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Recently, former Nandu reporter Ma Jin Yu’s autobiography “The Other “Ram”” has been all over the internet.
In 2012, this 14-year journalist and Asian Journalism Award-winning media veteran met a local beekeeper, Zhaxi (also known as Xie Decheng), in the Tibetan region of Qinghai because of an interview.
After 47 days of knowing each other, they got married in a flash. Ma Jin Yu married far away for love to GuiDe County, Qinghai – a closed county in the west with an altitude of 2200 meters.
After that, she had children with her love at first sight, and also used e-commerce to find sales for local ecological ingredients and make a living for the Tibetan women workers there.
This idyllic love story away from the hustle and bustle was once on CCTV, Qinghai Daily, and countless self-published media.
But judging from Ma Jin Yu’s complaint today, her grassland love story broke.
Within two years of her Marriage, the ideological divide between the two became increasingly apparent. She suffered severe domestic violence, as well as her husband’s cheating.
Ma Jingyu was slapped by Zhaxi nose and face, beaten to urinary incontinence; pregnant with a third child was kicked on the stomach, bleeding; both eyes were almost blind, fractured eyebrows ……
According to Ma Jin Yu’s complaint, Zhaxi’s behavior has been suspected of breaking the law or even committing a crime, and the Qinghai police have now intervened to investigate.
The morning of February 7, Zhaxi responded to the matter, saying that the domestic violence and cheating mentioned in the article are not things that Ma Jin Yu is using him to speculate. She is very strong at Home and overrides him.
Every news story is flipped three times. Especially with serious allegations like this, it would be unusual for the two not to argue their own case.
We can refer to a piece of circumstantial evidence whether there was domestic violence or not.
The Writer Hong Feng, who posted an article on Weibo last year about Ma Jin Yu’s domestic violence, sent out another Weibo post on February 8 at three o’clock to reconfirm the story.
He testified that Ma Jin Yu did call his wife for help a few years ago, saying that she had been beaten by her husband.
Later, Ma Jin Yu, who came to their Yunnan home, had a face full of bruises, one eye swollen and one hand wrapped in gauze. She had indeed been beaten, and it looked like it was pretty bad.
Please note.
Ma Jin Yu was not hype at the Time, just crying and asking for help from her friends.
Also.
If it is true that Ma Jin Yu is very strong at home and overrides him, as Zazi claims, then why did she give up the business and take her three children away to raise them on her own?
There is one more point worth examining about the cheating.
In her confession, Ma Jin Yu said: On New Year’s Day 2017, she broke into a room with a Tibetan female university student to cheat on him. The college student had also previously worked at her online store.
She asked the girl what she was going to do if she got pregnant.
She said, I’ll give birth.
In an interview, Zhaxi gave an explanation for the affair.
I want to know what brand of beer this is, can make a man and a woman to drink until dawn, and nothing happens.
This is not a beer, this is simply a magical holy water ah.
However, the victim is not the same as no fault. Ma Jin Yu must reflect.
In March 2017, she also encouraged college students in a speech to be brave and pursue love.
You must believe in love, do not be afraid to take risks, even if the next second is a cliff, do not be afraid, jump!
Today we look back, she had been beaten for a few years then, beaten incontinent not to mention that Zhaxi also early with the Tibetan female college students drank beer all night until dawn.
She continues to weave her fairy tale of love.
When personal livelihood and this fairy tale into one, you have to use the lie to fulfill the dream, and is a lie after another.
In this way, wrong becomes evil.
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Ma Jin Yu reluctantly gave up her city Life and her job as a journalist, which brought her numerous honors, to marry Zhaxi and settle down in a northwest, obviously unable to get rid of a literary young woman’s special affection for the West.
In 2016, Ma Jingyu spoke about the experience the plateau brought to her mind when she was interviewed by Qinghai Daily.
When she visited Yushu after the earthquake, she was immediately struck by the traditional Culture and ancient customs that still existed there.
Shepherds chanting to ewes about to give birth, holding sick ewes under the snowy mountains to pray for blessings, and old Tibetan mothers shedding tears as they bid farewell to a sheep. There are also people who keep saying sorry to the bees because people rob them of their rations ……
People’s reverence and devotion to nature and life planted seeds in Ma Jin Yu’s heart.
