave, so that older people are convinced of the frequent concepts, but unprecedentedly increased the conflict between the two generations of ideas. A number of young people have given feedback to Deep Fire that the “preaching” approach is likely to backfire. Tang Le described, “Just like when they didn’t let me go to the Internet cafe, I didn’t listen to them, and now they are rebellious.
On one side is the brainwashing information of the ear, on the other side is the child’s “preaching”, Youning’s mother instead began to talk to her about filial piety. “There is really a sense of kidnapping,” Youning lamented, and she even thought of secretly picking up her mother’s phone and long-pressing when she saw such videos. “Not interested” until it no longer appears.
Xiaonian began to reflect on the way to persuade her parents, she recalled that every time she persuaded them not to brush the video, either holding the phone or knocking on the computer. When she went home this Spring Festival, she specially prepared interesting stories from her work to tell her mother, many of which they couldn’t understand, but had a great time talking. “Mom will still Karaoke, but really much less. “
In the short term, Wu asked can think of is to give Dad’s phone to cancel the traffic package, only at home with WiFi, so you do not have to worry about him going out to look at the phone does not look at the road, but also “fear “A new round of family conflicts erupted. “A feasible way may be to invest in parents to develop new interests, such as learning to paint, yoga, ice skating. “
Since preaching is useless, Tang Le is clearly with Mom and Dad about the law – crossing the road and other dangerous scenes absolutely can not play with the phone. For dad like to glean the habit, he is ready to send more red packets to dad. “Parents of this generation are still quite obsessed with money, I hope to tell them that this money is nothing, and I sincerely hope they enjoy their old age without being controlled by cell phones. “
As a son or daughter, many interviewees said that their parents’ “Internet addiction”, and their own “The elderly need to contact distant children and grandchildren and relatives and friends through online social networking to enrich their online lives, and the producers of APPs naturally follow the trend. The app producers naturally follow the trend.
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