January 14, Nanjing Pukou District, a side of the museum boy suddenly fire. The video of him being tethered to a table leg by a rope, was posted online by netizens, and in just two days, the comment volume exceeded 30,000. In the two ends of the rope netizens see: one end is the “workers” helpless, one end is the child’s longing for childhood.
Overnight fire: the boy chained to the table
The white boy in the video looks only two or three years old, with big, clear eyes, wearing a thick cotton coat and smiling at the camera. In his hand is tied to a long rope, the other end of the rope tied to the corner of the table. Modern Express reporter noticed that the video tethered in the hands of the boy’s long white rope, but also due to long-term and ground friction and gray. “See this scene in the noodle shop, instantly quite heartbreaking, the body of the rope tethered to life and helplessness. “At the bottom of the video, the video publisher will write down their feelings.
“There is really no way, in order to live, the child messed up the family’s hope is gone. “
“The rope is tethered to the love of parents. One end is the hardships of parental life, one end is the child’s longed-for childhood. “
“Life has too much helplessness, heartache. “
“Children, do not hate Mom and Dad, from the first day of your birth, you are their joy, happiness and hope, you are in front of their eyes, Mom and Dad to work solidly. For the sake of safety, condemned to your childhood, grow up you will understand. “
In the comments section, netizens in the heart of the child at the same time, but also on the difficulties of being a parent empathy.
The morning of January 15, Modern Express reporter contacted the video publisher Mr. Chen. Mr. Chen told reporters that the video was taken inadvertently when he was eating noodles in a noodle shop two nights ago. “At that time there were quite a lot of people eating, I was queuing to order, just saw a child in the bar, the arm was tied by a rope. At the time, I felt particularly bitter and rare, so I took a picture of him and passed it on the Internet. “
△ netizen comments
For the video of the overnight fire, Mr. Chen is also very surprised. “I’m a post-80s, I think being tethered to a rope is our generation will have the experience, I did not expect to be around now. “Mr. Chen said, as he just recently came to work on this side of Pukou, eating in the noodle shop is also the last two days. “Netizens are very concerned about his situation, and asked me if I need to donate. The last few days I also go to see him when I have time, and also bought him toys. The child is very cute and likes to play with me. “
The helplessness of life: tethered to the rope is the love of parents
January 15 noon, the reporter saw the video of the little boy Junjun (a pseudonym) in the noodle shop in Pukou District, he was sitting on a stool playing with toys, his arm is still tethered to the video of the small white rope. Junjun’s grandmother Ma aunt told reporters that Junjun is more than 2 years old, is active and active age, to the grandson tethered rope is also no way things. “Usually his parents and I are busy in the store, no one has time to take care of him, so tethered to us to be more at ease. “The reporter learned that from the time Jun Jun was more than 1 year old can walk, began to use the rope to him tethered, and now has nearly a year.
Auntie Ma took the reporter to look at the store door, said, “out is the road, opposite is the construction site, the store customers in and out. In case one did not watch, he pushed the door to run out how to do? It’s too unsafe. The mother of Junjun also told reporters, don’t look at the rope tied Junjun so honest, once the rope can be loosened can not control, only want to run outside the store, “let him To run outside is too unsafe, or let him stay in the store, in front of our eyes to be more at ease. “
Auntie Ma’s family, food and housing are in the store. Downstairs is the noodle shop, upstairs is where the family lives. In addition to noon will go upstairs for an hour or two lunch break, Junjun stay in the daytime behind the cashier’s small table and chairs near.
Three years ago, Junjun’s parents and grandparents came from their hometown in Qinghai to Nanjing to open the store. In the first two years, business was not very good. About a year ago, the construction site opposite the store started, and the business of the ramen shop started to boom. Junjun’s mother told the reporter: “Recently, there are a lot of workers who come to eat at meal times. Except for the Chinese New Year, we do not rest every day, we have to get up at six o’clock every morning to prepare, and we are busy until 10 o’clock at night before closing. “After the end of the day’s business, the couple also have to hurry to help Junjun wash, put him to bed, “to finish his busy to really rest. “
Although Junjun’s range of motion is limited, his parents’ care for him has not diminished: toys and fruit on the table; a TV hanging on the wall opposite the chair, with cartoons playing on it; parents and grandmother always teasing him or stroking his head when they come in and out.
“We saw the comments on the Internet and thanked everyone for their concern, but some of them made my grandson look too pathetic. It’s better to take him with us and take care of him than to leave him at home. Now he is used to it and will take the initiative to hand me the rope and let me tether him. “Auntie Ma said.
The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public. When the Spring Festival break, our family and then take him to play in Nanjing. “
Expert analysis: tethered body also “tethered away” a sense of security
The former director of the Nanjing Psychological Crisis Intervention Center, psychologist Zhang Chun believes that children have their own growth process, the growth process requires a sense of security, intimacy and a sense of belonging. The parents’ helplessness is understandable, but the act of tethering is not conducive to the child’s psychological development. “The child will be tethered to ensure the safety of the child, but also to limit the child’s walking range, and leave them a strong psychological implication: the outside world is not safe. “Zhang Chun told reporters that children before the age of six or seven, the left brain is not fully developed, the memory function of the right brain will allow the child to form a memory of the status quo, thus forming a strong sense of insecurity, uncertainty and distrust of the outside world. This lack of security will also cause hindrance to the child’s future interpersonal interactions.
In addition, doctors also reminded, curtain cord, telephone lines, computer wiring, rope, etc. are common safety hazards in the home, once wrapped around the child’s neck, there is a risk of suffocation. Parents should pay more attention when taking care of their children in general.
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