It was not until two years later that she met Zhaxi in Qinghai and took root.
However, the closed Tibetan area and the reality of the cut-off feeling are difficult to bridge.
In 2015, one of Ma Jin Yu’s editors from her days at Southern People Weekly wrote an article after she left her job, recording Ma Jin Yu’s oral account of her true feelings when she first got married.
When she first married Zhaxi, Ma Jin Yu caused quite a stir in the area.
The whole county knew her, saying she was a “rich woman” from the big city, saying she was crazy.
At that time, Ma Jin Yu had not yet left her job, and had a high salary that the locals envied. The locals could only earn two or three thousand yuan a year for farming, but she could earn seven or eight thousand or even ten thousand yuan a month.
Before her, many girls who married here ran away because the local living conditions were too poor.
She did not know that the living conditions are too poor, maybe just a kind of consignment word that everyone can accept.
After leaving her job, Ma Jin Yu focused on helping her husband brew honey, collect peppers and pull yellow mushrooms. She also sells some local specialties online, so that local people can make money together.
But the most important part of e-commerce, logistics, has encountered great resistance in the small, closed town.
Whenever someone places an order online, Ma Jinyu rushes to pack and ship, the locals find it ridiculous.
Why so anxious? Do they have nothing to eat?
She bought a pair of pants online, the package arrived in the mail, the courier delayed delivery to her. She called and the man was very surprised and asked her.
Are you out of pants?
She was speechless.
The second time she called, the man said: “It’s 3:00 p.m., I’m off duty. When I asked him again, he lived less than two hundred meters from her house.
She was helping the locals sell their produce, and few people took her up on it.
Other people come to her when their families need money urgently, and they think she is a rich woman, so they can definitely come up with the money first. She explained that my savings were also at the bottom, but people did not believe her.
What’s worse, in a male-dominated society, women have become subordinates.
After a little success in e-commerce, some villagers have been displeased, said to Zhaxi.
We are here, knocked down daughter-in-law, kneading down the noodles!
Your daughter-in-law to control the money, what kind of man you are? A woman’s Family can not manage, not to rule? This what e-commerce business, you a man can not do? You have to let a woman ride on your head?
Feeling pressed head of Zhaxi began to ask for the password of the online store with Ma Jin Yu frequently, hitting harder and harder.
Everything, with the original imagination of the pure, simple, sacred inviolable far away.
Ma Jin Yu still remember the scene when he first met Zhaxi.
During the visit, there was a beehive with a dying queen, and the night in Qinghai was particularly cold, so Zhaxi held the queen in his hands and kept breathing on it, although the bee died in the end.
His heart was as clean as the spring water in the mountains.
Now it seems that this touching detail is extraordinarily ironic.
The man who was so affectionate even to a bee, beat her until she was incontinent.
In his eyes, her life is not even worth the value of a bee.
Some people now say that young women like Ma Jin Yu are poisoned by San Mao, but San Mao never glorified those barren and ignorant places, let alone said that they have a spring-like heart.
It is true that in Sanso’s writing, she explores with innocence and curiosity, and the endless Sahara is full of life.
But the shock of her soul was then washed away by the brutal savagery of the desert depths, and she felt sick with depression and heartbroken by backwardness and ignorance.
Such a scene is exposed in her 2011 book “Tales of the Sahara”.
Jose and Mitsuru.
Gouka, a young girl on the Western Sahara desert, is forced to marry at the age of ten. According to the custom of the Shahrawi (the inhabitants of the desert), the bride price is a large amount of income for the Parents when they marry their daughter.
They converted the young girl’s equivalent into things like sheep, camels, cloth, slaves, flour, etc. And Gurkha got 200,000 Western currency (about 30,000+ RMB) in exchange.
After hearing about this, Sanno blurted out.
This is like human trafficking!
The more shocking part is the ancient and primitive wedding custom in the desert.
All the men invited to the wedding smoked indoors, making a pandemonium. An old local woman shakes her body like a primitive man, whistling under her breath and beating a drum.
Ten-year-old Gurkha was dragged vigorously into the jeep by the bridal party by the arm, scratching her husband’s face with blood marks as she struggled and cried, and then having her fingers twisted with her backhand.
Until they entered the bridal chamber, harsh screams continued to emanate from the room.
After violently taking the young girl’s first night, the groom carried the bloodstained white cloth out of the house with a smug look on his face and flirted with his friends and family to show off.
Sanso looked on in anger and distress, even to the point of tears. She wrote.
Everyone outside the bridal chamber, including myself, was an asshole.
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Like Mitsuru, before experiencing barbarism, many intellectuals and young people generally have a moral indebtedness to the poor, believing that poverty is simple, kind and morally superior.
The typical representative is Tolstoy.
Russia in the nineteenth century can be summed up in two words.
Poor and cow.
Poor to the extent that the peasants could not afford to eat, to see a doctor, to wear bark shoes. But such a land produced a number of literary giants such as Tolstoy, Chekhov and Gorky.
There are often many dramatic conflicts between people of vastly different class status, but a literary giant like Tolstoy, for the disadvantaged, had the following attitude.
What evil can the poor have in mind?
In Tolstoy’s literary works, simple, kind, hard-working and capable peasants, full of human light, abound.
For example, the peasant family in “Three Diaries from the Countryside”.
The wife, daughter-in-law, the girl and the oldest child are all crammed into a room seven or eight feet square. But they also received a hungry, cold, ragged, dirty, smelly man, and not only let him spend the night, but also gave him bread to eat.
The peasant Platon in “War and Peace”, for example, is portrayed as a loving and holy father.
He loves all the people in front of him and is in love with them all.
He unilaterally declares that his poor peasant friends are the embodiment of love, and the light of humanity shines on the earth.
But the truth is that Count Tolstoy was educated from childhood in a typical aristocratic way. He promoted plebeianism, but had no deeper interaction with the countryside at all, and would never become a real peasant in the fields himself.
His closest contact with the land was the management of his own fields, the kind that he did not yet have to do himself.
And, after his marriage, he soon stopped obsessing about the land and went back to his study to continue his literary work.
At that time, singing praises to the poor even formed a literary trend.
Dostoevsky believed that the peasants were the guides of the dark society.
It is not at all for us to educate them, but for us to bow to them and ask for advice.
Chekhov was also a proponent of this theory at first, but later came to his senses after being beaten by society.
At the end of the 19th century, the Great Cholera broke out in Russia. Chekhov stopped writing, bought land in the countryside, and took up his old job as a doctor, dealing with the people of the lower classes every day.
He found out that he was full of love, simplicity and kindness, and could not save people. Still have to rely on medical science and technology to save people’s lives.
Most importantly, he saw through it, some poor people are really not like that.
His subsequent works became tasteless. In “The Peasant” of 1897, one can find no trace of Platon or Taras, but rather a savage and rude image of the underclass.
The old woman in the countryside curses her granddaughter Sasha as a damned scourge, picks up a dead branch, extends her dry, thick, hard, hook-like fingers and grabs Sasha by the neck and starts to beat her.
This made Tolstoy furious and cursed him.
This is a crime against the people!
The storyline, which he actually saw with his own eyes, took place in 1891 in a rural village in Ukraine.
A small, thin woman is put in front of a wagon and pulled side by side with a horse for cheating on her. The man sat behind the cart and whipped the woman and the horse so viciously that the woman screamed and wailed and was bruised and swollen. Onlookers are cheering and applauding.
I once heard some other rumors.
In Nepal, one of the most popular places for backpacking pilgrims, some local men seem to have nothing to do but gather in the square, but will focus on some single female tourists, in the name of ground escort to follow them, and sometimes invite them to dinner.
And then, with their exotic faces, simple persona and teasing skills, they launch a love attack on the young women.
The ultimate goal is to bind them through marriage, so as to get rid of poverty in Nepal, or like investment, to coax them to finance their own stores in the region.
So, don’t think that the poor are naturally 100% noble.
You run to the holy land in spite of everything, may be the abyss.
Previously, a teenager in the west burst into the limelight, and not a few teenage netizens cried out and said.
This eye is not polluted by the real questions.
Now we know, that is not something to envy.
Some places, the country needs to help the poor for years and years, in order to have so little slow progress.
Look at it, really want to be righteous to chase over, marry over, then you wait for a not polluted by the flush toilet ass it.
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